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We, the greatest of all creators, with capabilities to build cities and inspire nations, are squandering our time watching reruns of I Love Lucy. We have forgotten that whole galaxies exist within our grasp. –PG

Hi! Welcome to the internet home of Pam Grout. I am the author of 16 books, two screenplays, a live soap opera, a TV series and enough magazine articles that I haven’t starved in 20 years without a 9-5 job. On this site, you’ll find all sorts of information about my books and about my career as a freelance writer.

If you’re an editor, you can easily click on Portfolio to view writing samples from my illustrious magazine and newspaper career.

If you’re a reader of my books, you can find out more about me, read excerpts from some of the books you haven’t been lucky enough to read yet and take quizzes to see if you’re qualified as a breather, an artist or a P.L.B. (that’s person who lives big for those of you who haven’t yet read Living Big! ) And if you’re really jazzed, simply click here or on that orange RSS feed icon to the right and subscribe to my free weekly nuggets of inspiration.

Enjoy!
Pamela Sue Grout

Anatomy of a guilt trip

“The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude towards the problem.”—Captain Jack Sparrow

My dysfunction of choice has always been guilt. Maybe you’ve been on the same hamster wheel? The one where you obsessively worry about all the things you could have, should have, why didn’t I? do better.

I wrongly believed that if I beat myself up enough I would become a better person. If I listed all my faults and came up with a plan to improve upon each of them, I would finally get the guy, the financial situation, the (fill in the blank) I so desired.

What I finally came to realize is that guilt (and all its mean girl cousins) is a deterrent to miracles. Each “why didn’t I?” only made the wall between me and my highest good more impenetrable.

As I began to dismantle each shaming thought, to take my focus off the “facts” of my pitiful existence, a higher Truth began trickling in. I am okay just the way I am.

Every wrinkle on my 58-year-old face, every age spot, every time I felt wronged or angry and acted less than the perfect human I aspired to be is okay.

Self-love isn’t about getting a massage every other week or treating myself to a bubble bath–although they’re nice gifts and never discouraged. Self-love is about accepting myself exactly as I am. Warts and all.

It’s about the two magic words I mentioned a couple weeks ago: It’s okay. Whatever I think, whatever I feel, it’s all okay. And I am lovable and loved despite my perceived flaws and alleged past “failings.”

Guilt, it turns out, is as foolhardy as any military Strategic Defense Initiative. The only thing it can ever deter is the always-flowing stream of universal good.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Why there’s not one thing worth worrying about

“I love swimming in the great question of what is real, true, what’s happening here in this thing called life.”—Grace Bell

As some of you may have noticed, negativity and problems seem to be ballooning out of control.

At the same time in this unique moment of history, more and more people are waking up and noticing the Divine Buzz, realizing the unlimited possibilities that exist right now, in this very moment.

What a paradox. Both energies rising at the same time.

The only reason the negativity often seems to be winning is because it makes so much more noise. Fear sells papers, ad dollars, products to “protect” us from life.

Which is why my mission is to make more noise for the other energy that is rising, just as fast and just as powerfully as those headlines that, at first glance, sound daunting.

One of reasons I feel so confident that “Truth, Justice and the American Way,” to quote Superman, are destined to win is because of all the young people who write to me, telling me their dreams and their belief in a beautiful world.

Like Mary Strobitzer, a 13-year-old girl from Austria who, instead of shopping for new jeans from H&M (even though, as she says, they were on sale), bought E-Squared, loved it and says it changed her life– because it’s “neither a ‘story’ or a “wonder,’ but REALITY.”

Another recent example comes from 19-year-old Callie Callagher who is now following her heart and is getting continuous signs that she’s on the right track.

Whatever she asks for falls into her lap. As she said in a recent email to me, “I recently said I wanted money to fall in my lap. A few days later a lady I babysit for asked me to drive her and another couple down the road for a country club night. Taxis were all booked so I agreed to drive them for $40. Not only did they give me $100, but they handed me $40 which accidently dropped into my lap.”

