The best parenting advice. Ever.

“I say always listen to your beeps.”—Rebecca Wells

Along with potty training and socialization, most parents want to give their children some kind of spiritual training, some kind of guidance into the higher dimensions.

Sadly, the most popular spiritual training involves a list of rules and no-no’s, a set of 10 commandments and a lot of reining in of natural impulses. Not to mention forcing them to get up early the one day they hope to sleep in.

Here’s what I suggest instead:

Make it clear to your children that the very best way to connect with their spiritual nature is to follow their joy. Those impulses of bliss and joy are God communicating. Any child (even grown-up children like myself) who follow that path will know God (or what I call the field of potentiality) in a very real way. There will never be any doubt about what to do next or which path to follow.

Because we’re taught just the opposite (you need to do this, you need to get good grades, you need to forget about running around and whooping like a wild banshee), most of us spend our lives wondering “What does God want from me?, “What am I supposed to do with my life?” It’s all there in living color.

If we only follow our “beeps.”

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the soon-to-be-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

3 life-altering lessons I learned from Dr. Wayne Dyer


“Have you lived 75 years? Or have you lived one year 75 times?”—Wayne Dyer

If you saw “American Hustle,” you know that Jennifer Lawrence’s character Rosalyn was reading and quoting from Wayne Dyer’s Power of Intention. Never mind that it didn’t actually come out until 2004, 20 some years AFTER the time period of the movie.

The part that WAS accurate is that Dr. Dyer was definitely writing books back then. He has been inspiring and uplifting us regular humanoids for a good four decades.

As I mentioned in E-Squared, I read his book, Your Erroneous Zones, back in college and have been a huge fan ever since.

Right now, I’m reading his latest, a memoir called I Can See Clearly Now. Even though I’m only halfway through, I’ve already picked up three important fileables for my stash of “things I want to remember.”

1. All of life is interconnected. In E-Cubed, I write a lot about synchronicity and how, once we open our minds, we notice that the universe is constantly conspiring in our favor. In 1959, when Wayne was hitchhiking home from a naval base in Maryland, 590 miles to his home in Detroit, he was dropped him off at a turnpike service area in the middle of Pennsylvania. It was 3 a.m., bitterly cold and another sailor, also hitchhiking, warned him not to stand outside too long. They were both bundled up beneath heavy coats and hats and once inside, Wayne realizes the other sailor is his brother Jim, hitchhiking home from Norfolk, Virginia. Coincidence? Or the workings of a universe who has his (and, of course, all of ours) back?

2. Your mind can heal your body. While stationed in Guam, Wayne developed a pilonidal cyst that caused a lot of soreness and swelling at the base of his spine. After witnessing the after-effects of other sailors’ surgeries, a sight that made him queasy, Wayne made an appointment with the head nurse and basically “lied,” telling her his cyst had disappeared. For the next several weeks, he took to heart a book he was reading called Psycho-Cybernetics. I love that Wayne is a reader like me and that he, too, has been greatly influenced by early authors. Written by Maxwell Maltz, a medical doctor, Psycho-Cybernetics touts the power of visualization. Wayne diligently practiced the principles and within four days, he healed himself. No more pilonidal cyst.

3.The universe works in mysterious and beneficent ways. While studying for his Ph.D, Wayne is given a book called The World of Psychology four hours before he’s scheduled to meet with his doctoral advisor. It was a thank you gift from a student’s mother who appreciated his talk at Mercy High School where he was a guidance counselor. When the book was presented, he’d already chosen a topic for his dissertation. But he felt a strong pull to immediately sit down and read one of the essays from that book. The essay, “Self-Actualizing People” by Abraham Maslow so rocked his world that he completely changed the topic of his dissertation–just hours before he was meant to commit. Needless to say, that serendipitous reading changed not only Wayne’s life, but the lives of the millions of us who have been inspired by his teaching ever since.

