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We, the greatest of all creators, with capabilities to build cities and inspire nations, are squandering our time watching reruns of I Love Lucy. We have forgotten that whole galaxies exist within our grasp. –PG

Hi! Welcome to the internet home of Pam Grout. I am the author of 16 books, two screenplays, a live soap opera, a TV series and enough magazine articles that I haven’t starved in 20 years without a 9-5 job. On this site, you’ll find all sorts of information about my books and about my career as a freelance writer.

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Pamela Sue Grout

Five non-political reasons I support Bernie Sandwich #votetogether

“Pizza makes me think that anything is possible.”–Henry Rollins peace-flowers

I try to stay out of politics here on the blog. My goal is to bring people together and well, usually politics does just the opposite.

But I’ve recently become so jazzed about the candidate commentator Chris Hayes, the other night, accidentally called Bernie Sandwich that I simply must shout it from the rooftops…or at least from my little public megaphone.

Here are the five reasons I’m feeling ‘the bern’

1. Bernie talks “we.” Other candidates spout I: “I’m going to work really hard for you. I’m going to change this. I believe……” Listen to his language. It’s all about “we, together, all of us.” Bernie knows change is a team sport.

2. Bernie talks possibility. Pragmatism, I suppose, has some perks. But idealism and optimism is the only thing that will really bring about the change we all long for. Anything is possible, but only if we wrap our mind and consciousness around it. I want to believe big things are possible. Why not?

3. Bernie refuses to talk smack about his opponent. Again, pragmatists and the “old story” insist the only way to win an election is to attack the other guy. Bernie, even when asked, even when his opponents start slandering him, refuses to go negative.

4. Bernie talks (and votes) peace. If little ole me here in Kansas could clearly see the futility of the Iraq war, I can’t fathom how any reasonable person in Washington could not see it. Bernie was one of a handful of senators who voted against sending troops to Iraq.

5. Bernie supports everybody. White, black, straight, gay, born here, immigrated yesterday. Bernie knows we’re all one. He knows you can’t really bomb that guy over there or wipe out that species down there without it affecting all of us.

I love his new ad and with that, I’m signing off from Lincoln Street.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and its equally-scintillating sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

How Dwight Schrutte learned to trust the universe

“Every thought we think is creating our future.”–Louise Hay spirit20of20wakan20tanka20-20web

In my new book, the one that comes out this fall, I tell a story about Rainn Wilson. He’s the actor who played Dwight Schrutte in The Office. He’s also one of my new heroes. His website, Soul Pancake, is inspiring, funny and dedicated to changing the old, worn-out paradigm of doom and gloom.

Rainn is a practicing Baha’i, a deeply spiritual soul, but back when he was a newly-minted, struggling actor living in New York, he temporarily threw his faith overboard. How could any reasonable person be expected to believe there’s a force that wants to interact with us, a force that has our best interests at heart?

Except that attitude didn’t feel right. Like all of us, he longed to be connected to a bigger thing. He embarked on a quest to read all the spiritual texts.

One night while watching a baseball game with his deeply-agnostic poet friend Phil, he shared a story about the Lakota belief in Wakan Tanka, a sacred spirit that exists in all of us.

“Oh yea,” Phil challenged him. “If your Wakan Tanka is so powerful, ask him to let the Yankees win this game.”

At the time, the Yankees were behind by two. It was the bottom of the ninth, two outs, not a likely proposition.

Rainn, ever adventurous and open-minded, said sure and sent up an incantation to Wakan Tanka.

“I kid you not,” says Rainn in his memoir, The Bassoon King. “No sooner did I send up the “chant” then Darryl Strawberry hit a two-run walk-off home run to win the game.”

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and its equally-scintillating sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Why I believe in being unconstitutionally happy

“People and circumstances don’t make me happy. I can get there all by myself.”—Carla from my gratitude posse

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When texting her three blessings a couple days ago, Carla wrote that she was grateful for “unconstitutional happiness.” She quickly amended it, explained that autocorrect changed what was supposed to be “unconditional happiness” to “unconstitutional happiness.”

Several of us texted back, “but we like unconstitutional happiness.”

Here’s why. The 14th amendment to the U.S. Constitution, borrowing from the famous line in the Declaration of Independence, guarantees all of us the right to “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.”

