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We, the greatest of all creators, with capabilities to build cities and inspire nations, are squandering our time watching reruns of I Love Lucy. We have forgotten that whole galaxies exist within our grasp. –PG

Hi! Welcome to the internet home of Pam Grout. I am the author of 16 books, two screenplays, a live soap opera, a TV series and enough magazine articles that I haven’t starved in 20 years without a 9-5 job. On this site, you’ll find all sorts of information about my books and about my career as a freelance writer.

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Pamela Sue Grout

Why I’m the luckiest person on the planet, Episode 23

“Goodness is the truth. Our lives are eternal, perfect, complete, harmonious and always in balance. Dwell on that truth, that unchangeable presence.”—Michele Longo-O’Donnell Pam at Rana

I get interviewed a lot. One of the common questions is “What kind of goals do you set for yourself?” And sometimes my interviewers scratch their head with my answer. It usually goes something like this: “I don’t. Rather, I trust the universe so much that I let it set the agenda. It’s so much wiser and sees so many more possibilities than I ever could.”

Last week’s trip to Italy is the perfect example. I hadn’t set the intention to return to Italy. I love Italy. Who doesn’t, right? But I hadn’t consciously put “trip to Italy” on a vision board or made that intention.

Nonetheless, I got invited on an all-expense-paid trip to Italy to meet Giovanni Rana and get to know his family, his company, his pasta that, just writing the word, makes me drool. You might have seen the picture on Facebook of me doing the Wonder Woman pose at Castelvecchio.

Not only that, but I got to dine at a 500-year-old lakeside estate that also hosted Winston Churchill and Princess Di. I visited a wine cellar that had a bottle of cognac from 1840. I got to be a food stylist, meet Romeo (er, rather the actor who played him in the interactive play we saw at the Capulet’s home), stay in a five-star hotel and drink all the cappuccinos and wine I desired.

Oh yes, and Federico Fellini’s long-time assistant, who evidently follows my blog, noticed I was in Italy and invited me to Rome to have a cappuccino. Sadly, I didn’t have time, but you can bet I’ll take her up on the offer next time the universe sends me to Italy.

But the best part is I got to witness a very successful business that practices what I preach. Pour your heart into what you love. Follow the thing that makes you feel alive. Give everything you can to everybody you can.

I’ll be writing about Giovanni Rana in the next few weeks, writing a travel story about my exquisite visit to the medieval cobbletoned streets of Verona. But, since you guys are part of MY heart, I thought I’d start here on the blog by not-so-subtly mentioning that the most important thing anyone could ever do to improve their life is to get it deep down in their bones that they are so incredibly loved so by the universe. And to know and trust that it constantly tries to send blessings just like this. All they must do is give up their grievances and move towards their joy.

I’ll close now with this Italian toast. Cin Cin. Which means “all good things to you.”

Ciao, bella, my amazingly awesome friends.

Pam Grout is the author of 18 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the recently released, Thank and Grow Rich: a 30-day Experiment in Shameless Gratitude and Unabashed Joy.

What marvelous thing might I create today?

“What is the most important thing we can think about in this most extraordinary moment?”–Buckminster Fuller

I’ve said it before and I’m sure I’ll say it again. The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the questions you ask. The universe will always match you question for question.

Sadly, most of the questions we ask are repeats of the questions we asked yesterday. We keep wondering the “same ole, same ole” that forever locks us into a tiny box of perception that greatly limits our reality. We place amazingly low expectations on what might be possible.

Every time you ponder the question “How do I get rid of this?” or “How can I overcome that?” you add energy to sustaining the unwanted state. As you devote more and more attention to its existence, you further validate its reality. You continue to view the state you’re attempting to overcome as a linear, predictable “problem.”

Not a lot of options in that teensy box.

Here’s what I’ve learned from quantum physics. Despite how it looks, we humans and everything else we lay gaze upon are, at our core, nothing but patterns of light and energy. We are entangled with all other beings on the planet, forever linked with the indivisible “Field of Potentiality” or to use Luke Skywalker’s vernacular, “The Force.”

By continuing to ask the same boring questions and residing in the same uncomfortable little shoebox, we block the flow and full expression of the F.P’s power.

The force, to borrow from Luke one more time, “can’t be with us.”

So my intention is to ask bigger questions, to think bigger thoughts?

“What if?” is always a good start.

What if our politicians could see eye-to-eye, to join forces for true and lasting change?”

“What if every child on the planet had a hot meal before they went to bed tonight?”