As he says in the book, “The laborers of fate were working overtime that September day in 1978. I had given that talk to the parents because the school principal was sick and asked me to fill in at the last minute. Had that not occurred, had the book not been given, had I not felt a strong compulsion to read that essay at that very moment, my entire life might have looked very different. I can see clearly now that these kinds of almost desperate callings are the work of something bigger than myself, but to which I am passionately connected. I have come to trust in the messages and synchronistic collaborations with fate.”

So thank you, Dr. Dyer, for being brave enough to follow your calling and, in the process, to pull the rest of us along with you.

I am forever indebted.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the soon-to-be-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

It’s T.G.I.M. and I’ll blog if I want to


“Joy is in everything and anything we might experience. We just have to have the courage to turn against our habitual lifestyle and engage in unconventional living.’—Jon Krakauer

Okay, so I saw this picture. And it reminded me of me. Or at least the me that sometimes pouts, the me that sometimes forgets to look around and notice the freakin’ awesome “ball pit” of a universe I live in.

So I decided to throw a contest. I will send a free copy of the audio version of E-Squared to the person who sends me the happiest picture of themselves in a ball pit. Last I checked, these ball pits were available at most every McDonald’s Playland on the planet and last time I checked, most every adult on the planet needs an excuse to jump in and have fun.

What are you waiting for?

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the soon-to-be-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

It’s alive!! Whatever you put your attention on comes alive

“Let’s live, baby. Let’s feel alive at all times. Make this moment your reckoning. Your head has been held under water for too long and now it is time to rise up and take your first true breath.”― Brian Krans

Kids’ computer games have undoubtedly evolved since my daughter Taz played them on the giant desktop (compared to today’s laptops, that early Gateway is a veritable behemoth) in my office.

But back then, she had several games where, by pointing a cursor at an item in a scene, it would came alive. For example, if she clicked on a cupboard door, it would open, music would play and a duet of dancing mice would pirouette across the shelf. Or she’d click on a flowerpot and it would shimmy and shake until its beautiful red petals rained to the ground.

Life is a little like those old computer games. When you put your attention on something, it literally comes alive. If you put your cursor on all the opportunities and love in the scenes of your life, that reality comes alive. But if you continue to click on the monsters under the bed, they, too, are more than happy to put in an appearance. The thing is we’re the ones manning the dials. We’re the ones deciding where to point our cursors, where to send our attention.

Here’s something that drew my attention last week. I loved it and thought it was a good start to a weekend that better include dancing.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the soon-to-be-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Natural State.

Trust that the universe has your back: a guest post by Linda Ford

“Learning is slowed less by lack of intelligence than by a reluctance to let go of bankrupt ideas and exhausted ways of seeing.” –D. Patrick Miller

As you partygoers know, I’m all about community. And one of my most treasured communities is the tribe I’ve met through my books and here on this blog.

Today, I’m delighted to share a guest post from Linda Ford, master life coach and one of the many pals I’ve met here in cyberspace.

With no further adieu, here’s Linda:

Is Your Life about LOVE or FEAR?

When I first started dating my husband, I went through an uncomfortable phase of not really knowing whether he loved me as much as I loved him. I wanted so much to just relax in my love for him…to give in and let my affections be known. But I purposefully put the brakes on and held myself back out of fear that he didn’t care for me in the same way.

I’ve come to see that the act of falling in love is a perfect metaphor for the relationship we each have with that larger than life partner–the universe. The dynamics are exactly the same. And wouldn’t you know, there are just as many variations of how that relationship gets played out.

Some of us show up with high expectations knowing that the universe has the potential to be one great partner. We dive right in. We’re optimistic, unabashed, playful, trusting, and eager to do whatever it takes to keep our relationship vibrant. We take the risk because we know that the price of missing out on the possibility of joy would be too great a loss.

