“It’s not what you don’t know that kills you, it’s what you know for sure that just ain’t true.”
If you’re a parent, your kids have undoubtedly accused you of T.M.I. It stands for “too much information.” That’s what I want to address today.
Over our lifetime, we receive T.M.I., most of which is T.M.F.I. (“too much false information.”) I’m talking about such accepted concepts as:
“Life is hard.”
“It takes a long time to accomplish anything of value.”
“Relationships are continuously challenging.”
These accepted bits of information are what British evolutionary biologist Richard Dawkins calls “memes.” In short, it’s a concept that explains how ideas, behaviors and styles spread from person to person within a culture. Like genes, they self-replicate, mutate and are capable of playing havoc with our lives.
Most of us are unaware of how big a role memes play in the way we experience life. They’re like the kitchen junk drawer that’s filled with a bunch of forgotten items: a dried up magic marker, rusty scissors, old birthday cards from people you don’t even remember and keys that probably used to open something although you’re not sure what.
For those of us interested in manifesting and creating our own reality, it’s important to clean out the junk drawer, to examine the memes that run our belief systems.
Here are a couple popular memes I have decided to abandon:
1. “It’s necessary to get 8 hours of sleep.”
Who came up with that figure? It certainly wasn’t Thomas Edison who liked to boast that he slept but three or four hours a night and that he sometimes worked for 72 hours straight. The Course in Miracles makes it very clear that the only thing that makes us tired is our thoughts. And, of course, our commitment to the meme that you MUST get eight hours of sleep.
That particular meme has been a boon for the pharmaceutical industry that has made a killing out of Ambien and other sleep drugs.
I prefer this meme: “I always get the right amount of sleep.”
2. “If you’re overweight, you should diet.”
Ahhhhh, right? Whoever generated that particular meme should be marched to the guillotine. Dieting only resets your metabolism lower. It should be obvious to all of us that diets DO NOT WORK!! Except for the diet industry that has made billions off that big, fat lie.
I prefer this meme: “I can eat whatever I want and maintain a perfect weight.”
3. “It’s imperative to work really hard if you want to make money.”
Riddle me this? Who works harder? The 8-hour a day factory worker or Donald Trump? Some of the poorest people I know slave away at minimum wage jobs, putting in more and more hours trying to get ahead.
My meme of choice regarding finances is this: “The more fun I have in my work, the more money I make.”
What are some of the memes that run your life?
Pam Grout is the author of E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.
“A child of God is a magnet for all things good.”
I’m more or less illiterate when it comes to anything electrical. I know what a plug looks like and I know how to attach it to a wall socket. Beyond that, I draw a blank.
But there’s a device used in electronics that provides a good metaphor for understanding why some intentions are so easy to manifest and why others seem darned near impossible.
The device is called a resistor and basically (All you electricians out there, please forgive my simplistic explanation) what it does is reduce the amount of electrical current flowing through a circuit. Resistors limit the number of electrons that can flow past a given point at any one time.
Our beliefs about ourselves and about the way the world works serve as resistors, blocking the flow of the world’s limitless abundance. Our beliefs are the brakes that stop the natural, always-flowing current of good.
Let me give you an example. Most people believe money is limited and hard to come by. That’s a resistor.
On the other hand, they don’t believe health or intelligence is limited. Just because I’m healthy doesn’t mean you can’t be healthy, too. Steven Hawking’s brilliant intellect doesn’t prevent Matt Groening or Steven Spielberg from using their brain power.
But when it comes to abundance, the belief there’s only so much to go around is a big, fat resistor, much better at blocking the flow than tungsten, carbon and other popular resistors.
The other family-size resistor is believing you know how to best accomplish a particular goal. Let’s take traveling, a popular intention for many. Most people I talk to believe the best way to become a world traveler is to get a job so they can accumulate enough money and vacation time to visit say, Cape Town or Monte Carlo or even Denver, Colorado.
I, on the other hand, had no expectations one way or another. I knew I had a burning desire to travel, but I had nary a clue how to make that happen. What I did have is the wherewithal to acknowledge I had no clue. It was abundantly clear to me that if I was going to jet around the world, my only option was to give it up to the universe.