“What if every family had a roof over their head?”

“What can I do today that makes me dance with joy?

“How can I grow into the loving, wise, inspiring person I am meant to be?”

“What marvelous thing might I create today?”

Anything is possible, but we have to imagine it first. The more big questions we ask, the more we dare to say, “What would it look like if….?,” the bigger our lives will become. Putting your attention on something calls it into existence. We can literally reshape and redesign our lives by asking bigger questions.

Pam Grout is the author of 18 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the recently released, Thank and Grow Rich: a 30-day Experiment in Shameless Gratitude and Unabashed Joy.

Why you should always invite the universe to pull rabbits out of hats

“There’s no reason to have a Plan B because it distracts from Plan A.”–Will Smith

I just returned from the 7500-island country of the Philippines. I spoke to the Pampanga Medical Society, gave a couple playshops and had an amazingly awesome time. Some of you may have seen a few of the pictures on Facebook. Among other fun things, I got wrapped in mud, ate a delicacy called kamaru (crunchy fried crickets) and rode bamboo bikes around a moat that was filled in and turned into a golf course.

In two days, I’m heading to Verona, Italy to write about the pasta maker Giovanni Rana. So I thought I’d run a blog post I wrote in 2013. Enjoy!

“The second I decide something is done, it’s done. I just have to wait for all y’all to see it.”—Will Smith

Or in many of our cases, we have to wait for ourselves to see it. The minute we make any intention, it’s real, it’s a viable creation. But until we can feel it and actually “be it,” our intention stays on a vibrational plane that’s out of our sight.

Making intentions isn’t the problem. What you’ve been intending is already present. It’s just that you and me and everybody else is stubborn enough that we keep staring at its lack. Until we can catch up vibrationally, we are unable to see and enjoy our fabulous creations.

As Esther Hicks likes to say, “We’ve already created enough joy and happiness for 20 or 30 lifetimes.”

I hope this is a comforting thought. That our only responsibility is to get ourselves tuned into the joyful vibration where blessings flow, to begin resonating to the vibrational catalog of fun, love and laughter. We literally have to distract ourselves from all thoughts and emotions that block the natural flow.

Most of us are really good at the first part of the equation. Making the intention. But the second part, the part where we get out of our own way and allow love and joy and the new Mercedes Benz into our sphere of awareness is not so familiar to us.

So for right now, forget about your intentions. Just focus on every brilliant, juicy, fun delicious thought you can think of. Be grateful for every little thing. That’s everything that even remotely resembles your intention and everything that doesn’t. When joy is the dominant emotion, you’ll be able to pull good things out of the air like magicians pull rabbits out of hats.

Pam Grout is the author of 18 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the recently released, Thank and Grow Rich: a 30-day Experiment in Shameless Gratitude and Unabashed Joy.

“There is nothing more deceptive than an obvious fact.”—Arthur Conan Doyle

“Really, weren’t these facts just placeholders until the long view could really assert itself?”—David Levithan

I’m a journalist, trained, degreed, the whole nine yards. In fact, I stated my illustrious journalism career at the Kansas City Star, the same newspaper where Ernest Hemingway and Walt Disney started their road to fame.

The last few years, however, I’ve begun to alter my beliefs about “the facts” I’m sworn by my profession to seek.

I’m not so sure that “just the facts, ma’am” is helpful anymore. In fact, these so-called “facts” create a negative energetic momentum that I no longer want to perpetuate.

The “facts” I now choose to report are that happiness is our birthright, that love is the only reality and that the only reason the “facts” sometimes look otherwise is because that’s what we’ve spent so many years focusing upon.

I now know that it’s unproductive to talk, report or give attention to anything I don’t want. And anytime I don’t feel joyful and at peace is because I’m giving attention to something that disagrees with Source.

To use the old radio analogy, I’ve tuned into an “oldies station” that still believes in pain and suffering.

I’m now committed to bringing a different energy to the party. An energy of love, an energy that sees only beauty, an energy that recognizes the Truth (and there is such a thing as truth with a capital “T” which is different than “facts”) in every person.

I believe that’s what Jesus meant when he said, “Turn the other cheek.” He wasn’t suggesting that we should walk around with bruised cheeks and black eyes. He was saying that we should begin moving in a different direction, turn our cheeks, so to speak, to a higher, brighter, more pleasing reality.

“Facts” are simply habits of thought we’ve been thinking so long that they now seem normal. When we invest in them over and over again, we validate them. We create more of them. “Facts” fill in around those beliefs.

