The universe is limitless, abundant, and strangely accommodating.

“Infinite Intelligence is ever ready to carry out man’s smallest or greatest demands.”—Florence Scovel Shinn

On Sunday, I’m giving a talk at the Unity Church I attend and my minister told me yesterday she titled the talk “Manifestation.”

Don’t know yet whether I’ll share these two manifestation stories, but since they recently happened, there’s a 50/50 chance. But by then, who knows? I may have won the lottery or sold my TV series which would, of course, overshadow these recent events.

Manifestation, as you undoubtedly know, is when you pull something out of the Field of Potentiality. It happens all the time. You draw into your life whatever you think about. As Florence Scovel Shinn explains it, “The imagination has been called ‘The Scissors of the Mind’ and it is ever cutting, cutting day by day, the pictures man sees there, and sooner or later he meets his own creations in his outer world.”

She also says, “A person with an imaging faculty trained to image only good brings into his life “every righteous desire of his heart”—health, wealth, love, friends, perfect self expression.

So the other day, I was talking to my friend Wendy. She recently moved to Florida with her beau who just happens to be a garage sale fanatic. When they lived here in the Midwest, he spent practically every nice weather weekend scouring neighborhood sales. Now that they live in the land of perpetual sunshine, I can only imagine how often he’s out there plucking up treasures. Anyway, Wendy told me that whenever she starts thinking about something, something she believes would add joy or some other benefit to her life, Jim ends up bringing home that very item. She doesn’t have to say anything. She just starts thinking, “Hmm, I could use a new set of luggage or a new salad spinner.” Within a couple weeks, sometimes days, Jim, without even being privy to her request, comes walking innocently in the door with the exact thing she’d been thinking about.

Last week, it suddenly dawned on me that I’d been so busy blogging and traveling and doing interviews about my new book that I hadn’t done any stories for People magazine in a while. I made the mental intention to get a new assignment with this magazine for which I’ve freelanced for more than 20 years. Within a couple days, a colleague emailed me with the news that Jason Sudeikis, the Saturday Night Live star, and his fiancé actress Olivia Wilde were headlining an event in Kansas City, his hometown. Even though I was slated to be in Honduras for the event, I managed to get a pre-interview with Jason’s mom and yesterday, my story ran on The check will be arriving soon.

Truly, folks, whatever you focus on expands. Best strategy? Set an intention and then, with complete certainty, get out of the way as it barrels towards you like the Pamplona bulls.

Pam Grout is the author of E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.

“Poverty consciousness results from wearing blinders to the abundance of life.”–Glenda Green

“Suppose we’ve chosen the wrong god. Every time we go to church we’re just making him madder and madder.”—Homer Simpson

I had every intention of posting this on Friday, but couldn’t quite make it happen from my I-Phone. So here it is, a couple days late:

As you read this, I’m probably on a plane, heading to Honduras where I’ll be hanging out at Pico Bonito. I’ll be birdwatching, rafting and gathering intel for an upcoming travel story.

So before I go, I want to share a little something from my book, God Doesn’t Have Bad Hair Days.

First, if you’re thinking about getting this book, fahgetaboutit! It’s out of print. In fact, I revamped it and sold it to Hay House (who had a much better appreciation for it) as E-Squared.

So, fair warning, if you’ve already read E-Squared, avoid finding a copy of this book which IS still available in some circles. In fact, I got some flack from a reader in England who loved E-Squared, went out and bought three more of my books, one of which was God Doesn’t Have Bad Hair Days. Sorry about that!

The one and only thing I like better about this book (than it’s new incarnation as E-Squared) is Page 35.

Here’s what that page says:

“Before we get started, I need to ask you a favor. It’s a simple favor, won’t cost you a penny, and it takes all of three second to perform.


I’d like you to please rip this page out of the book.

And then on the back side of that page (page 36), it reads:

Uh..not that I’m all-seeing or anything, but it appears to me that the page I asked you to rip out is still attached.


Could it be you’ve been conditioned to believe that “good people” do NOT rip pages out of books? Is it possible you’ve been taught that books are for reading and that one of your responsibilities as a good, law-abiding citizen, is to keep your books clean and free of smudges?

