“Whatever appears to be obstructing you has no reality, no substance. It’s your own creation, a phantom lurking in the shadows of your own mind.”—Jed McKenna
Who’s up for a little experiment?
This week at my P.P. (Possibility Posse), someone recalled a book entitled, “Do you want to be right or do you want to be married?” We all got a laugh out of it, but recognized the wisdom. Wanting to “be right” is a bullet train to misery. It’s one of the ego’s most efficient henchmen.
So I decided to try a little seven-day test. Anytime I notice myself getting into a tug-of-war with anyone, I stop, take a breath and admit, “You may be right.”
Boom! Cuts resistance off at the pass. In the end, it doesn’t matter who’s right. In fact, concepts like right/wrong are rather archaic. I mean just look at the photos from the James Webb telescope? We’re looking at stars and galaxies whose light was emitted 13 billion years ago. Astronomers have even detected a mysterious radio burst, with a pattern much like a heartbeat.
What I think about the rightness or wrongness of anything is, as Michael Singer wrote in his new book, statistically insignificant. Yes, it arranges complicated realities into tidy, satisfying narratives.
But wow! There’s SO.MUCH.MORE.
So rather than play the “who’s right?” game, I plan to focus on the unexplored provinces within me that remain forever free, spacious, aware.
Who’s with me? #222 Forever
Pam Grout is the author of 20 books including E-Squared, E-Cubed, Thank & Grow Rich and her latest, The Course in Miracles Experiment: A Starter Kit for Rewiring Your Mind (And Therefore Your World).