C. JoyBell C – Pam Grout

Defy the lie: why the “F word” and I roll deep

September 5, 2017 32 Comments

“Last night I lost the world, and gained the universe.” ― C. JoyBell C.

According to the Course in Miracles, forgiveness (the F word) is the answer to everything. But like God, love and other important concepts, forgiveness comes with a cargo-hold full of baggage and is not well understood.

Forgiveness doesn’t suggest overlooking something someone did to me. The F word, according to the Course, means it’s impossible for anyone to DO something to me. For me to think, even for a brief moment, that I understand the world from the tiny bits of my perception is to make a huge mistake.

All I can see, all I will ever see, is what the viewfinder of my limited perception shows me. If my perception is fixed, nothing can come between the goal that it has chosen.

Let’s say I choose the perception that so and so is a misogynistic asshole. If that perception stays fixed (meaning I refuse to forgive) nothing—not a miracle, not a sign, not an evidential slap in the face, can allow any other truth to manifest for me.

Likewise, if my perception is convinced that money is hard to come by, the world’s unlimited abundance cannot get through my blockade. It’s right there, eager to unfold in my life, but my perception has put up orange cones.

Forgiveness means knowing my perception is forever tiny and incomplete. Forgiveness means knowing I am blessed and that every single thing that happens, every single person who pushes my buttons is a gift. Everything is FOR me. Nothing is against me.

Forgiveness is to defy the lie. To defy the lie that something is wrong, that life sucks, that so and so is a horrible evil person.

The coolest thing about forgiveness is it relieves me of having to make judgments. Knowing I can’t and don’t understand the whole relieves me of having to decide what’s good and bad, decisions I’m incapable of making. It literally frees me. And that’s why the F word and I roll deep.

Pam Grout is the author of 19 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released, Art & Soul,Reloaded: A Year-Long Apprenticeship to Summon the Muses and Ignite Your Daring, Audacious, Creative Side.

“Everything is lit with hope and sparkles with a gentle friendliness.”—A Course in Miracles

July 25, 2013 4 Comments

“I tie no weights to my ankles.” –C. JoyBell C

When my friend Robbin was a little girl, she had two burning questions: 1. How were the giraffes getting to Kansas? 2. And why don’t we want them peeping in our windows?

Every night, Robbin’s mom insisted she close her bedroom windows to avoid….well, Robbin always thought she said giraffes. Needless to say, she eventually figured out it was “drafts” her mom hoped to keep out, but for quite a while, she was extremely puzzled why her mother wouldn’t want those really cool, really tall animals stopping by for a visit. After all, they paid good money to see them at the zoo.

I thought of this story last night when someone on Facebook mentioned they had set the intention to manifest a giraffe. While I assumed it was a joke (although that is one of my new intentions for this week), I later saw that indeed a giraffe showed up in, not 48 hours, but in four days. Pretty powerful manifestation either way.

But the reason I share this story is because Robbin’s innocent misinterpretation is a good metaphor for the perceptual mistakes we make every day when we get up expecting difficulties and unhappiness. For that matter, getting up every morning and expecting “this day” to be a repeat of yesterday (and we all do) is a huge misinterpretation and a giant fence that keeps the world’s unlimited abundance from flowing in the windows.

We do ourselves a huge disservice when we don’t open up and allow for magic and joy. Because we cling so tightly to “what we know,” the world’s largesse is locked out along with the drafts and the giraffes.

As for me, I let yesterday go and open the windows, the doors and maybe even the roof so blessings and new possibilities can come rushing in.

Pam Grout is the author of 16 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.