Quantum physics has proven it’s impossible to observe anything without affecting it. Sadly, we’ve been seeking (and therefore affecting) things that no longer serve us. We’ve been seeking “facts” that were perpetuated long before we evolved to the place where we realized we have the power to change them. And, yes, they’ve picked up quite a bit of momentum.

But at any time, we can “turn the other cheek” and look in a different direction.

As for me, I’m turning my cheek towards joy, towards peace of mind, towards the idea that all of us can be free and abundant and living lives of insatiable well-being.

Pam Grout is the author of 18 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the recently released, Thank and Grow Rich: a 30-day Experiment in Shameless Gratitude and Unabashed Joy.

Note to self: Feed and water happy thoughts today

“Perception selects, and makes the world you see.”–Course in Miracles146624

Who in their right mind would walk into a restaurant, take a look at the menu and order the dish they least desire?

Likewise, who would go shopping at Nordstrom’s and opt to carry the rack’s ugliest outfit up to the sales counter?

Yet, that’s what most of us do in our thinking, in our conversations. We focus on things we don’t want to happen. We focus on the fear, on the negative, on the lack.

And those decisions have a much bigger impact on your life than one ugly dress or a dish you can’t stand. You literally draw out from the universe whatever you focus upon. In other words, you get what you order. It’s an unalterable law.

At every moment, we make the choice where we focus our energy. Always. One hundred percent of the time.

I’m not denying that our minds habitually return to the worn-out groove of thoughts we’ve had in the past and that it takes some re-training to start a new habit of focusing only on what we want, but we have the capacity to do it.

I hope you’ll join me in focusing only on new possibilities, on love, on what our world could become.

And to help with that, here’s a fun story that popped into my inbox this week:

“Hi, Pam! I’m a huge fan of your books, “E-Squared” and “E-Cubed” and “Thank and Grow Rich”. I’ve done small manifestations before, (like getting into a sold-out concert in a small venue when I was #12 on the waiting list! That happened on the evening of the day I’d finished reading “E-Squared”!))

“Here is a manifestation I had happen much more quickly than I’d ever expected. This was just under 4 days… I live in the Greater Seattle area. I am a 64-year old, white, male, saxophone player (mostly retired). But I still get wistful and think about how I’d like to have a better horn; make some new friends in other parts of the world to chat about saxophone stuff via Facebook messaging, or e-mail… Well, I had the thought, “It would be keen to get to know an Australian sax player as I am fascinated by Australia and I’d love to know more about their jazz and music experiences there. I do know they teach jazz in Australian music academies…” Then I forgot about it.

“The other day I was on You Tube watching the famous University of North Texas One O’clock Jazz Band, one of the best in the world… The tenor sax player stood up to take a beautiful solo. I thought, “I wonder if he’s on Facebook?” I looked him up there, and he was…But all of his basic information was blocked.

“I sent him a message telling how much I liked his playing and asked about his horn… and I put in a friend request.

“The next day I find that he had, indeed, accepted my friend request and sent me a lovely note thanking me for my comments, and telling me about his instrument. Now, all of his Facebook information was open to me and I saw that he was not from Texas as I’d assumed, but from Canberra, Australia! He is a freelance player and a teacher at a college in another Australian city. We’ve had some great correspondence since! Super nice fellow! I told him I hope to visit Australia when I retire in a few years and we can meet and do some jamming!

“I’d simply had the thought I wanted to meet an Australian sax man, and the most interesting series of events followed to complete my manifestation!

“Manifestation truly works if you have a little faith… and even (sometimes) if you forget about it!”

Pam Grout is the author of 18 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the recently released, Thank and Grow Rich: a 30-day Experiment in Shameless Gratitude and Unabashed Joy.

There is never reluctance on the part of Infinite Intelligence to provide our good.

“Everyone creates realities based on their own personal beliefs. These beliefs are so powerful they create [expansive or entrapping] realities over and over.~Kuan Yin

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I’m more or less illiterate when it comes to anything electrical. I know what a plug looks like and I know how to attach it to a wall socket.

Beyond that, I draw a blank.

But there’s a device used in electronics that provides a good metaphor for understanding why some intentions are so easy to manifest and why others seem darned near impossible.

The device is called a resistor and basically (All you electricians out there, please forgive my simplistic explanation) what it does is reduce the amount of electrical current flowing through a circuit. Resistors limit the number of electrons that can flow past a given point at any one time.