Callie, a fabulous writer (not a lawyer, as she’d been trained to be) wrote this blog post:

As we grow up we get general guidelines on how to live our lives: graduate high school, go to college, get a job and family, then wait for the time when we can retire and reminisce about what would have happened had we followed our dreams. When I was a senior in high school, we made timelines. They were all the same except for mine, and I felt out of the loop. My teacher said, “Pray for the day you can retire and start to enjoy your life.” That sounded awful, what a waste of the life you were meant to enjoy.

I have been trying to plan my life ever since I was eight. Part of that plan included becoming a lawyer. That was until one night when I was sixteen and watched American Beauty. That movie hit me like a ton of destiny-filled bricks. I knew at that moment I would become a writer. I told my unexcited friends and family I would be working in film instead of a law firm. They told me that I was crazy and I started to believe them. I cried for three nights and finally asked the universe for a sign that I was meant to work in film and be a writer. The next day while watching TV, the program guide fell on the bio of Mathew McConaughey. The info bar read something like, “After he dropped out of law school, McConaughey followed dreams of being in film.” The universe delivered, and it was my first experience that a higher power was listening.

Two weeks later, a friend’s mom gave me the email of her neighbor in Malibu. He was a working screenwriter in Hollywood who had written one of the biggest movies in theatres that summer. After the universe realized I was paying attention to my calling, it fell over itself to give me more stones for stepping. I expected to be at the Oscars that very year, and was rather disappointed when it didn’t happen.

Fast forward two years and I was working on screenplays, but was still trying to fit into the mold of who I thought I was supposed to be. I got good grades, went out on weekends and so on. I felt like a fraud doing this when I would rather be at home writing. My life changed when I read Spirit Junkie and E-Squared. I realized that I wasn’t the only person who had thoughts about living out my dreams. I ran with the information! I went against the ideas of everyone around me whose advice was to go to college right away. It was a transformational year for me spiritually and emotionally. I found that I have a love of writing books, and have since started what will be a series. I spend every day happy.

For a while I was annoyed that I wasn’t in Hollywood yet but after I listened to a tape on “How to get an agent” I realized why. I WASN’T READY AT ALL. I had turned my love of writing into a lust for quantity over quality and the writing suffered. I realized I needed to step up my A-game. Now, I am happy to spend every day writing for hours because I hold the clear end goal in mind. I mastered having patience so the best work can be produced. I realized I could make all the vision boards I wanted, but without action they were useless.

While visiting a friend at the University of Wisconsin last weekend, I
wondered if I had made a mistake by not getting the “college experience”. However, after going to a college party and seeing what all the buzz was about, I couldn’t imagine doing that for four years. I am willing to sacrifice what I think I should be doing as a nineteen year old in return for what I know is right for me.

More people need to follow their hearts. With the wise words from people like Pam Grout, Marie Forleo, and Napoleon Hill, I have been able to see how much magic exists in this world. I let go of the picture of the nineteen-year-old I thought I should be, and embraced my authentic self.

There are so many amazing things to see and do in this world, we just have to keep our eyes open and not be detoured by other peoples limiting words. People who are fearful will try to convince you to think the same way and deny you of your birth right of being happy, healthy and wealthy.

I remember the first time I heard the statement that one-percent of the population has most of the money in this world. I knew then that there was plenty of space for me, for everyone, if you just follow your dreams. Just remember, you can never be part of that elite one-percent if you do what everyone else is doing. Follow your heart, you will be warmly rewarded.

Thank you, Callie. Thank you, Mary. Thank you everyone who knows magic, miracles, joy and love are the only things that are truly real.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Why Love–not Orange–is the New Black

“People love their mental prison cells because it gives them a sense of security and a false sense of, ‘I know.’”—Eckhart Tolle
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I LOVE this picture with 15 of God’s adorable angels. It was sent to me by the inimitable Becky Buckman, who is teaching the principles of E-Squared and E-Cubed to inmates at a maximum security prison in Nashville, Tennesse. As she says, “I love teaching LOA to these ‘tough on the outside” men who are continuing to expand the way they think and empower themselves.”