As I can say is your mother would be proud.

But what I’m saying is the page I’ve politely asked you to tear out is of absolutely no value, says nothing of any importance, and is totally and irrefutably irrelevant to the contents of this book.

Except for one thing, it demonstrates a principles this book is going to repeat over and over again. You and all humans like you have learned a lot of lessons in life that are getting in your way. You have picked up a lot of information that doesn’t serve you.

You’re educated about a lot of things that aren’t true, and in fact, are actually keeping you from becoming all you are capable of being.

It also demonstrates the one thing that makes this book different than any book you have read before. The message is not in the printed type on these pages. The message is in you. And the only way you’re going to get the message is by getting up off you keister and doing the experiments exactly as I instruct you. Now, would you please do me a favor and rip this damned page out of the book?

Lessons on love, joy and the power of dreaming from the world’s oldest CEO

“Behold infinity every day and all that you see shall be given you.”—Glenda Green

I’m writing a story this week about Denver’s Rockmount Ranch Wear. It’s a six-decade business that was started by “Papa” Jack Weil who joyously ran the company until he was 107. He showed up every day, sat at his little wooden desk in the front of the store and was widely regarded as the world’s oldest CEO.

He wasn’t, as far as I know, a student of metaphysics, but the reason his business was so successful and that his snap-button Western shirts are the go-to shirt for everyone from Eric Clapton and Tom Hanks to Robert Redford and Paul McCartney (he wore not one, but two different Rockmount shirts the night he hosted Saturday Night Live) is because Papa Jack believed the following things:

“It’s not who you are that matters. It’s what your dreams are.” Papa Jack’s grandson, Steve, runs the business today. He wrote a book called Ask Papa Jack: Wisdom of the World’s Oldest CEO that gives powerful insight into that magical component of always believing in possibilities, in dreams, in what could be. Forget what looks like reality. Dream! That’s where everything comes from anyway.

“The government predicts possible 7 percent unemployment. If it goes to 10 percent, there will still be 90 percent working, consuming, buying.” Wow! By focusing on what’s working (Nine-tenths of the population is still out there consuming), you get more of what’s working. Most of us zero right in on that 10 percent figure, on the thing that isn’t working. Well, guess what? You get more of what isn’t working. It’s like the speck and infinity I talked about yesterday. Why focus on anything but what you want?

“I was always thinking of something new. And I never stopped enjoying myself, not for a minute.” He nailed it on the head with that one. Love what you do. It’s the door to everything. Enjoy yourself and never STOP enjoying yourself, not for even one split moment. The reason Ang Lee used Rockmount Shirts in his Oscar-winning Brokeback Mountain (the shirts worn by Heath Ledger and Jake Gyllenhaal are forever entwined and displayed at L.A’s Autry National Center) is because he could feel the love Papa Jack put into all of his products, into creating, into dreaming.

“Every morning I read the obits, and if my name is not there, I get dressed and go to work.” Papa Jack had a great sense of humor. He believed in making things fun. If it isn’t fun, why bother? That’s the key. Always focus on the fun. Infuse joy and delight into everything you do.

“Relationships are everything.” Papa Jack was forever baffled at the popularity of his shirts with such headline-makers as Ronald Reagan, Elvis Presley and even Miley Cyrus. But he was every bit as personable and valued his relationships with every customer, which when it comes to business (and pretty much everything else) is all that really matters.

So yeah, Papa Jack probably never read “The Secret” or studied the law of attraction, but because of his gut instincts and knowing on a deep, visceral level that relationships, love, joy and creativity are the bottom line, he created a life (and a business) that lives on long after he’s gone.

Pam Grout is the author of E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.

“Whether we love, or close our hearts to love, is a mental choice we make, every moment of every day.”—Marianne Williamson

“Observations not only disturb what is to be measured, they produce it.”
Pascual Jordan, German physicist

This is a story about a speck and infinity. Since infinity is a rather difficult concept to grasp, I’m going to use the metaphor of this familiar painting:

For the sake of argument, let’s pretend Mona Lisa here is infinity.