Our beliefs about ourselves and about the way the world works serve as resistors, blocking the flow of the world’s limitless abundance. Our beliefs are the brakes that stop the natural, always-flowing current of good.

Let me give you an example. Most people believe money is limited and hard to come by. That’s a resistor.

On the other hand, they don’t believe health or intelligence is limited. Just because I’m healthy doesn’t mean you can’t be healthy, too. Steven Hawking’s brilliant intellect doesn’t prevent Matt Groening or Steven Spielberg from using their brain power.

But when it comes to abundance, the belief there’s only so much to go around is a big, fat resistor, much better at blocking the flow than tungsten, carbon and other popular resistors.

The other family-size resistor is believing you know how to best accomplish a particular goal. Let’s take traveling, a popular intention for many. Most people I talk to believe the best way to become a world traveler is to get a job so they can accumulate enough money and vacation time to visit say, Cape Town or Monte Carlo or even Denver, Colorado.

I, on the other hand, had no expectations one way or another. I knew I had a burning desire to travel, but I had nary a clue how to make that happen. What I did have is the wherewithal to acknowledge I had no clue. It was abundantly clear to me that if I was going to jet around the world, my only option was to give it up to the universe.

I let it go completely, trusting the universe was a heck of a lot smarter and more abundant than me.

Instead of following the “accepted path” of slaving away and accumulating money and vacation time, I now travel for free. The universe led me into travel writing, an occupation I’m not even sure I knew existed when I first made the declaration that I wanted to be a world traveler.

Money? Who needs money?

In the world of electronics, resistors sometimes come in handy (they can create heat and light), but for me, who longs for a life of ease and grace, I prefer to keep the flow as wide open as I possibly can.

Pam Grout is the author of 18 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the recently released, Thank and Grow Rich: a 30-day Experiment in Shameless Gratitude and Unabashed Joy.

Why I’m nominating Pat Conroy as my president

“If you’re available, life gets huge.”—Bill Murraypat-conroy-at-daufuskie

It has been about a year since the author Pat Conroy left the planet. I was out of the country at the time of his death and didn’t hear the news for several months. I was surprised it took that long in light of the fact my sister, Becki, and I discuss this titan of Southern literature the way teenage girls once discussed Justin Bieber.

Yesterday, I finished reading a collection of his blog posts, speeches, fiery editorials and even letters to his grandkids. It was put together by his wife, Cassandra King, and his editor, Nan Talese.

Called A Lowcountry Heart: Reflections on a Writing Life, the book re-energized my love affair with Pat, with writing and with recognizing beauty where it’s at.

 

Here are my four favorite reasons that his love molecules will always live in my heart.

1. Pat Conroy’s 11 books, of course, are the obvious reason. His eloquent words in Prince of Tides, Beach Music, The Great Santini and all the rest, introduced us to magic and to a sense of place and to humanity at it weakest and at its best.

2. He was a southern white boy who carried on his own personal Civil Rights battle, even losing a teaching job because of his bull-headed belief in equality. He said when Barack Obama was elected, it was one of the happiest days of his life. In a 2010 speech at the Penn Center, an African-American cultural and education center near Frogmore, South Carolina, “Yes, I was fired, humiliated, and run out of town because I believed what Martin Luther King believed. Yes. They got me good, but on this joyous night, let me brag to you at last: Didn’t I get those sorry sons of bitches back?”

3. He loved with an energy so powerful it juxtapositioned everything. His book signings were joyous love fests. His dinner parties were wild, fun and raucous. He loved books, authors, independent bookstores. He loved his family, even in all its crazy incarnations. He was generous and loyal, some would argue to fault.

4. And lastly, one night he was having dinner at Elaine’s in New York with Joan Didion and her husband John Gregory Dunne. He stumbled into the bathroom and found himself at the urinal, peeing next to the gilded tough guy Mr. T. Without missing a beat, he said, “Mine’s bigger.” Mr. T busted out laughing and Conroy, of course, added one more friend to his repertoire.

One person. One moment at a time. That’s how we do it!

Pam Grout is the author of 18 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the recently released, Thank and Grow Rich: a 30-day Experiment in Shameless Gratitude and Unabashed Joy.

I am light. And I stand before you to love you

“He contained a whole universe that I had yet to know.”
—Patti Smith, singer, poet and visual artist
f9985c4b0dc70a7fca63322288e61713I’ve been thinking a lot about first generation reality, something that’s a rare commodity these days. First generation reality is what life looks like without all the filters.  The filters are the yellow waxy buildup that stops us from seeing the light within every situation, that prevent us from seeing people as they really are—beautiful souls who want nothing but to love and give of their gifts.