I was so thrilled that my fabulous publisher, Hay House, donated books for their next session beginning November 8. I also want to thank Becky for inventing a new word from my name. She now says, “She is groutful, which is one step better even than being grateful.”

I hope she’ll report back with results of this upcoming eight-week class, but in the meantime, here’s a blog post (as I mentioned I’m in Helsinki this week, rocking the casbah at the Glo Art Hotel) from Linda Ford, a Martha Beck master coach who has blessed us here on the blog in the past. Take it away, Linda:

THE POWER OF NOT CLOSING DOWN

Remember when you were a kid playing with your friends, and you lost the game you were playing, or you came-in last at the race, or you realized that you just couldn’t keep up or compete with your friends? Do you also remember walking away with a temper tantrum and saying out loud in frustration: I don’t want to play anymore!

We may be grown-ups now, but many of us still react this way when life doesn’t give us the relationship we’re longing for, the job we desire, or the house of our dreams. And unfortunately, many of us see our disappointment and frustration as a reason to close down, especially if you’ve been waiting a long time. It’s the grown up version of I don’t want to play anymore.

I have a client (who I’ll call Mary). She’s gone through years of feeling frustrated and despondent because she never seems get what she wants. Life is one big struggle. She recently experienced a huge disappointment when a job she had high hopes of getting and which she had invested a lot of time interviewing for, didn’t pan out. Here’s what she told me:

I feel as if I’m back in the trenches, starting all over again. Other people don’t seem to go through this prolonged crap that I go though. How long is this going to go on?

Mary’s tendency to want to close down when she doesn’t get what she wants is a pattern that also shows up in her relationship life. She goes on dates, and ends up feeling depressed and disappointed that the guys aren’t a match for she’s looking for.

What Mary and many of us don’t get, is that when circumstances don’t match up to our desires—when we experience red flags that something is not quite right with a job or a date—it’s not because we’re unlucky or unable to attract, or because we’re not favored by the gods. It’s just that we need more fine-tuning and personal alignment. We need to do the inner work.

We don’t get what we want because we continue to play out a vibration with our words and feelings that tell the universe that we don’t want to play anymore. And in that moment of disappointment (and it’s a pivotal moment!) we make the decision (and the huge mistake) for the umpteenth time, to close down and let our negative emotions sweep over us and dictate our energy. And once again, the door to everything we want gets slammed shut in our face.

What if instead of seeing your disappointment and frustration as just another indication that you’re unlucky or cursed, you saw it as an opportunity for fine-tuning your desires? What if you saw the job or relationship you didn’t get, as an opportunity to line up with a bigger and better version of what you want? What if you saw your defeat as an opportunity to practice unconditional self- love? What if you saw the let down as a way to get CLARITY?

People who are getting what they want in life don’t go off in a temper tantrum. They stay in the game. They don’t buy into the thought that they’re unlucky, or that life is out to get them. They prefer to hang out with and stay attuned to their desires rather than their disappointments. They are grateful for the clarity that’s emerging.

As savvy as we all are about the principles of the law of attraction, many of us still hold onto the belief that there are outside (external) forces that are blocking our success. We just love to pass the buck and blame something, anything but ourselves. We still secretly love to believe that some people are favored by the gods while others have been left out. We still partly believe that it’s about the family we were born into or the boss who keeps denying you that promotion. These old paradigms of thinking from the outside-in—even if they occupy just ten percent of our thinking—interfere with our ability to manifest the life we crave. Why? Because we end up NOT taking full responsibility for the quality of our thoughts and feelings. We resist doing the inner work.

What if you could finally accept that whatever is manifesting for you in life is one hundred percent because of the way YOU think and feel? What if you could finally start living from the INSIDE OUT?
The brilliant Joseph Campbell said: The gods will give you want you want, but you have to be ready for it.

I love this quote because it reminds me that I am in the control box. I am steering my own ship. And the only thing I (and Mary) have to do is get ready for the delicious life that’s waiting for us to step into.