So here’s the speck:

( . )

It should be pretty obvious, even to the untrained eye, that Da Vinci’s famous painting is a heck of a lot bigger than this itty, bitty speck.


(Notice, you practically have to strain your eyes to see it)

Yet the speck is what we have spent the last two days (and indeed most of our lives) focusing on. The speck is the anomaly of recent events in Boston. While most of the world is perfectly fine (the sun’s still rising, spring flowers are still growing, the school crossing guards are still directing hand-holding kindergartners across the street) and 99.999999 percent of its inhabitants are safe and alive and still breathing fresh, clean air, we’ve glued all our attention to the speck.

Herein, lie the challenge of our times. We manifest into our lives whatever we focus on. This is a spiritual law and a certainty of quantum physics.

The world we see on television is nothing but what we’ve chosen to focus upon. Sadly, up until now, that has been mayhem, problems and unsightly bath tub scum.

We’ve drawn out of the magnificent Field of Infinite Potentiality a speck of seeming disaster and we’re staring at it like it’s a 16-plex movie cinema.

I compare it to the job review where the boss gives high marks in 16 areas. Yet we focus on that one slight aberration that “still needs improvement.”

It’s time for all of us to start bringing our attention back to beauty, to Truth, to what’s working. A friend of mine even healed her sprained right foot by taking her focus off the pain and concentrating on how wonderful her left foot felt.

Once something grabs our attention (a headache, a thought of unworthiness, an unfortunate world event), we devote every waking moment to worrying about it, to getting the latest twitter updates. And as long as we keep looking at the speck, it will only grow.

If you can see even a tiny glimpse of goodness, of peace, of kind, well-meaning fellow humans, place your attention on that. This simple truth is what will ultimately save the world.

We draw into our lives whatever it is we focus upon. Isn’t it time to take our battery-powered headlamps off the speck and focus on the beauty, the depth and the Truth of Mona Lisa?

Pam Grout is the author of E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.

There is no wisdom that could ever trump kindness.

“Look for the helpers. You’ll always find people who are helping.” –Mr. Rogers

I’d like to take this opportunity to point out all the amazing things that happened in Boston yesterday. I know you’re likely focusing on a different reality, but, as a reporter who often gets called into “disasters” like this, I know from personal experience that the media completely misses the bigger story.

Mass media shows the blood, the ambulances, the crying family members. But in my work as a reporter for People magazine where yes, I report on tornadoes and kidnappings and whole towns being washed away by floods, I witness the most incredible displays of generosity, the very finest of the human spirit.

I know it sounds counterintuitive, but just so you keep things in perspective:

** Dozens of runners in yesterday’s marathon crossed the finish line and kept right on running to the hospital where they donated blood.

** Boston residents emerged from their homes to offer orange juice, free rooms to stranded runners, showers, kind words.

** Restaurants offered free meals, open wifi, electricity to charge their phones.

** A website went up immediately with offers like, “I have a couch, an inflatable twin mattress and beautiful Chihuahuas to love you.”

** The Brooklyn Academy of Music projected this:


And then this:

And, of course, you may have seen comedian Oswalt Patton’s facebook post (I’m happy to report it went viral), but in case, you missed it, here’s what he said:

“I don’t know what’s going to be revealed to be behind all of this mayhem — one human insect or a poisonous mass of broken sociopaths.

But here’s what I DO know. If it’s one person or a HUNDRED people, that number is not even a fraction of a fraction of a fraction of a percent of the population on this planet. You watch the videos of the carnage and there are people running TOWARDS the destruction to help out. (Thanks FAKE Gallery founder and owner Paul Kozlowski for pointing this out to me). This is a giant planet and we’re lucky to live on it but there are prices and penalties incurred for the daily miracle of existence. One of them is, every once in a while, the wiring of a tiny sliver of the species gets snarled and they’re pointed towards darkness.