Unconstitutional is my preference because pursuing happiness doesn’t work. It puts us in the position of being constant seekers. I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of seeking, tired of waiting for that thing I’m supposed to find someday. Happiness isn’t far away at the top of some mountain. It is always right here, in the here and now. This moment.

We don’t need another book, another seminar, another practice. We got this. It’s etched into our DNA. The only problem, ever, is our misperception. What if we let go of all our illusions, our beliefs that there’s something we have to do? What if we just stopped and looked around and realized, “Wow! What a cool world I live in.”

I’ve posted this before (it’s from Matt Harding who I interviewed for one of my National Geographic books), but it’s such a great celebration that it bears periodic repeating.

Have the best weekend of your lives, my friends.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and its equally-scintillating sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Is it a fact or just a long-held cultural belief?

“Withdraw your faith in distortions and invest in only what is true.”—A Course in Miracles

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Web MD and other “authorities” will tell you that you need eight hours of sleep, that there’s a disease called seasonal affective disorder (SAD) that inflicts havoc every winter and that gaining weight is inevitable if you don’t rigorously watch what you eat.

But what if these beliefs are nothing but false ideas that we’ve made true by believing in them, by investing in them, by holding them as scientific fact?

If indeed consciousness provides the scaffolding for the physical world (and I, for one, happen to believe it does) then putting energy into any “belief” encrusts it into physical form. Quantum physicists can tell you “reality” is “curvy” or “straight” depending on what you expect.

Most of us can buy that we have some power over our own reality, but we don’t make the correlation that groupthink, those “facts” that our culture, our medical community, our media tout as true are also nothing but temporary forms of what we call “reality.”

One of the many things I love about my power posses (the groups I meet with on a regular basis) is that we share stories that defy “groupthink.” We share stories that the ancients might have called miracles. Hearing these stories opens my mind to accept a different reality.

Yesterday, Bettie told a story that shook me to the core. Being shaken to the core, by the way, is a good thing.

Bettie used to be a birthing assistant, what some might call a midwife. Giving birth, like most things, comes with a lot of “beliefs.” It’s painful. It takes hours. Pain meds and such things as epidurals are necessary and now days synonymous with the delivery room.

But one day, a new mom just going into labor informed Bettie, “I’m going to have this baby in less than 30 minutes.”

Bettie nodded and thought to herself, “O-kay! You obviously haven’t heard that first babies (and this WAS the young mom’s first baby) don’t usually pop out on demand.”

But this mom was insistent. “That’s how my mom did it and that’s how I’m going to do it.”

Bettie said there was some sitcom playing on the hospital room TV.

“And sure enough,” Bettie said, “that insistent mom gave birth before the credits rolled.”

I, who spent 17 hours in labor, loved this story. Why not take control over your body? Why not have a baby during an episode of “Friends?”

Another friend of mine from England told me giving birth to her daughter, Orca, was a spiritual, orgasmic experience? Why not?

Who’s to say what is and isn’t possible? Do we want to believe what the widely-expanding DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) tells us? Do we want to believe what pharmaceutical companies insist we need? Do we want to continue to believe that what happened yesterday is going to happen again today?

Or do we want to create a new day, a new reality, a new world?

In E-Squared, I told the story of yoga teacher Alan Finger who, when he was a teenager, lost 100 pounds in one month. It’s not the story we’re used to.

Many readers, in fact, had a hard time believing it. But it’s true. I called Alan Finger and I’ve talked to Katrina Repka who wrote the book that documented it.

And it’s as true as anything we continue to invest our thoughts and beliefs in.

If indeed consciousness is the clay, I hereby propose that we gather that Play-Doh back into a big ball and start all over.

What long-held “fact” are you willing to let go of? Or to at least consider that maybe, just maybe it’s not a “fact” but a flimsy belief.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and its equally-scintillating sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Magic and Miracles is your Full-Time Gig

3 more tales from the quantum sandbox

“Only when we are at our most playful can divinity finally get serious with us.”—Elizabeth Gilbert

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I’ve been absent from the blog because I’ve been in Arizona, soaking up the sun and playing pickleball.

But I’m back and I’ve got a couple quick stories to share.