I let it go completely, trusting the universe was a heck of a lot smarter and more abundant than me.
Instead of following the “accepted path” of slaving away and accumulating money and vacation time, I now travel for free. The universe led me into travel writing, an occupation I’m not even sure I knew existed when I first made the declaration that I wanted to be a world traveler.
Money? Who needs money?
In the world of electronics, resistors sometimes come in handy (they can create heat and light), but for me, who longs for a life of ease and grace, I prefer to keep the flow as wide open as I possibly can.
Pam Grout is the author of E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.
“Thank you for lifting this corner of the curtain so I can see the Truth, maybe for just a moment, but in a way that might change life forever.”
As anyone who has read my book, E-Squared, knows, I’m prone to looking for and acting on signs from the Big Guy. Recently, I’ve had two questions about the same issue so that tells me it’s time to address.
Here’s the question: “What if I make an intention and it doesn’t happen?”
First and foremost, DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP! Do not ask yourself, “What am I doing wrong?” Do not make the erroneous conclusion that the universe does not have your back.
In fact, the very best tact when you’re unable to find your intention is to say, “THANK YOU!!!” “Thank you for showing me that I still have..…oh, maybe just a tad bit of resistance.”
And then go out and do something really fun, something that makes you sing with joy. If you can’t think of even one thing that makes you smile, that’s a sure sign your channels of love and joy are not as open as they could be. Again, no biggie. Feel free to borrow one of the many things I do when I notice my channels are blocked with twigs of negativity and self-doubt:
** Dance around the house. Put on some lively music and go for it.
** Get a stack of dollar bills and go out and give them away. I know a guy who uses hundys, but I’m still more comfortable using ones.
** Sing a happy song as loud as you possibly can.
Your only job (and that word probably demonstrates part of the problem) is to go out and get happy. When you’re happy, life works. In fact, number one on my hit parade of intentions is something I borrowed from Yogi Bhajan: “To make myself so happy that others get happy just looking at me.”
When manifesting, you’ve undoubtedly heard that “How is not up to you.” These days, I’m not even so sure “What” is the best strategy. I prefer to focus on “Why?”
Why do I want money? So I can have an amazingly awesome time.
Why do I want to write books and blog posts? So I can use my God-given gifts.
Why do I want a meaningful, expanding relationship? So I can be a more loving person.
That’s what all of us really want—to have an amazingly awesome time, to use our gifts, to be loving human beans. And I’ve discovered that when I start “being” those things, the “whats” flow like a hawk in a tail wind.
The universe wants to give us every good thing. It is only our resistance that stops it from stampeding towards us like a herd of wild mustangs.
“Where is the joy in my life and what have I sacrificed it for?:
There are a grand total of two ways to do things.
Whether you’re looking for a job or having a conversation with your BFF, whether you’re making a smoothie or plans for a European vacation, you either do what you’re doing with the resources of Door Number 1 or Door Number 2.
Door #1, the drug of choice for most of us, means doing your life, your daily activities with the power of your own resources. You make decisions based on the thoughts within your own head, with what you know so far, with what you’ve learned from your parents, from school, from the news. In a nutshell, it’s using the resources of the past.
Door #2, the only other choice, means conducting your life hooked to your Source or what I call the F.P., the field of potentiality.
For me, it’s a no-brainer. When I depend on my limited resources (Door #1), I’m like a toaster that’s not plugged in. I can press the button a million times, but if it’s not plugged in, there’s not going to be any toast on which to apply butter and jam. I can eat the bread, of course, but it’s not toast.
You’ve probably heard the expression, “All men have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.” Sin, rather than a judgment call, merely means separation from your Source. It means your toaster’s not plugged in. There’s no condemnation involved. You don’t damn your toaster all to hell. If you’re smart, you simply grab the cord and plug it back in to its source.
For the sake of clarity, let’s stretch the toaster metaphor. Let’s say you really, really, really want toast. You can plead and beg and pray all you want, but until you connect the toaster back to the wall, “Sorry Charlie, you’re S.O.L.”
You can throw the toaster in the dumpster, but there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s just not connected.
That’s what we’ve done. We’ve thrown our toasters (the days and the hours of our lives) away.