Linda Ford is a Master Coach, personally trained by Martha Beck. Her mission is to help people get out of their own way and THRIVE.
http://www.attractalife.com

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Helsinki, Fred Phelps and why love is always the final answer

“I love participating in a world that’s waking up all around me, in every direction I look, and being a part of this astonishing process.”—Grace Bell

I’m in Helsinki this week, traveling with a beautiful tattoed 22-year-old. We’re staying at a century-old Art Nouveau castle in Helsinki’s Design District. I’m on assignment (yes, I’m still a travel writer) in addition to speaking this weekend at the I Love Me! conference at the Helsinki Exhibition and Convention Centre.

The cool thing is I have all these amazing friends who can fill in for me here on the blog. Today’s post is by my long-time friend, Susan Kraus, who lives right here in Lawrence, Kansas. She’s a fellow travel writer, a brilliant mediator and now, a novelist.

I was lucky to get an early reading of her just-released novel based on the Fred Phelps family. Yes, we here in Lawrence (30 minutes from Topeka where he long-reigned) have had a ongoing opportunity to grow our love for those who, by all appearances, aren’t terribly lovable.

I am extremely proud to run this post by my dear friend, Susan Kraus who I hope you’ll join me in supporting:

Journey of a Skeptic

Some people are born, or conditioned, to be pessimists. Pam Grout would say that no one is born a pessimist, that we’re taught pessimism, taught negative thinking, taught to think small, down-size our dreams, rope in our hopes. But it can be hard for some of us to separate out what is intrinsic and what is learned or absorbed.

I grew up with a father who was insecure and easily threatened. I look at women who had ‘daddies’ who noticed them, told them they were smart and pretty and could be anything they wanted … and I wonder what that would have been like. Not even in a jealous way, more like wondering what living on Mars would be like. That’s how foreign it seems.

“Don’t get a swelled head,” was what I heard if and when I accomplished something… good grades,getting an award, graduating cum laude, landing a job. And that was what I learned: Don’t call attention to yourself, don’t stand out, don’t ever make waves, don’t be controversial, don’t have opinions, don’t have feelings…

Which makes what I am now doing sort of, well, terrifying. I’ve written not one but TWO novels. One I mostly wrote 15 years ago. It was pretty good and was being marketed by an agent when publishing tanked after 9-11. So it went into a closet and I went back to my work as a therapist and mediator. But the voices in my head came back. The characters were still alive — they had lives and opinions and feelings that they wanted to express. And they were so pushy. So I re-wrote book one and then wrote book two — which means I have a series. Book three is already cluttering up my dreams.

Last year I was starting to search for an agent, who would then look for a publisher, who would then edit and do whatever for a couple of years before the books came out. And if this all worked out, it would be 2-3 years minimum. And I startled to the realization that I do not have that much time. I’m 64 and my dreams have been in the damn closet for far too long.

So, I had lunch with my friend Pam (yes, that Pam) who is a cheerleader-for-mental-health, and shared my dilemma. Should I: 1) go the traditional route, the publishing route I’d always seen as the ‘right’ way, which meant waiting indefinitely for things to maybe ‘work out,’ or, 2) take the risk and go with Create Space (Amazon’s publishing wing) and give up my life-long dream of “being published.” Did I dare presume that my writing was good enough even if I wasn’t chosen by a publisher? Could I assume the responsibility, the risk, go for broke?

“Just do it,” Pam said. “You know you can write, the books are strong, believe in yourself. “ (Yeah, sure, Pam, easy for you to say.) And then she started in on that visualization stuff, what the pessimistic, skeptical Catholic girl in me calls “woo-woo.” Like “Open your mind to what you want” and “Dare to imagine” and “Focus on the beautiful” and “Give yourself moments of joy.” Then, “See what you want in life and move towards it.”

Like if I visualize myself as a writer, a published writer, supporting myself as a writer, and put myself into that, with a whole heart, I open my life to not just possibility but achievable reality. As long as I also do the hard work.