One of the reasons I was in Arizona is because the Phoenix Creative Living Fellowship invited me to give a workshop. The minister who initiated the process told me she manifested a brand spanking new BMW when doing the experiments in E-Squared. And her colleague, the minister who picked me up at the airport who happens to be from Colombia, South America, said the reason he was now in Arizona is because he had pasted a postcard of the Grand Canyon on a vision board he’d made years earlier. The postcard inadvertently added to represent his desire to travel was taken quite literally by the universe. And, after a short stint in Europe, he ended up—not surprisingly–in Arizona.

The second story comes from a wonderful 15-year-old named Isha:

“So I am just a 15-year-old who happened to come across your book E Squared and have even read its successor with great exuberance. And though my problems as compared to those others face are teensy, I’d like to share how I dealt with it.

“Yeah, so at this point in school we were about to start learning how to use the logarithmic tables. In case you don’t know what it is: an easy way to multiply divide and find roots of, well, complicated numbers. Everyone was pretty tense about it, and naturally, I absorbed from the environment around me. I started thinking it would be tough and all the bad stuff. But then I halted those nasty thoughts right there and exclaimed to myself, “FP, the logarithmic table will be fun to use and very easy and I won’t make any mistakes in using it.”

“And guess what? After the class was over, I was able to solve all of the problems and I truly enjoyed doing it (though a mass of my class looked flustered). So, yep, FP always works and it is the change in your perspective that counts!!!”

The last story comes from the post I wrote right after the Paris attacks. Remember the Lizard or Lover post? Remember the piano player I mentioned who rolled his baby grand to the Bataclan to play “Imagine?”

On Sunday, my friend Diane told the rest of the story. Turns out the piano player’s name was Davide Martello. He was watching a football game in Konstanze, Germany when the explosions began. He knew he had to do something. Within 15 minutes, he loaded his piano onto a trailer and drove all night, 400 miles to be in Paris.

Keep in mind that Davide wasn’t a doctor or a medic or a counselor. He was a musician who used what he had (a talent for playing music) to give love. That’s why we’re here, guys. To give love. To have fun and to play around in the quantum sandbox.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and its equally-scintillating sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Magic and Miracles is your Full-Time Gig

Get your boom box on the right frequency and miracles will come crashing in

“The universe that constantly spins out new galaxies wants to shine through you, to speak through you, to expand through you.”—A tweet I tweeted out this morning  p950691002-3

Elizabeth Gilbert tells a funny story in her book, Big Magic. She was working as a cook on a ranch in Wyoming. She was drinking beer one night with a cowboy named, Hank, who told her about the instructional tape he had just bought to learn how to imitate an elk’s mating call.

I spent an autumn near Rocky Mountain National Park one year, and I can attest that Gilbert’s description of a bull elk calling for a mate is extremely accurate—an eardrum-shredding Styrofoam-against-Styrofoam screech.

So while we women are listening to tapes with yoga mudras, these Wyoming hunters are mastering their ability to imitate rutting elks.

Gilbert, who thought this was the funniest thing she’d ever heard, eventually convinced Hank to go get his Larry D. Jones mating call tape.

And possibly because of well, just a few too many beers, the late-night duo hatched the crazy scheme of taking the boom box out into the woods. Giddy and laughing and, as she says, not in tune with nature in the least, they stumbled through the woods with the artificial bull elk’s mating call twanging at full blast.

Suddenly, there’s a crashing of branches and a 700-pound bull elk exploding towards them. He snorted and pawed as he prepared for war against this rival bull elk. Luckily, Hank had the good sense to throw the boom box as far away as possible.

I tell you this story, partly because I think it’s hilarious, but mostly because it reminds me that if I can get my boom box on the right frequency, the universe is going to show up, snorting and pawing and ready to move in my life. It’s out there. It’s ready to go. It’s digging up the earth with its paws. I just need to get on the frequency that calls it in.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and its equally-scintillating sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Why I’m the luckiest person on the planet, Episode 18

“An absolute flood of gratitude rushes like a river over my life, reconfiguring my landscapes, overflowing my shallow places, nourishing a great thirst within me and carrying me to new destinations far downstream where the vistas go on forever.”–Ellen Vaughn

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Wow! Wow! Wow!

It would be irresponsible of me to write even one more blog post without stopping to say THANK YOU. Without stopping to acknowledge that it is your encouragement, your wisdom, your support that keeps me going. Without you, I would just be the tree falling in the forest without making a sound.

I am so very grateful!