Your Source (Again, call it what you like—God, the F.P., Divine Intelligence) doesn’t judge anymore than electricity judges. It’s completely 100 percent non-biased. If has no opinions on whether you choose to employ its power or not. It’s just there, waiting for you to plug yourself back in.
Some of us don’t plug in to our Source because we feel guilt. Or we don’t feel we’ve worked hard enough. Or we bought this crazy notion that It doesn’t want us.
But that’s as ridiculous as saying electricity doesn’t want (or won’t work) for a thief. Electricity doesn’t judge. It works equally well for everyone.
In fact, it’s OUR judgments, our grudges, our preconceived notions that block the flow. Source is always there, patiently waiting for us to lay down our judgments and plug ourselves back in.
Pam Grout is the author of E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.
“It’s right underneath your fingers, baby. That’s all you have to understand. Everything is right underneath your fingers. –Ray Charles
When a kindergartner bails off the monkey bars, the principle of gravity works even though he has no clue what gravity is or how to pronounce it. Likewise, spiritual principles are at work in your life whether you understand them, can pronounce them, or even want them.
Take a standard 8-1/2 by 11-inch piece of paper. If you drop it from shoulder level, it’ll most likely fall to the ground. But if you take that same piece of paper, fold it just right, add a paper clip to the bottom, you can sail it across the average Burger King.
The paper still weighs the same. It’s still the same color, the same texture. But by applying the principles of velocity, force and lift, you make what used to be an “impossible thing” possible.
Seven hundred thousand pound planes now fly through the air, not because we changed the law of gravity, but because Wilbur and Orville Wright learned higher laws that transcend it.
By learning and applying spiritual laws, you, too, can transcend anything. Once you discover that the world operates according to universal spiritual principles that, like gravity influence your life at every moment, you can fling wide the doors of creativity, love and joy. And here’s the kicker. These spiritual principles are more profound than physical laws and affect your life whether you’re aware of their existence or not.
Any light blub with a working filament and an electric current has the potential to light up a room. It doesn’t matter whether that light bulb is big or small, round or square, yellow or white. It doesn’t matter where it’s been or how it was used in the past. If a light is plugged to its source, it’s going to dispense light.
“I am not a teacher, but an awakener.”
I know she’ll never host a competition like Oprah or Ellen, looking for her biggest fan. But if Marianne Williamson ever did, I would definitely enter.
Since Return to Love, I’ve eaten up her every word. I’ve seen her speak twice and, if I lived in Los Angeles, I’d definitely be a groupie.
I was already a student of A Course in Miracles when she first appeared on Oprah. But, oh baby, did she have a gift for explaining that dense, three-book blue volume. She introduced its beautiful message to the masses. Not since John Lennon sang, “Love is all we need,” did anyone so closely speak my language.
Over the weekend, I read her latest book, Divine Compensation, and I found myself copying down practically every word. Here are a few nuggets from the Divine Miss M that I simply must share:
“The ego doesn’t want you to believe this, but all you have to do is open your heart and all the abundance you need will find its way to your door.”
“The idea you must struggle to experience abundance interferes with the natural magnetism that otherwise brings abundance forth.”
“You have more important thing to do than worry about money.”
“You are here to fly at full wingspan, for the glory of the One who sent you.”
Thank you, Marianne, for being such a great teacher. I love you and appreciate all you do to bring Truth to the world.
And I will end this blog post with a prayer, copied straight from Divine Compensation:
I surrender to You who I am, what I have and what I do.
May my life and talents be used in whatever serves you best.
I surrender to you my failures and any pain still in my heart.
I surrender to you my successes and the hopes that they contain.
May the Light of your Love shine deep within my heart,
And extend through me to bless the world.
“Most people are as happy as they make up their mind to be.”
Last week, I was talking with Mastin Kipp. He’s the 31-year-old whiz kid behind the popular website, TheDailyLove (TDL). You might have seen him on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday as one of the spiritual leaders for the next generation. Although he now lives in L.A. and hobnobs with the likes of Tony Robbins and Kim Kardashian (she’s the one who helped get the ball rolling on his website, when she tweeted out to her 2 million followers, “You should follow this.”), he is originally from my hometown. His parents still live here, he came home for Thanksgiving right after the big Oprah wing-ding and so I decided to profile him for the local Lawrence Magazine.