And then there are those of us who just never quite relax, let go, and trust that the universe really loves us and has our back. We hold the relationship at arm’s length…just in case something goes wrong…just in case it’s not as benevolent and honorable as we had hoped. We dilute our true feelings, we don’t ask for what we really want, and instead, play it safe. We put on our armor, because the fear of disappointment is too much to bear.

How would you describe your relationship with the universe?

You may think it odd to know that you have a relationship with the universe. But you do. In fact, it’s actually one of the most important relationships you’ll ever have. Think about it. You’re interacting with it at every single moment. You’re getting constant feedback about how you’re showing up. It never ignores or neglects you. And best of all…what the universe is capable of giving you in return for your love, supersedes any relationship you will ever have with a mere mortal.

It all sounds so wonderful in theory. The question is: do you really believe this relationship exists? And if so, are you showing up with an enthusiasm to really LOVE, or are you holding yourself back due to fear and doubt?

I know what it feels like to have an open and trusting relationship—I have one now with my husband. And so, I’ve noticed that my relationship with the universe doesn’t always match up to that high standard—in fact, it sometimes feels a little off.
How do I know this? I sometimes feel scared and suspicious that it’s going to bite back and disappoint me…make me feel sad…..use me…or worst of all…ignore me if I tell it what I really want. I get scared that if I raise my expectations…if I dream BIG….I may end up getting trampled on and dumped. And like any insecure lover, I end up feeling suspicious, fearful, manipulative, controlling, and joyless. A very unattractive partner.

Albert Einstein said that there is only one question worth asking; the answer to which determines your entire outlook on life and affects everything that you desire for yourself.

Do you believe the Universe is friendly or unfriendly?

I’ve personally spent too many years fearing the universe. And who wouldn’t? It’s BIG and POWERFUL. And there’s so much that could go wrong. But in all fairness, there is also so much that could go right….right? Which is why I’ve decided that I’d rather be in love than be in fear. I may not have always gotten everything I’ve wanted…and I’ve had my heart broken a few times…but, that’s just the way life goes. Ultimately, I’ve accepted that we’re here to have experiences.

Developing an intimate and loving relationship with someone requires that we get to know them and they get to know us. And in order to do that we have to risk getting close, being authentic, and taking a risk to be vulnerable. It’s no different with the universe. It wants to get close you…it wants to know you….love you…and give you want you want. It wants to see YOUR LOVE. But it will never happen if it can’t get near you.
What would it take for you to start telling the story that the universe is truly friendly? What stories would you have to let go in order to let down your guard…to trust…to show up in life with enthusiasm…to raise your expectations…to believe that the universe truly has your back?

Why not risk it, and see what happens.

Linda Ford is a Master certified coach and LOA expert. She teaches women how to break out of a lifestyle that’s blocking their success and the unleashing of their full potential. Linda has been personally trained by Dr. Martha Beck, NY Times best-selling author. Her website is: http://www.attractalife.com

“If it’s not fun, you’re not doing it right.” –Bob Basso

“I realize humor isn’t for everyone. Just for those who want to have fun, enjoy life and feel alive.”—Anne Wilson Schaef

My daughter is home for spring break which means I’ve got lattes to drink, movies to see, new restaurants to try. So just two quick questions to start the week:

1. Are you consciously creating your life or simply responding with worn-out, knee-jerk reactions?

2. What grander, more glorious version of yourself is wanting to emerge?

Have a great week!! And remember that the better you feel, the more fun you have, the more blessings and miracles “the Dude” will send splashing your way.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the soon-to-be-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Natural State.

The 5 Top Perks of Brazen Gratitude


“Thank you is the best prayer anyone could ever say.”—Alice Walker

I just finished a story called “Training to Be Superman” for Men’s Journal. It includes six other-the-top endurance competitions for earning your cape. It was fun to write, sorta tongue-in-cheek, but it got me to thinking that of all the superpowers, gratitude is my superpower of choice. And it comes with all kinds of perks. Here are my top five:

1. Gratitude is like a seed. It starts small, but it grows whatever you’re noticing into a super-size reality. Lettuce seeds are tiny, but they grow into these big green, nourishing leaves. By noticing even one tiny thing you like about an unpleasant situation, you can grow it into a giant green leaf of love.