WOO-WOO!!!

What the hell, I thought. I could die soon. So I did what Pam said. I picked Door #2. It’s been a peripatetic journey. But only a year after “lunch with Pam,” I have two novels, books-I-can-hold-in-my-hand, available on Amazon and Kindle, with solid Kirkus reviews (which I would like to share but then “I might get a swelled head.”)

I asked Pam to do some “author interviews” for my website (www.susankraus.com) and she said, “Sure.” Voila! Instead of worrying, it was done.

My novels’ protagonist is Grace McDonald, a therapist and mediator (hence the Grace McDonald Series). She is about 55, has suffered losses and learned from her pain. While she is not averse to bending the rules, Grace solves conundrums and crimes by using her brain, her ‘women’s intuition.’ (And, yes, woo-woo.) Grace has a daughter who is a single mom, and a grandson with Asperger’s. She has work with clients and grocery shopping and chores and all the stuff that fill women’s lives. Grace has opinions and is willing to make some waves. And, in every book, she’ll grow and change.

So, that’s my story today: a 64-year old woman who is reaching for the stars (like 5-star reviews kind of stars, but other stars as well.), a skeptic and pessimist, who is trying to see the world differently, trying to super-size instead of downsize her dreams, trying to do what Pam teaches: to open my mind, discover joy in the ordinary and not be afraid to “ask the universe” (which makes me giggle when I say it out loud) for what I desire.

So, if you like solid, character-driven thriller/mysteries, but where it’s really about the relationships, then read Fall From Grace. And if you like provocative, family dynamics/ social issues books with a sucker-punch ending, then read All God’s Children. And if you like book series, because you enjoy returning to the same characters and developing a relationship with them (and their author), then get both. And then tell me what you think.

I do know that the skeptic in me is facing a stand-off with the woman who wants to trust and believe. It’s shaping up to be quite a show. But that’s for Book Three.

Links: http://www.amazon.com/Susan-Kraus/e/B00NRGFO6E/ref=ntt_dp_epwbk_0

Four vital truths that self-help books fail to mention. Or why striving sucks.

“If ever I am sad or hurt or ill, I have forgotten what God thinks and put my little meaningless ideas where His Thoughts belong.” – A Course in Miracles

I know. I know. Many of my books are listed in the self-help section. But here’s why I’d like to invent a new category:

1. Striving is unnecessary. By the time we’re adults, we master a mental architecture that insists our number one job is to figure out what’s missing from our lives and to create a plan to find it.

But here’s a news flash!!! There is nothing missing. When we strive to change, we set up an energetic frequency (I always think of the cloud that followed Pig-Pen in the Peanuts cartoon) that keeps our good away.

2. In Truth, there is absolutely nothing wrong. No matter how it may appear to the naked eye, you, me, all of us are perfect just as we are. Right here, in this moment, we are perfect children of the most high F.P. When we seek to “fix” something, we only add weight to the illusion that something could be wrong. And in seeking, we train ourselves how to be broken. Wanting to change something sets off warning bells, sends up a red flare. Danger-danger, Will Robinson.

3.There’s no need to follow the seven (or eight) steps. Most of us believe there’s a linear progression. We go from A to B to C, etc. When you live in miracle mind, which is your natural state, answers arise spontaneously, people you’re meant to meet show up in the same aisle at the drug store, everything works without effort. Going from A to Z to A again is how we can fly.

4. There’s 24/7 custom-designed guidance. One size (or diet plan or strategy for meeting your soulmate) does not fit all. Everything you need to know is already inside you. The fact you look for it somewhere else is why the answers continue to elude. Any worthy pilgrimage will always bring you straight back to yourself.

So, I’d like to propose a name change. Instead of self-help, how about Self-Connecting to the Bigger Thing. Look for it at your local bookstore.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

“Whatever you are doing, love yourself for doing it. Whatever you are feeling, love yourself for feeling it – Thaddeus Golas

“I am a beloved child of the universe and the universe lovingly takes care of me now.”- Louise Hay

We celebrate Abe and Martin’s birthday with a national holiday. I’d like to propose today, October 8, as an international holiday to honor another great soul: Louise Hay who has devoted her life to love and teaching so many of us that there is nothing more valuable than to love and respect ourselves—just as we are—no matter what.

