“A feeling of peace and well-being spread through her veins.”—Ann Patchett
While brunching on Saturday, my friend Judy asked if I was up for an experiment. She has been using psychologist Arthur Aron’s 36 questions. It’s a device, according to an essay in the New York Times’ Modern Love column, for accelerating intimacy.
I think I surprised us both with my answer to question 4: What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
Typical answers include things like being at the beach, sipping drinks with umbrellas, getting massaged.
I said (and I was as surprised as Judy) that my perfect day had nothing to do with activities or events. It has to do with my head space, with feeling the Divine Buzz that, at times, almost overwhelms me. I’m not even sure how to describe it. A sense of joy, a sense of life’s fierce beauty. It’s almost like I could spontaneously combust with sheer rapture.
When those days (well, more like minutes of some days) happen, it matters not what I’m doing.
Believe me, I’ve had many of the “perfect days” promoted by the marketing machine—exotic vacations, five-star hotels, mountaintop lodges. But nothing compares to being on the frequency of joy and gratitude.
The perks we think we want are cool. I’m often astonished by the things I’m invited to do as a travel writer. But those things don’t guarantee happiness or “perfect days.” I was once miserable on a safari in the jungles of Brazil. My head was wanting to be back home. My thoughts were judgy, insecure, lost.
The only requirement for a perfect day is having a happy mind. ACIM Lesson 30 says: God is in everything I see because God is in my mind. It talks about joining with what you see rather than keeping it apart. It promises that the world will open up before you and you’ll see what you’ve never seen before.
I call it the Divine Buzz and I’m grateful for every moment I allow myself to feel it.
Here’s to having a “perfect day,” my friends.
Pam Grout is the author of 19 books including E-Squared, E-Cubed, Thank & Grow Rich and her new book, Art & Soul,Reloaded: A Year-Long Apprenticeship to Summon the Muses and Ignite Your Daring, “Audacious, Creative Side.