But the vast majority stands against that darkness and, like white blood cells attacking a virus, they
dilute and weaken and eventually wash away the evildoers and, more importantly, the damage they wreak. This is beyond religion or creed or nation. We would not be here if humanity were inherently evil. We’d have eaten ourselves alive long ago.

So when you spot violence, or bigotry, or intolerance or fear or just garden-variety misogyny, hatred or ignorance, just look it in the eye and think, “The good outnumber you, and we always will.”

Think how much closer we’d be if, instead of talking about our dysfunctions, we got together to share our creations.

“I could show and tell your students things they could gain from no other wizards.” –J.K. Rowling

Woot! Woot! It’s Show and Tell Day!

Yep, we adults need show and tell. Probably more than kindergarteners. Think how much closer we’d all be if, instead of getting together to talk about our dysfunctions, we got together to look at each other’s creations.

Why isn’t this a normal thing? Every week or so we should get together with families and friends and show them something we really like, something unique about us. We should bring in some doodle we made on the side of a Visa bill or something we thought up while waiting at the dry cleaners. Adults still think things up. We just don’t tell anyone. We don’t think it’s important. Not with lawns that need mowing and mufflers that need fixing.

So with that thought in mind, I’ve got three things to share, all sent by friends and readers of E-Squared:

This first picture is from the beautiful Maria Venardis who, while doing Experiment #2 that proves “You Impact the Field and Draw from It According to your Beliefs and Expectations,” made the intention to see a blue feather. She’d more or less forgotten about it, was out walking with a friend at the park and voila! look what showed up:


Second item for today’s Show and Tell is from a doctor friend of mine who was also doing the Volkswagen Jetta experiment.

Here’s what he said:

“I counted 80+ beige colored cars driving down Mass Street. Finally got tired of counting them. Decided to look for yellow butterflies a few days later. Can you appreciate my jaw-dropping moment when I went in to see an elderly female patient with hip pain.”

Here’s what she was wearing on the lapel of her sweater:


Last story is from another reader (sorry no pictures with this one)

“I have to tell you about the Abracadabra Principle (That’s the one that proves, “Whatever you Focus on Expands). I asked for flowers. Something I never get. I had to receive them by 9:20 this morning. I never thought I wouldn’t get them, I knew some how I would. Around 7:30 this morning one of the women I work with handed me a large strip of white paper and said, “here’s a bouquet of flowers for you.” Something she has never done and she said she doesn’t know why she did it. I laughed and then told her on break why it was so funny. Beautiful white flowers, how cool.”

And lastly, remember that wonderful “Ode to Money” written last week by Felicia Spahr at

Well, today, she’s featuring a blog post from me, an excerpt I guess you could say, from my upcoming project. Check it out here:

And this picture, that I failed to run last Monday, is the incomparable Fel of said named blog in the flesh. Isn’t she gorgeous?

Thanks everybody for your amazing emails and stories and pictures. I love you all and am so glad we’re connected.

Pam Grout is the author of E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.

Still waiting for your dreams to come true? Don’t blame the universe. Perchance it’s your convoluted thoughts?

“There are certain laws which govern the process of acquiring riches, and once these laws are learned and obeyed, riches will come with mathematical certainty.” –Wallace D. Wattles

You’ve probably heard the proverb, “Do not judge a man until you walk two moons (or a mile) in their moccasins.”

So today, I’d like to give you a little taste of what it’s like to walk in the moccasins of the Field of Potentiality–or the universe, God, Cosmo Kramer, take your pick of descriptions.

Here’s a small sample of what the F.P. gets on a daily basis:

You: “I really want to travel.”

F.P.: “Great! I’d love to set that up for you, but it would be helpful to know where you want to go?”

You: “Ummm, well, maybe Paris. Or wait. No, I really want to go to the Caribbean. Except, no, I always wanted to learn to tango in Buenos Aires. But wait, can I really afford it?”

These are the kind of messages the F.P. gets all day, every day.

On one hand, we want a new car, but on the other, won’t that mean higher payments? We hope for a positive outcome, but isn’t optimism a bunch of baloney? We want to be committed to so-and-so, but what if she leaves?

