Why it’s okay to have a negative thought

“What if right in that moment, it was quite beautiful the way it was?”—Grace Bell

Every thought is temporary until you decide to invite it in for martinis and offer to make up the guest bedroom.

Left unopposed, a thought, like a lightning bug, will blink right off, flit away, never to be seen again.

What happens instead is we notice a negative thought, we start swatting at it, we wonder why we have it, we come up with seven steps to get rid of it and we begin beating ourselves up because…well all the books say we shouldn’t have a negative thought.

Before long, we’ve joined a support group and built a shrine.

Instead of fighting a negative thought, I prefer to use my two magic words—It’s okay—and let it flitter away and disappear.

The same strategy applies for those things we dislike in our lives—say the latest credit card statement or the doctor’s report. “But it’s true!!!” you insist.

Once we realize that any thought, any condition is temporary, with no power, no charge except that which we give it, we can go back to our natural state which is joy and amazing awesomeness.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the recently-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

42 Comments on “Why it’s okay to have a negative thought

  1. Do you see these responses or do they end up somewhere in internet land? I love you Pam!!! You are the awesomest!!!  

  2. Up until recently I have always called myself “optimistically pessimistic” and when I have a negative thought I try so unbelievably hard to fight it, like I’m bad and that I shouldn’t have negative thoughts because now I’m trying to be just optimistic and positive and I’ll be damned if (blah blah)! So this was a really nice reminder and helpful direction to intend that I really can just let it go!

    Thanks Pam!!

    • It’s so important NOT to fight anything. Ever. Never. Because once we just give ourselves a break, start being kind to ourselves, the universe has that little crack to come on in and spread its magic. It’s not up to us anyway.

  3. Pam, first of all, thanks for your brilliant book, and even more for your timely blogs. If you don’t mind, I have a question please?
    I have just listened to Greg Khun’s audio book, ‘How Quantum Physicists build beliefs’. In it, he suggests a 24 point plan, to manifest anything (well, to build the necessary manifestation mindset).
    In your books, you go for a much simpler, and direct route. I understand that we can choose the most suitable way to our individual preference, )as I was going to ask ‘which’ way you would recommend.)
    What I am wondering is, why you choose your method, or are there many ways to the summit?
    Apologies for being cheeky, but could I ask, do you suggest that we should all try and avoid such news outlets shouting be afraid, as in the Paris and San Bernardino stories.

    With Gratitude

    • It’s up to each to decide whether or not to avoid such news outlets. My choice is not to avoid or put my head in the sand, but to know with complete surety that a higher Truth prevails and that nothing (no matter how it appears to the naked eye) can harm me. This story, guys, has a happy ending.

      • Hi Pam,
        I, too, am interested in your response to Philip’s question about the difference in methods between you and Greg Kuhn. I was introduced to Greg’s work by you, and then as I read one of his books, I thought about how much more work it was to “Grow a greater me” than there was to “E3” myself, so to speak. I tend towards “E3”.
        Thoughts?

  4. Isn’t this just the truth! We give SO much purchase to negative thoughts, which just makes them grow and become monsters where once only that fly was. You take a beautiful Buddhist bent on this–it’s okay. And then let it float away.

  5. Hi Pam——I always hit “keep as new” with your email to read 3x more that day. – am currently going through Notre Dame withdrawal— your new book announcement would help! Please keep writing your refreshing email, your loving efforts are so appreciated. Abundant thanks, Joany

  6. Pam,
    You are a light in my email in-box! I love it when I see that you have sent a new message my way. I am gifting E-Squared as part of my Christmas gift to my daughter-in-law as she is making a shift in her thinking. I can hardly wait for her to begin her experiments! Please continue with your writing…your style and humor are rare finds!
    Merry Christmas,
    Betsey

  7. Your timing was spot on with this post. Flutter away negative thoughts. Nothing lasts forever. Thank you Pam for this “aha moment” after a very rough month of “doctor reports”. This too shall pass. I have made my appointments and done what I can. No sense ruining perfectly good sunshine over something out of my control.

  8. Hi Pam,

    I love this message!! I have always loved lightning bugs and that is the perfect symbol for a pesky negative thought! Look forward to your blog posts!

    Love,
    Catherine

    • Thanks, Catherine! Can’t wait to share your story in the new book. I also LOVE the story you sent. We will meet again soon. LOVE, love, love.

  9. You have been such an inspiration in my life. I am so grateful for the woman who gave me E-squared. Sending love and blessings your way on this beautiful Friday morning 🙂

  10. Thanks for this post, Pam. I am a work in progress…more work, less progress… welcoming those negative thoughts, nourishing and protecting them…bad, I know. I’ll give the “It’s okay” plan a try as that image of “flitter away and disappear” is intoxicating.

    Diane

  11. The more we can remind people of that the better life gets for all of us! I’m so busy noticing the great things in my life I hardly notice anything else!

  12. Thank you, Pam. This came at the perfect time. Last night I ended up in the ER because I fell off of a chair while hanging an angel ornament. I hit my head on the corner of the coffee table. As I was lying in the ER waiting to have a cat scan I tried to steer my mind away from fearful thoughts.

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