See that revamped Wonder Woman? That was made by Summers Paige, a fabulous artist who came to my workshop in San Diego. Isn’t it so cool!! I can barely open my mouth without somebody sending me a gift.

Yesterday, when I talked about upgrading my word choice, I got dozens of fabulous suggestions. Dennis Braun, whose amazing wisdom has graced this blog from the very beginning, suggested this:

“Why does money have to be hard-earned? Why can’t money be easy-earned?”

I was reminded of all the things we routinely and rotely say without thinking, without realizing that every word we speak about our life is predicting our future. Who needs a tarot card reader? Or a crystal ball?

If an opera diva can break a glass with nothing but her voice, it should be patently obvious that your words carry a vibration and create cause.

When you say things like “I never have enough money,” or “It’s so hard to lose weight,” or “I can’t help it, my family is dysfunctional,” you cement that continued reality into your future.

Why not speak a higher reality, a reality that lies dormant, but exists in each of us, a reality that brings joy and success and Truth?

Perhaps the most potent of words is the “I am.” Whatever you put after it becomes your reality.

Back in the day, I used to call all my friends and say, “Woe is me! I am depressed.” Now, I prefer A) not to call my friends to blather on about something undesirable and B) if I do need to mention it, I would say something like “My thought-maker is temporarily malfunctioning.”

Neuroscientist Alex Korb reminds us, “If you break your arm, you don’t tell people, “I am broken.” Why would you need to say, “I am depressed” when your thought-maker (ie: your squirrely brain) is just doing what squirrely brains do: running thoughts.

It certainly doesn’t mean that’s who you are.

You can use your “I am” to argue your limitations or you can use it to speak Truth: I am free, I am blessed, I am joyful.

Again, guys, thank you so much for being here.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and its equally-scintillating sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Just because credentialed experts say it’s true, doesn’t mean it is

“You have to decamp from normal reality.”—Eric Weinstein

I am happy to report that, while it took me awhile, I finally replaced the word “thong” with “flip-flop.”

When I was growing up, rubber beach shoes like havainas were called “thongs.” Sometime in the 1990’s, the word thong took on a different connotation. My daughter cringed whenever I mentioned I was donning a thong.

“Ooo, gross,” she’d say.

So I decided to teach this old dog a new trick. I decided to rewire my neural pathways that have associated beach shoes and the word thong for five decades.

And that’s what I’m doing now with the word “hard.” I’m changing it to “unfamiliar.”

As I’ve said many times, the word “hard” is the most dangerous four-letter word in the English language. It’s especially damning when combined with something you’re trying to do: lose weight, attract money, get a hot date.

Because our beliefs are so powerful, literally sculpting our lives on a moment-by-moment basis, to believe (and especially to say out loud) that something is difficult is counterproductive.

Still, even those of us who know about (and happily use) the power of our thoughts sometimes speak that ugly word.

“It’s hard to change old habits.”
“It’s hard to find a better job.”
“It’s hard to empty my mind when meditating.”

I noticed yesterday in my power posse, it was said 18 times.

So, yes, it might be unfamiliar to get up and dance your way to the bathroom or to pretend to exude confidence when giving a presentation or to give up your fears to the universe, but it won’t be unfamiliar for long.

Being hard could last forever.

Because I occasionally still see limitations, still believe the headlines, still believe in old school conditioning, I’m much better off going for unfamiliar and turning things over to the big guy.

I’ve discovered the less I do, the better things turn out. The more I hand over to the universe (the field of potentiality that is SO much smarter than me), the better my life becomes.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and its equally-scintillating sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Empirical evidence is in the eyes of the beholder

“Just because something is rampant in your civilization doesn’t mean it has to express itself in your life.”–Abraham-Hicks

Despite what it says in the newspaper, despite what your mother told you, despite what society insists is rock solid truth, it’s important to remember Shakespeare’s adage, “Nothing is either good nor bad. Only thinking makes it so.”

Your thinking regulates what is allowed into your life experience and what boogies on over to the next guy. You get to decide. You have the final say.

And since my thinking believes in miracles, magic and moving right past the bouncer who says, “You can’t go in,” I hear stories like this each and every day.

1. “I’ve been reading E-Squared the past week. I was reading it in a coffee shop, and I decided to attempt to call out the FP. I noticed a man reading on the other side of the shop. I said “if all this is real, have this man look up and stare directly at me.”