I was witness to her legacy the past two weekends at I Can Do It!’s in Rotterdam and London. Over and over, I heard speakers reflecting back Louise’s words, from Anita Moorjani, author of Dying to Be Me, who said the most significant lesson she learned from her near-death experience was to love herself to Jessica Ortner, author of The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss and Body Confidence, who wisely pointed out, “We can never hate ourselves thin.”

So today, in honor of Ms. Hay’s 88th birthday, I’d like to encourage everyone who reads this post to get up, walk to the closest mirror, look yourself deep in the eyes and remind yourself how deeply and passionately you are loved.

Happy Birthday, Louise, and thank you for rocking the love.

Pam Grout, whose brilliant daughter Taz is also celebrating her birthday today, is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Why we’re creating an epidemic of love


“What is yours will come to you when you are ready.”—A Course in Miracles

Although I forgot to mention it to my power posse in today’s blessings text, I feel extremely lucky that I was able to get back in the country yesterday. I was so high from the London I Can Do It! that the drug dogs must have been wondering what I was on.

Hanging out with Anita Moorjani, Jessica Ortner, Mike Dooley, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Kyle Gray and all the other fabulous speakers was beyond spectacular. Who would have ever predicted (especially those from my college disco days) that I’d someday dance on stage? Granted it was with Dr. Robert Holden who conned all the speakers into joining him during his closing presentation, but still?

I plan to share here on the blog some of the awesome things I learned. But for today, while playing catch-up with my laundry and email, here’s three quick stories from London.

First, I learned there’s someone in British parliament that is a psychic medium—how cool is that?

Second, one of my readers told me she was in the Irish countryside while doing the Abracadabra experiment from E-Squared. She made the intention that the cows, grazing in clumps, would suddenly form a straight line. Well, guess what? No sooner did she say that then the cows looked up from their nibbles and moved into a line as straight as the Queen’s guard.

Last story came from Dr. David Hamilton, a Scottish scientist who as he says, uses science to inspire. He was doing one of the E-Squared experiments, feeling the love and, as a joke, said, “I feel so powerful I could probably stand here and a bottle of Dove deodorant would just fall into my hand.”

Believe it or not, a couple days later, while waiting for the Tube (the London subway), he helped a woman with her bags. And what fell out, right into his hands? Yep, a bottle of Dove deodorant.

Have a fantabulous day, my friends and stay tuned for lots of great inspiration from London I Can Do It!

Oh, and here’s a British take on “What a wonderful world.”

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Shazam or Suffering Succotash: you decide

“Happiness is where you start from rather than where you go. God, I sound like Yoda.”—Simon Pegg

In E-Cubed I talk about the power of words, how we literally foretell and create the future by what we say. When we talk smack about our lives, even little things like, “Oh, I wish I’d gotten up earlier and wasn’t running so late” or “Ah shucks, I just spilled coffee on my tie,” we create an energetic resonant field of problems.

But since I believe we should take our attention off problems and animate a different possibility, I’d like to tell you about two words I have just added to my vocabulary.

The first is “Shazam!” I’d heard this word before. Captain Marvel uses it to transform into his superself. But I just had breakfast with the awesome Jessica Ortner (from the Tapping Solution—check out her new book on tapping for weight loss here) and she told me that she and her friends always “Shazam” each other as a way of sending positive energy.

For example, Anita Moorjani (who was at breakfast with us—Am I a lucky camper or what?) is finding out today whether or not her extraordinary person visa for the U.S. will come through. Jessica sent some Shazam her way!

The other word I learned is brand new, or was when Phil Parker made it up. He’s a brilliant London osteopath who is able to transform we humans’ “issues” seemingly overnight. He uses something he calls “the lightning process.”