Every thought, feeling and vibration influences the F.P. And the ONLY reason we don’t turn water into wine and heal illness with one touch is because our thoughts are scattered all over the place. Instead of being one, constant, well-aimed tuning fork, our thoughts are like a junior high band of trumpet players.

The force is literally bouncing off walls. Got this way. No, wait: go that way. It’s knocking around like a lightning bug in a Mason jar. This amazing all-powerful force that works with the certainty of mathematics is is being dissipated because we have no clear bead on what we really want.

It’s not that the F.P. isn’t handing over your intentions. It’s just that you’re confusing it by intending way too many, completely opposite things.

So give the F.P. a break. And remember, that it’s your thoughts that need fine-tuning, not the F.P.

Pam Grout is the author of E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.

Important 2013 update to Napoleon Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich”

“You are already wealthy, but you have been taught not to experience your wealth.” –David Cameron Gikandi

In 1937 when Napoleon Hill wrote his now-classic tome, quantum physics was still in diapers. Einstein, of course, had posited his famous theory of relativity, but quantum physicists didn’t completely understand how it worked.

To tell you the truth, they still have trouble making sense of the crazy quantum world that is changed by simple observation. As famous physicist Richard Feynman was known to say, “Nobody understands quantum mechanics.”

However, we do know with complete certainty that thoughts produce energy (much like invisible radio waves) and that they have a significant impact on your life. This energy, in fact, provides the building blocks for your life experience.

The update to Hill’s material should be this: “Think and BE Rich.” Time is irrelevant. You can “be rich” now. Money is only a representation of your “wealth consciousness” and “wealth consciousness” which is the true source of your financial picture is available right at this moment.

Money—or what we think of as money—bills, coins, etc.—are merely tools that demonstrate a person’s “wealth consciousness.” And, in fact, according to David Cameron Gikandi, only 4 percent of money in banks (depending on the country) exist in physical form. Furthermore, he says, “Money is not real. It’s a shadow of something else.”

So by expanding your consciousness into the true abundance of the world, you acquire what is in you already. As Gikandi says, “You have more wealth capability within you than you can possibly experience in a lifetime. Nor do you need to know how to convert wealth consciousness into paper money. It happens automatically when you expand your wealth consciousness.”

In the quantum world, you are connected to everything. You already have all the riches you could ever imagine. They exist right now as probability waves. But that’s the problem. You don’t imagine them.

You keep focusing on what you don’t have.

So back to Napoleon Hill. He advises people to come up with a date when they want a certain amount of money. Sometime in the future. But the trick in the quantum world is to “be rich now.” Again, all your riches already exist in the quantum world.

Being wealthy is an internal state. As Gikandi points out, “It has nothing to do with the outside world. The internal state of wealth is a decision you make right now and you become it right Now. You need nothing outside yourself to make this decision. Do not attempt to get wealth. Be wealth.

“Even in a billion lifetimes, you cannot possibly exhaust the wealthy given to you freely by life. But you can “fail” to receive it by your own thoughts, words, action, and most of all, your chosen states of being.”

The only thing standing in your way is your “wealth consciousness.” Isn’t it time to quit “thinking and growing rich?” Instead, it’s time to Think and BE Rich.

Pam Grout is the author of E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.

A Successful ‘God Experiment’ (True Story)

This is a blog post from Frederick Zappone, who wrote me before I left on my travel writing assignment. Enjoy!!!

You can go on over to his blog here:

We all have a name for the ‘organizing intelligence of the universe’ that I call God. Recently I came across a series of experiments where I could prove beyond a shadow of a doubt that this ‘intelligence’ not only heard my intentions but would manifest my intentions into my physical reality in the time-frame I gave it. This experiment didn’t allow me to specify what the gift/blessing would be (the fourth experiment does). I only had to be open to receiving whatever blessing or gift the universe wanted to send my way.

In this first experiment, I was to request an unexpected gift/blessing from this ‘intelligence’ and set a short deadline of 48 hours for it to fulfill my request. The gift/blessing had to be totally unexpected and had to show up in a way that it was proof positive, to me, that this ‘intelligence’ heard me and responded to my request.