My editor, who adores sidebars, said, “Ask him for some tips.” He gave me several, but the one I most resonated to was this: “The one thing we have control over is our thoughts, the meaning we give to events that happen in our lives. We can frame things in whatever light we choose and how we word the questions we ask ourselves is extremely important.”
“Is something the end….or is it a new beginning?”
“Is this a breakdown…or a breakthrough?”
As he says, “It’s a very powerful thing that we get to decide the meaning we give to things.”
So in honor of Mastin and my own evolving awareness, I’d like to share a couple reframed thoughts that have really blessed my life.
1. I am the Bill Gates of free time and flexibility. I’m a freelance writer so there’s no boss expecting me to clock in. I can travel whenever I want to. I can attend get-togethers in the middle of the day—like my spiritual entrepreneurs group—or lunch with a dear friend as I did yesterday for two and a half hours. Some people would panic without a regular job. I prefer to see it as having an abundance of time and a whole wagonload of opportunities to create new things.
2. I am OTT wealthy with an unlimited supply of creative capital. I have so many ideas I want to write about, so many books and TV series and articles I want to produce. And to my way of thinking, creative capital trumps the other kind of capital because mine is capable of producing the other kind of capital and is lots more fun.
3. I have fun no matter what. There’s no question that, as a travel writer, I get to do a lot of cool things—meet medicine men from the Cook Islands, hang with wealthy people at five-star resorts, eat every meal beside the ocean—but it doesn’t take that for me to have fun. My favorite recent example of this happened in December.
I was scheduled to go to Belize to bring in the “end of the Mayan calendar” at Caracol, a jungle Mayan city still being excavated. The night I was supposed to pack for my 6 a.m. flight, my back went out. I wasn’t able to go….at that time. So I lay in bed that first day in what some might describe as excruciating physical pain. I could barely get up to pee. But I, because of my commitment to fun and joy, actually had a stellar day. I was so happy–really!!! I decided to have fun anyway. I look back at that day as very important to my spiritual growth because I realized this:
Our thoughts are the only thing that separate us from having every single thing we could ever want.
Thank you, Mastin, for the reminder.
“Quantum physics is not just stranger than you think, its stranger than you can think.”
Today, I’d like to talk to you about the most dangerous four-letter word in the English language. This word that I’ve specifically banned from my vocabulary is especially damning when combined with something you’re trying to do: lose weight, attract money, get a hot date.
The word is “hard,” as in “It is hard to……(pick your poison).
You know you’ve said it:
“It’s hard to change old habits.”
“It’s hard to find a better job.”
“It’s hard to empty my mind when meditating.”
Because our beliefs are so powerful, literally sculpting our lives on a moment-by-moment basis, to believe (and especially to say out loud) that anything is difficult is extremely counterproductive.
Still, even those of us who know about (and happily use) the power of our thoughts sometimes speak that ugly word.
I prefer the words “smooth” and “easy” and repeat those beautiful sentiments as often as I can.
I affirm that whatever I want to accomplish is smooth and easy. In fact, the less I do, the better things turn out. The more I hand over to the universe (the field of potentiality that is SO much smarter than me), the better my life becomes.
Because I occasionally still see limitations, still believe the headlines, still believe in old school conditioning, I’m much better off affirming smooth and easy and turning things over to the big guy.
A friend of mine, by simply changing her phraseology, has lost 18 pounds in the last month. She hasn’t changed her diet or started a new exercise program. She simply started believing that losing weight is easy, a piece of cake.
What diet program could be more simple than that?
So I ask you today, with all you’re trying to accomplish, will it be hard or will you join me in affirming “smooth” and “easy.”
“I pray for the change in perception that will let me see bigger and sweeter realities.”
My favorite thing in the whole world is miracles. I’ve been a student of ‘A Course in Miracles’ for 25 or so years. The TV series I created is set in an ecovillage called Milagro Springs. Milagro, of course, is Spanish for miracle. And I spend my life looking for miracles which, according to my way of thinking, is actually recognizing Truth.
Miracles are natural and normal and happen all the time…once we give up antiquated ways of thinking.