And it starts with the word du with a ^ over the “u.” Instead of saying “I am exhausted” or “I am poor” or “I am…. (whatever you don’t want to be), he suggests saying, “I am du^ing exhaustion” or “I am du^ing poor” which makes it a temporary state. It reduces the energetic charge.

The reason he chose not to use the already familiar word “do” is because it smells like blame. Last thing any of us want to do is point fingers at ourselves. Guilt and its accompanying comrades are what started the “issues” in the first place.

Remember–whatever is happening now is only temporary unless you continue to harp about it.

Two tiny words—huge possible change.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Houston, we have a winner or “Why it’s time to play with a lion’s testicles.”

“Some days there won’t be a song in your heart. Sing anyway.
“ — Emory Austin

E-Cubed launched 14 days ago. And already, it has gone into a second printing and, even more miraculously, the Red Pill experiment has already produced a winner of the Hay House prize pack.

Not five days after it’s release, Melissa Haynes, who describes herself as an adventure junkie, conservationist and ink slinger, found all eight signs and tweeted me whilst I was on my way to Rotterdam.

She wrote a wonderful blog post about her experience with E-Cubed which I am including here.

But first, I have to tell you about her amazing book that both Jimmy Fallon and Ellen DeGeneres have raved about. Well, Jimmy actually put it on his list of books “not to read,” but he was just riffing on the unusual title: Learning to Play with a Lion’s Testicles. It’s a South African saying that means, “By all means, get out there and take risks.”

I can’t wait to read it. It’s about Melissa’s journey from exhausted executive to volunteer in a South African conservation project. Here’s an Amazon link if you feel so inclined:

But in the meantime, here’s Melissa’s blog about her experience with E-Cubed’s Red Pill corollary. To see the actual pictures (which I couldn’t figure out how to post on my blog), go here:

In the meantime, take it away, Melissa:

“I’m currently reading Pam Grout’s fantastic new book, E-Cubed. It’s a series of experiments that prove the FP (Field of Potentiality) exists and what we want to see, we do.

Experiment #2 The Red Pill Corollary

The Theory: My beliefs and expectations impact what I draw from the FP.

The Question: Is it possible I only see what I expect to see?

The Hypothesis: If I decide to look for the eight things below, I will find them.

Time Allowed: 72 hours. Start Date: Sept 21 9:00 am

1) A Belly Laugh

I had a huge belly laugh while watching Orange is the New Black on Netflix but had no idea how to take a photo of that. I also had a huge belly laugh every time I found one of the things I was looking for – but again, how do I photograph that? But then I saw this guy in my local Vietnamese restaurant – guy (Buddah) with a big belly and laughing.

2) A toy from your childhood

My little pony – not only did I have the identical one in my childhood, it was my favorite. A little girl was playing with this one and I snapped a photo.

3) Favorite song from high school – OK this is when it starts to get weird!

On Monday I was walking down Main street and passed by an old vinyl shop. In the window several covers were displayed – including a Prince album. Yes, I loved, and still love Prince. But, I was rushing and didn’t take a photo! It wasn’t until several hours later I was kicking myself. But then, low and behold while listening to the radio, Prince’s Raspberry beret came on (all his songs were my favorites, but especially this one – I even had a raspberry beret!). I screeched over to the side of the road to take a photo of the radio information listing – and the funny thing is, this radio’s songs NEVER come up on the information setting, it just lists the name of the radio station.

4) The Number 222

I was driving down the street with a big smile on my face because I just knew that as soon as I stopped desperately looking for the number 222 it would jump out at me. The next red light I came to I looked over and there was a bright yellow awning with the number 222 glaring at me.

5) A Beach Ball

With time running out I was searching high and low for a beach ball to no avail. I came home and was sorting through a pile of stickers and kazam! A whole sheet of teddy bears holding beach balls. I laughed because the whole time I had been looking for a big beach ball and these stickers were in front of me every day.