When my dog Izzy was a puppy, she ran full speed ahead to every single canine she saw, wagging her tail, wanting to make a new buddy. There were no exceptions to her joy and exuberance.

This is how we would be, too, (running to every other member of the human race in joyful glee) if we hadn’t condensed first generation reality into our very limited perception.

Every person has immense light and love inside them (no exceptions) and the only reason we cannot see it is because of the lens we laid over it. We covered it up with our beliefs and expectations, with facts that we just KNOW are true. We made a judgment and assume we know what that Republican is up to or that Democrat wants to do to destroy our freedom.

Nothing is as it appears. All we see with the limited five senses is a hologram of our beliefs and expectations. And it’s flawed and it’s getting us in trouble.

I heard about an amazing man yesterday who is doing his part to bridge the divide. His name is Daryl Davis. He’s a black musician whose early years were spent overseas in diverse classrooms. When his parents moved back to the United States, he, like most of the boys in his sixth grade class, joined Boy Scouts. One day, while marching with his troop, people started throwing rocks and sticks at him.

His first thought was, “They must not like Boy Scouts.”

At that point, his parents sat him down and had the race talk with him.

He was stunned.

“How could they not like me?” he thought. “They don’t even know me.”

Since that time, he has taken on the hobby of getting to know white supremacists and, instead of yelling at them, berating them, he sits down and asks questions. He genuinely wants to know what they think.

As he says about engaging his “enemies,” “When you are actively learning about someone else you are passively teaching them about yourself.”

In other words, he gets back to first generation reality. Some black activists call his methods crazy, but as he likes to say, “I’ve got dozens of retired hoods and robes in my closet. How many do you have?”

So, with my new hero, Daryl Davis, in mind, I’d like to share one of the party games from Thank and Grow Rich.

“Stop being boring and show the world what awesome looks like.”
— ROBBY NOVAK, YOUTUBE’S KID PRESIDENT

What if every day we saw ourselves as powerful radio towers for joy, for love, for connection?

What if we adopted the attitude: “I am light, and I stand before you to love you.”

What if we took responsibility, within our own frequencies, for cleaning up toxic environments? What if we decided to emit goodness, to spew beauty?

So what if you don’t have the resources to be a philanthropist. Financial jackpots are only one (and not even the best one) of the resources in your portfolio. You can smile at people. Make conversations. Start up trivia contests in lines at the coffee shop. Make it your task today to emit molecules of happiness to every person you come in contact with. Make it your mission to uplift everyone you see.

Approach each person with this attitude: “I have been waiting to meet you all of my life.”

Happy Valentine’s Day, my fine-feathered friends.

Pam Grout is the author of 18 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the recently released, Thank and Grow Rich: a 30-day Experiment in Shameless Gratitude and Unabashed Joy.

The choice is clear. Pick Door #Purple Light

“Nothing prepared me for being this awesome. It’s kind of a shock to wake up every morning and be bathed in this purple light.”—Bill Murray 1

It has come to my attention that there are people out there who discount the importance of gratitude. They think it’s beneath them, too Pollyanish. They think it’s important right now to struggle, to fight, to fix all the problems.

But what if the frequency of joy and gratitude is just another synonym for the Divine? What if it’s the purple light Bill Murray is talking about? What if the only reason we think we’re in trouble is because our thoughts and energy are vibrating on a frequency that doesn’t match the Bigger Thing?

My Course in Miracles lesson for today is “I am blessed as a Son of God.” This is what all of us are entitled to—being blessed, being happy, being peaceful, being loving and loved. And anything that doesn’t line up with that frequency is an illusion, a mirage that we created and we can change. Simply by picking a different door.

As the Course also says, “The separated ones have invented many cures for what they perceive to be the ‘ills of the world.’ But the one thing they do not do is question the reality of the problem.”

Today, I have decided to question the reality of all my so-called problems and bask in the sheer deliciousness of the purple light.

And since you all seem to enjoy the stories, here’s one that recently popped into my inbox

“I am a single mother from Germany and today I wanna thank you. My life has changed so much in the past 12 month that I sometimes can’t believe this is really happening. Last June I hated my job and I prayed for help and the FP responded instantly. I woke up the very next morning and I couldn’t walk anymore because it was too painful. The doctors didn’t know why and so I stayed at home crawling on my butt for nearly 2 months.