2. Gratitude improves family relationships. Being happy is contagious and quickly spreads to your inner circle.

3. Gratitude brings you back to ultimate reality. It’s pretty easy to veer off track, to think “life sucks and then you die.” But when you stop for a moment and write a list of things you’re grateful for, you suddenly remember. “Oh, yea! Life is truly sweet.” As Adyashanti reminds us, “Reality is life without our distorting stories, ideas, and beliefs.” And when we’re grateful, those stories, ideas and beliefs don’t stand a chance.

4. Gratitude makes you happy. It makes you want to dance which, for those hoping to lose weight, is a pretty good technique.

5. Gratitude is the perfect superpower for any weekend. And since today is T.G.I.F. (I also celebrate T.G.I.M, T.G.I.T., T.G.I.W.,T.G.I.TH, T.G.I.S. and T.G.I.SU.), keep in mind that gratitude is even more potent than a cocktail. Make this weekend the best one of your life.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the soon-to-be-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Natural State.

“Evade every influence that keeps you frozen in the past. ” ― Rob Brezsny

“Our inner fire bursts into flame by an encounter with another human.”—Albert Schweitzer


In E-Cubed, the book I just turned in, the follow-up book to E-Squared, the book that comes out, I’m told, on September 16, I talk a lot about the importance of community.

As far as I’m concerned, there is no substitute for getting together with fellow compadres who are walking the path of enlightenment, who are interested in energy and miracles.

Neuroscientists have discovered that humans reverberate to the actions and emotions of people around them. This unspoken, but ongoing communication is why someone yawning can make you yawn even if you slept 10 hours the night before. It’s why bouncing around in Zumba with a group or applauding with a concert audience makes us feel so happy.

This resonance is why I’m part of two power posses here in my hometown. We get together weekly (one is twice a month) to talk about quantum physics, spirituality and the idea that consciousness creates the foundation of our lives. We encourage each other, celebrate with each other and challenge each other’s personal perceptions.

I walk out of those groups….no, I should say I dance out of those groups buzzing with joy and love and creative ideas. Which creates even more joy and love and makes me wonder. Why doesn’t everyone do this?

Just like the ability to run a four-minute mile was considered ridiculous nonsense until Roger Bannister finally did it on May 6, 1954 (and has been done many times since), it’s ridiculous nonsense to believers of old school conditioning that they have any say in creating miracles.

Which is why I love the positive outliers in my posses. When I hear stories from my friends who have “gone beyond” what was previously considered possible, I “get” for myself what’s possible for me. I’m suddenly able to run four-minute miles myself.

Annola Charity, who you may remember from this very blog, is a treasured member of both my power posses. You may not know her name now, but, mark my word, you will. This woman is a powerhouse. She’s an author, a beautiful seamstress, a singer—well, there’s not much she can’t do.

So, in honor of four-minute miles and power posses, I’d like to share two stories from my dear friend Annola.

The first, took place several years ago. She was visiting a small Kansas town with her boyfriend. She’s African-American, he’s white and the local yokels weren’t sure what to think of this unusual combination. They didn’t exactly tell them to leave, but they made it clear they weren’t happy with their presence.

Annola told her guy, “Don’t worry. I can fix this.”

So she got very clear in her mind, began focusing on love, on Truth, on the unshakeable fact that we all really love each other. And before long, the “haters” dropped away, the judgers disappeared and everyone in the little town became this biracial couple’s best friends.

The other story, also from Annola, is about the multi-dimensional reality of the quantum field. (Which, hint, hint is what my next blog post is about) In the Field of Infinite Potentiality (the F.P., as I like to call it), we exist in countless dimensions, but because we’re focused on this one material dimension, we miss a lot of blessings, miracles, signs and possibilities.