6) A senior citizen in a fashionable hat

On the first morning we went to a coffee shop and at the table behind me, in the middle of the shop was a senior in a fashionable hat. I discreetly took and photo but then questioned how fashionable her hat was, and wondered, is she really a senior citizen? (first photo below). I walked outside and across the street was another senior citizen, also in a fashionable hat with a big red bow. I took her photo as well. The FP was saying, not good enough? Here’s another one for you then!

7) A Smile from a baby

The first morning while in the coffee shop, a young mom walked in with her six month old in a car seat. She plopped the seat down on the floor in the line behind me. I looked at the baby and sure enough, bug gummy smile. But I couldn’t bring myself to take a photo of a stranger’s baby and risk getting arrested. I was struggling with how I was going to complete this one while at the hair salon, flipping through a magazine I came across a whole page of smiling babies!

8) A Billboard with a message for you.

OK, so with all these amazingly cool things happening, I thought, hmmm, there aren’t really any billboards near where I live (or so I thought). But I was thinking how cool it was that when we change what we’re looking for i.e. things that piss us off versus things to be grateful for or amazed about, this billboard nearly slapped me in the face! I drive by it every day but had never even noticed it before. The message was clear, this way of thinking is a brighter choice!

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

The two magic words that can change your life forever

“Resistance is futile.”—The Borg from Star Trek

Sherlock Holmes, if he were to get involved, would probably surmise that I learned the magic words I’m about to dispense from one of the speakers at the Rotterdam I Can Do It! Conference.

And he’d be right about one thing. I did learn these words at the conference. But not from one of the speakers.

On one of the breaks, I met this really cool volunteer named Natasja Frowijn. Write that name down. You will be hearing from this fabulous 29-year-old (yes, a mere 29 years old!) who healed her body after a near-fatal scooter accident. For five years, she was bed-ridden in excruciating pain. After doctor after doctor told her she would live the rest of her life in a wheelchair (if she was lucky), she was ready to take a boatload of morphine and call it a life.

But instead, she decided that she would heal herself–not for her family, not for her husband–but for herself.

“I decided that that not only would I heal myself, but I would go on to live an awesome life,” Natasja told me.

She appealed to her grandfathers on the other side. She said to the universe, “Show me.”

That day, she “just happened” to turn on Oprah (yes, Oprah is even in Holland) and saw Louise Hay talking about how she healed herself from cancer. Natasja had never heard of Louise Hay, but that was clear enough guidance. She was on her way.

That week, a woman knocked on her door offering an 8-week course on Louise’s “You Can Heal Your Life.” From that moment on, Natasja has been able to draw into her life pretty much every thing she ever wants. For her, it’s a game.

Today, she’s completely healthy and whole. She works part-time as a nurse and part-time as a medium, talking to folks on the other side. She’s beautiful and fabulous and I’m so grateful I was able to meet her.

As we were talking, I thought, “Wow, this girl should write a book” and guess what? She has already started. Not five minutes later, a publisher came up and said she wanted to see her book. Although Natasja is holding out for Hay House (and believe me if Natasja wants it, it’s as good as a done deal), I was amazed at how quickly she drew this to her. Many people spend decades trying to attract a publisher.

So you’re probably wondering, what are the magic words? Don’t let their simplicity fool you. The words are “It’s okay.”

No matter what. No matter what is happening to you, it’s important to acknowledge that, “it’s okay.

No matter how you feel, “it’s okay”. No matter what you think, “it’s okay.”

Most of us, instead of being “okay” with our lives, get all balled up with judgment and fear. We exhaust ourselves trying to make things different.

The loving intelligence, the big Quantum playground knows exactly how to play out in your life. But when our little pea brains get involved (“Oh, no! I shouldn’t feel this way. I must stop this now.” Kick-kick-kick. “I’d better call my friends and hash this out. Or join a support group, start a blog.”), we put out a murky energy that blocks the healing current.

Our thoughts emit an electrical charge. And when the thoughts are busy “not being okay,” we put up a roadblock to our good.

“It’s okay” is the energy of love. So whatever is happening in your life, simply say, “It’s okay” and let the loving flow of the universe do the heavy lifting.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

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