“After 5 weeks I got fired (getting fired is not very easy in Germany :-)). Instead of panicking, I stayed calm and the first time in my life I was full of trust. I decided to become a freelance writer and artist and I have never been more happy.

“Actually it’s the first time in my life that I truly love my life and that I am not crying Friday night because I have to go back to work on Monday morning. I started a blog for other single mothers to become more happy with being a single parent and I started painting again. I don’t know why I ever stoped being creative because now I just can’t get enough! I send a portfolio to an online gallery and they send me a contract back!! I am so happy! Plus it’s the first time I got enough money to travel outside Europe! I have never left Europe although I wanted to travel since I am 4 years old.

“Because of you and your books I know that there is something out that’s helping me. And I don’t have to panic or work hard (Germans always want to work hard, hahah). I can just lean back and do what I love. I know that everything will be fine. The funny thing is I booked 2 flights to Thailand a couple months ago and we are flying in 2 weeks.”

Have a blast, my friend!!!

Pam Grout is the author of 18 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the recently released, Thank and Grow Rich: a 30-day Experiment in Shameless Gratitude and Unabashed Joy.

Why life’s speed bumps are not destinations for pitching tents

“We are all gardeners, planting seeds of intention and watering them with attention in every moment of every day.”― Cristen Rodgers

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Unless you’re a perfect driver (and although I know many people who think they are, I know no one who actually is), you’ve probably encountered a speed bump*, undoubtedly going faster than the posted speed.

When you inadvertently hit one, it’s a clear sign to slow down. Likewise, rumble strips, those grooves on highway shoulders that shimmy your car and offer unexpected back massages when you accidently leave your lane, are signals that something needs to be corrected.

No one would ever dream of stopping their car, getting out and complaining because “woe-is-me! I hit a rumble strip!” Nor would they call their friends, rush to a support group or enlist their therapist. The proper procedure when hitting a rumble strip is self-correct. It’s a piece of cake.

It works the same when setting an intention. Reaching any goal, manifesting any desire is a simple matter of deciding that you want it and starting to move in that direction. It’s no more complicated than driving from say, Los Angeles to San Francisco.

Let’s pretend Los Angeles is what you have now—a beat-up Ford Escort, a crummy job and weekends watching re-runs alone. San Francisco, where you really want to be, is a shiny, new Jaguar, a high-paying job that utilizes and appreciates your greatest strengths and weekends watching movies with an astoundingly hot specimen of humanity.

So, how do you get there? You start focusing on San Francisco. You forget that Los Angeles and your beat-up Escort even exist. And you remember that at every moment, you’re either heading towards San Francisco or you’re doubling back towards Los Angeles. Every thought is a step in one direction or the other. Thoughts that take you back to LA are “Good jobs and hot dates are not that available” or the even more popular, “Good jobs and hot dates are available, but not for the likes of me.”

Thoughts that move you towards San Francisco go something like this: “That new job is going to be so amazing.” and “Man, is this person sitting next to me on my couch ever so fine.” The more energy and excitement you invest, the quicker you’ll get there.

Some people get stirred up, take a few steps towards their desires, panic, and turn right back around towards Los Angeles. Others leave the LA city limits, walk for a spell, take a rest to look around, and then get pissed because it doesn’t look like San Francisco.

Of course, it doesn’t look like San Francisco. You’re not there yet. You’re still seeing countryside that’s just outside Los Angeles, stuff you have to pass to get to San Francisco. But you’ve left LA. Say a cheer and keep focusing. Whatever you do, don’t stop driving.

The only way to reach the sweet, champagne-drenched finish line of where you want to be is to keep your nose pointed in that direction. Do not turn around and look back. Los Angeles is history. Stay focused on…did I mention San Francisco?

When you hit those speed bumps, it’s just a sign to calm down and carry on. And as for those rumble strips, be grateful they’re showing you that, for a moment, you’re headed in the wrong direction. But it’s easy to self-correct.

Getting to San Francisco doesn’t take any particular gift. It just takes willingness to keep driving. To laugh at the rumbles trips. And to keep focusing your attention, energy and awareness.

See you in San Francisco!!!

*For those who like useless trivia, speed bumps are called sleeping policeman in Jamaica, kipping cops in Great Britain and speed breakers in New Zealand.

Pam Grout is the author of 18 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the recently released, Thank and Grow Rich: a 30-day Experiment in Shameless Gratitude and Unabashed Joy.