A few months ago, Annola sold one of her extra bread pans at a garage sale. It was longer than most and she had plenty so she decided to let it go. Last week, she was making a particular recipe and thought to herself, “Hmm, too bad. I sold that pan. It would work perfectly for this recipe.” She opened the cabinet and there, nested in the frying pan she uses on a near-daily basis, was the extra-long bread pan that she’d sold but needed to draw back into her life.

That’s how it works, folks. Or at least that’s a four-minute mile I choose to now run. In the comments section below, tell us about a “four-minute mile” that you’ve run and would like to encourage the rest of us is possible. Together, guys, we can turn this world around.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the forthcoming E-Cubed: 9 More Energy Experiments that Prove Mirth, Merriment and Miracle-making is Your Natural State.

3 insanely easy tools for making your dreams come true

“Our ability to shape energy is like breathing. We do it all the time without even realizing it.”—Damien Echols

Singer/activist/poet Michael Franti has a tattoo on his arm that says, “Today I pray for_________.”

Every morning, he gets out a sharpie and writes in his highest intention. Some days, he hands the sharpie to his partner Sara. Or he allows one of his fans, somebody who is going through a hard time to write in a request.

Either way, it’s a powerful reminder that every morning we get to decide how our day will go, what we want it to mean, how we will use our thoughts, our beliefs and our prayers.

Tool #2:

This insanely easy tool comes from Thomas Edison who, you gotta admit, accomplished more than most in his life. He says he never went to sleep without first making a request to his subconscious. Again, super easy and very powerful. You’re going to sleep anyway, so why not ask for answers.

Tool #3:

Be a permanent holiday-maker. Yesterday, I mentioned the perks of walking with childlike wonder. To a three-year-old, the world is endlessly interesting. There’s no such thing as a bad anything. Without judgment or critique, the world is free to accommodate our sizzling imagination.

Pam Grout is the author of 16 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.

Why I’m the luckiest person on the Planet, Edition 11 @MELondonHotel

Glide through life as if all of creation is yearning to honor and entertain you.’–Rob Brezsny

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If you’ve ever taken a walk with a three-year-old (and if you haven’t, put it on your bucket list now), you know they notice and appreciate everything. 

Look, a ladybug! Look, a pebble! Look, I can kick it down the street.

 

That’s how I feel right now. Like a three-year-old, in complete awe and wonderment at all that’s happening to me. I just got to spend the weekend at the Hay House Ignite conference with Mastin Kipp, Gabby Bernstein, Jessica Ortner (and her totally cool friend, Sarah), a handsome young monk from Scotland named Sandy C. Newbigging and lots of other young gurus that Hay House (and Oprah) call the next generation of spiritual leaders.

 

I got to dance to Pharrell Williams “Happy” with a whole bunch of people in Hamburg and London. And I’m actually getting paid to do this. Is life freakin’ awesome or what?

 

And if that wasn’t enough, I was just served breakfast in bed (a latte and a fruit smoothie) at the London ME, a five-story hotel in London’s theatre district that has become THE place to be during London fashion week. From the rooftop suite, you can see all of London’s icons: Big Ben, Buckingham Palace, The Pickle, the Shard, the London Eye, to name a few.

 

The staff at ME London is so good-looking that recruiters for Ford and Marilyn modeling agencies should rush here posthaste.  Last night before seeing a live performance of “The Full Monty” I drank exotic cocktails at Radio, their rooftop bar that generates hour-long lines to get in.  And it is rumored that today, my little group of travel journalists might get a sneak preview of the Banksy exhibit that’s opening here in a couple weeks.

 

So life is sweet, my dear friends! And I am so grateful that, like a three-year-old, I am still pointing and saying, “Look!!”

  

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared and the and the soon-to-be-released sequel, E-Cubed.