I also love sharing miracles. My new friend Michelle Dobbins, who writes the fabulous blog, Daily Alchemy, devotes Monday to shout-outs or what she calls “Monday raves.” As she says, it’s a time to notice and get excited about the wonderful things in our lives. For more above raves, she suggests Lola Jones. Check out Lola’s fun and fabulous rave movie here.
So it’s Rave Monday (thank you Michelle) and I’d like to take this opportunity to rave about the following two miracles:
The first happened to my friend, Kris. Over the weekend, she lost a favorite necklace. It fell off sometime before, during or after a party. Because there’s snow on the ground, she knew it could be anywhere, buried deep in a bank of snowflakes. At first, she freaked out. It’s her favorite necklace. She frantically began retracing her steps, digging through snow in front of the party, exhausting herself with mental energy—“Oh, no! How will I ever find my necklace in this weather?”
And then suddenly, she got it. That energy, that fear and crazy belief that finding it would be hard could only keep the necklace away. She began to affirm how easy it is to find misplaced items. Within a couple hours, she found a phone that had disappeared a few months ago, a pair of sewing scissors she’d been looking for and one other thing that had mysteriously gone missing.
Her partner went back over to the party and within minutes, called, “Hey, your necklace was right there in a snow drift in front of the house.”
The other miracle happened to yours truly. To set the scene, I have to tell you that my hometown, Lawrence, Kansas, has a really cool, old school downtown with lots of coffee shops, local boutiques and art galleries. We are very proud of our downtown and worked hard to….shall we say…dissuade a big mall from coming in. But the downtown Parking Nazis are rabid. If you park downtown and don’t deposit a quarter or two (hey, what can I say? It’s dirt cheap), you’re going to return to find a yellow envelope under your windshield wiper. Sometimes two or three. It’s as sure as the sun coming up.
I was running late (as usual) to meet my friend, Joyce, for lattes on Saturday. I jetted across the street and remembered, “Ah shucks. I forgot to feed the parking meter.” But I was late and lazy and decided to just make the intention that a wall of protection would surround my car. I do this a lot when I’m driving. Fast forward two and a half hours. Yes, Joyce and I can really talk. I go back to my little car, innocently sitting there with NO TICKETS!!! In fact, the parking meter had 45 minutes to go. So thank you, kind person who fed my parking meter and thank you, universe, for responding (AS ALWAYS) to my last-minute intention. Life is so good!!!!
“Don’t worry. Be happy.”
Okay, so you’ve made some goals, set some intentions. But, so far, nothing has shown up. Wanna know why?
You’re trying too hard. You’re trying to force things instead of just relaxing and connecting with the power and genius of the universe.
See this picture. It’s green bean seeds from Experiment No# 6 (The Superhero Principle) in my book, E-Squared.
The reader who sent me this picture made the intention that the back row of seeds would grow faster than the front row.
It worked like a charm, because she knew there was nothing she could personally do to make those green beans grow faster. Except be willing. She had to surrender and believe that her focus and attention was enough.
With most goals and intentions, the ones where there’s something we perceive we should do, we think surrender is not an option. We insist on trying to make our intentions happen. We use force, we manipulate. We get personally involved instead of letting go and letting the majesty of the universe do its glorious thing. The tactic of aggressiveness sometimes works, but it invariably employs “weak energy,” an energy that will always play second fiddle to the simple power of willingness.
Willingness brings openness and flexibility and new possibilities. It’s the prerequisite for changing anything in your life, the starting point for manifesting goodness.
I understand your desire to push, to go, go, go. It’s the cultural norm. We’ve all heard some version of these statements:
“You have to fight for what you want in this world.”
“You have to put your nose to the grindstone.”
“Nothing comes easy.”
“If it was easy, everybody would be doing it.”
But there is another way. And it’s simple willingness.
By cultivating a willing mind and being willing to approach things in a new way, you’ll come from a place of power. You’ll find an energy that unifies, that encourages wholeness.
Yes, this energy is invisible (making it a lot harder to trust for some folks), but, in reality, it’s more tangible and powerful than forcing and grunting and groaning will ever be.
To change your life for the better, you simply connect with the power of the universe and then step back and allow it all to unfold with ease and grace.