“When we give up our dreary stories, we are provided for in every way.”—Alberto Villoldo
Before the age of five, our brains operate mainly in what scientists call theta wave. It’s similar to REM sleep, hypnosis and works beautifully for picking up language and other things useful for making our way in the world.
In fact, most of what we still believe and act upon today was formulated long before we started kindergarten. We picked up a mental, emotional framework that, despite our affirmations and positive intentions, still serves as our default setting. This default setting operates in our lives anytime we’re not living in the moment. As soon as you start “thinking,” it kicks in, which is a good thing except MOST OF IT IS WRONG!!
Here are five shining examples:
You need something outside yourself to heal. The minute you got a runny nose or a fever, your parents, well-meaning as they were, rushed you to the doctor. They gave you sickeningly sweet syrups and pills and inadvertently taught you that “your body is not capable of healing on its own.” This lesson is patently false and so pervasive that very few of us consult the one source that is capable of healing everything.
Muffle your own inner guidance. Rather than teaching us to listen to the still small voice (which is loud and clear when we take the time to heed it), we were taught to follow the rules. We were taught there is right and wrong, true and false, good and bad. All of those concepts are a breeze if we’d only listen to Truth.
Money doesn’t grow on trees. Paper money, as a matter of fact, started as a tree. But sadly, the message of scarcity is imprinted into our psyches before we so much as take our first step. The world is marvelously abundant and that’s what a responsible, awake parent should model and teach their children.
Put your nose to the grindstone. Also known as “nothing good comes without hard work,” this little myth perpetuates a lot of pain and suffering. The truth is everything originates with our thoughts. EVERYTHING. In fact, when you do what you love, working is more like playing. It’s big fun, the thing you’d do even if you weren’t being paid. Hard work plays no part of it and besides, what exactly is a grindstone?
The world is a scary and dangerous place. What kid today is allowed to even go outside without adult supervision? I preferred to teach my daughter that the world is bounteous and people are amazing and every single person is kind if given the chance.
Dear Pam–THANK YOU! Really enjoying reading everything you write and putting it into playful happy positive practice in life. 🙂 I especially love your thought about that, hey, in fact money *does sorta* grow on trees. That’s fabulous. 🙂
Thanks, Claire. I love writing these, partly because they help ME!!
Living in the NW, I often look towards the mountains that are so densely covered by evergreen trees and in doing so, am reminded of the just how abundant the universe really is. Now that I’ve been reminded that paper money actually does come from trees, I have brand new level of appreciation for the abundance that surrounds me.
Thank You! Thank You! Thank You! Love It!
Thank you for this great post, Pam! I’ve read and reread your book, but those myths still rear their ugly heads sometimes, and I don’t want to pass them along to my kids (any more than I already have!). I appreciate you!
Really enjoyed reading this post and am totally in agreement with you on these points. You are fabulous, I have become your fan and strongly wanted to read your book e squared but cant find here in small town of india in my city. Anyways thanx.
A great article, with some useful information. Thanks!
I love this. I’ve been changing up some of my stories that I didn’t realize I had. The money in our house comes from my husband, well, not any more. I can make money, too and have fun doing it. I’m also inviting the rest of my family to change some of their stories. Work and school don’t have to be hard, they can be fun and fulfilling. 🙂
I totally agree that work should not be a struggle. Finally, why do we really need to make efforts and suffer for everything we accomplish? Probably because we have to fight to do what we like instead of doing what we ‘need’ to do as they teach us in school… The struggle is to convince people (if still necessary!) that doing what we like is the way. The work itself is pleasure and joy.
All this is so refreshing, and a good reminder of noticing what we are thinking, and changing our thought patterns to being aware of Now. One of the things I so appreciate is hot running water at my findertips, for morning shower, breakfast, etc.. Water! Coming into my house out of the Tap! Fresh, clean Water! Most of the world doesn’t have fresh clean water! There is an abundance of water in the world. Three quarters of the World is covered with water. Aren’t we all lucky? I am so grateful for all I have. I have not one, but two, bath rooms in my house! And Sewer systems! I am just pointing out the wonderful things we have and take for granted. I am thankful for the creative genius that has made all this possible.