“He didn’t. I didn’t loose the faith, just forgot about it and went about my day. Later, I was eating at a diner. Over the loud speaker came a song by an artist called St Vincent. The lyric goes “did you ever really stare at me….?”

“I thought that was funny and hadn’t heard the song in a while. I pay for my meal and as I enter into the street I start singing the song, “did you ever really stare at me?.” I take not but 5 steps until I’m met with the direct stare of the man from the coffee shop.”

2. “In summer 2014, I met a beautiful guy. He was absolutely amazing, he was funny, he was a musician and even though I was overweight and my confidence was big as a nail, he was kind to me and he treated me as a beautiful woman. I fell in love with him in one night. When we met again, he was acting like a jerk. But I was so in love with him that I gave him your book to read. And guess what? He started to change. Since we first met, he changed a lot. You changed my life and the life of my boyfriend from a womanizer to a kind, beautiful person.

“He told me to send you his thanks, too. And there is one more thing that I wanted to tell you. I lost 12 kilograms and found out I want to be a singer. I was fighting thoughts of not being worthy, but now I am taking classes, getting better and I have had three concerts.

3. “ I did this experiment 3 weeks ago. The night of the first 24 hours I decided I wanted to go to Japan (knowing that if I keep being positive it will come together). The next night I had stayed at my partners and we discussed what we wanted to do in Japan, where we wanted to stay and all that jazz. The next morning when I got home, my mum said, “I have a gift for you” and there it was–a Japanese hand fan (she knew nothing about the experiment or Japan). I knew in that moment that the field of potentiality was very real.‬‬”

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and its equally-scintillating sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Even Shonda Rhimes uses the Wonder Woman pose

“Instead of wallowing in the problem, I figure out what its yes would be.”—Shonda Rhimes

I just finished Shonda Rhimes’ inspiring book, My Year of Saying Yes. It’s a memoir that takes up after she’d already won countless Emmys and Writers Guild and Directors Guild awards for creating Grey’s Anatomy, Scandal and all the other shows on ABC’s prime time Thursday. You’d assume that, by that point, she’d be 100 percent happy, confident and living the dream.

Except, she wasn’t. She was scared to speak in public, unhappy in her own body and well, experiencing the same wacked out crazy head space as the rest of us.

In fact, she mentions some big banquet honoring the top women in television, the women who are at the very pinnacle of success. She noticed, one by one, as each was introduced how they downplayed their success, how they pooh-poohed all they’d accomplished. She noted (even though she did it, too) that they should have been jumping to their feet, giving each other fist bumps and saying, “Hell yeah! Thank you for noticing.”

After Shonda’s sister pointed out her tendency to avoid scary things, Shonda decided to embark on an experiment in saying “yes!” Especially to all the things she avoided at all costs. Like speaking in public. Like accepting invitations to be on late-night talk shows. Like looking at how she treated herself.

I especially loved, loved, loved that her remedy for stepping out of her comfort zone was my old favorite: the Wonder Woman pose.

If you’ve been to any of my talks over the past year or two, you know I use the Wonder Woman pose to stave off my own nervousness. I often get my audience to join with me and even took a Wonder Woman action figure to a workshop I gave at the Omega Institute.

Scientists have proven that when you stand like Wonder Woman (fists on waist and legs spread in what Harvard Business School professor Amy Cuddy calls a power pose) you lower your cortisol levels and boost your testosterone.

“So what?” you might be thinking. WHAT is that when your cortisol levels go down, you drastically lower your stress and when testosterone goes up, you feel more confident.

Cuddy discovered that standing in this pose for a mere two minutes helps folks ace job interviews, tests and other potentially stress-provoking events.

The point is…our physiology can help us get our mind out of the gutter of wack-a-doodle thoughts and back on the joy frequency.

The last little tip I’d like to share is to sing. Shonda didn’t mention if she used this little life-changer.

But Jay Pryor, a life coach who I’ve written about before (check out his new book Lean Inside or this article I wrote about him for People magazine), and his wife Jessica sure do. Instead of demanding that their two young kids come to dinner NOW or stop drawing on the Lazy-Boy, they simply break into an aria that much better gets the point across.

Have the best weekend of your life, my friends.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and its equally-scintillating sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

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