I followed the directions and made my request for the gift/blessing on April 2nd at 2:30 PM with the deadline for my request to be fulfilled by April 4th (today) by 2:30 PM.

I must admit I had some doubts but kept my focus on this ‘intelligence’ keeping it word and delivering to me what I asked for. When I had doubts, I told the ‘intelligence’ I really needed the proof and I really needed for this to happen because I wanted to become much better at manifesting the things I wanted out of thin air. I have been able to do this in the past in a ‘hit or miss’ fashion but now I wanted to be able to do it consciously, at will.

Today at 10 AM, I took my dogs out for a walk and at the same time, reminding this ‘intelligence’ that it had 4 1/2 hours left to present me with an unexpected gift/blessing. I also ask it to make me ALERT so I wouldn’t miss my gift or blessing..

As I was walking back home with my dogs, I was thinking about the unexpected gift I was waiting for and hoping it would be a SIGN that I was on-track in regards to my book Love Is All I Know being successful.

As I reached the intersection of Alexander and Guthrie Streets, I heard someone call out my name. In front of me, in a white pick up truck, was Jackie, Vona’s (my fiance) new daughter-in-law. I like Jackie a lot but there is no reason for her to visit me but she was indeed coming to visit me. She said she wanted to interrupt my day, that she had something to give me.

I was puzzled, I couldn’t figure out what she could possibly have for me. She ask me if I was headed back home. I said yes, she said she would meet me back there….

I got back to the house, brought the dogs in and went to the front door to let Jackie in. When she came in the door, she had a package for me. She said she was down in Virginia Beach visiting her mom over Easter. She said she was in a little store and saw a sign that reminded her of me so she bought it for me as an unexpected gift.

It was 11:30 AM when she gave me the package and immediately upon opening it, I got goosebumps because the ‘organizing intelligence of the universe’ that I call God responded to my request perfectly. It was the unexpected gift/blessing, I asked for, from a person who had no reason at all to bless me with a gift within the time frame of my request to the universe. In addition, she was totally unaware of my experiment until I told her about it after I received her package.

The gift she gave me also answered my question about what’s required, on my part, to make sure my book Love Is All I Know, becomes a bestseller. Below you will see a picture of the unexpected blessing/gift I received today with its emphatic message to me regarding the success of my book. – Frederick Zappne

The experiment I performed and wrote about in this article was taken from Pam Grout’s fascinating book titled: E-Squared: Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality (Hay House Insights)

“Money, my long lost lover.” –Felicia Spahr@felsgotswag

Here’s that guest post I promised on Friday. Thanks, Fel!!!

Money, My Long Lost Lover

by the inimitable Felicia Spahr

There was a time, not so long ago, that I was afraid to look at my checking account. Not because I wasn’t making any money, but because my relationship with money was a little off-kilter. We didn’t look each other in the eye. We weren’t honest. We didn’t communicate. I didn’t listen when my money said ‘too much’, and I didn’t listen when my money said, ‘Hey there—wasn’t our date supposed to be tonight?’ I never listened, and I became afraid. Afraid of what money would do to get back at me.

I realized that I needed to do a little remixing on how I felt about money. I was taught to believe that money was ‘bad’, that people who had a lot of it were ‘bad’, and that if life were free of money, I would feel freer, better, and happier. But, as my fine green friends are teaching me, a world without money is a world without value—and a world without value is people just walking around, saying hi on the street, then staring at their cup of a tea for a few hours and hearing that whisper in their heads: Now what?

As Kate Northrup has taught me, a great way to look at money is to see it as an exchange of value for value. For example, it’s a blessing to have hot water to shower with so that I can feel clean and ready for the day. It’s a blessing to have electricity so I can see, so I can plug in my computer, so I can run my online business and connect with some pretty amazing people. It’s a blessing to put gas in the car that takes me where I need to go. It’s a blessing to pay someone to help me get my life on track, so I can be free to be the person I’m meant to be. It’s a blessing to be financially independent, and live in a city I want to live in, with the people I love. All of this is extremely valuable because it amplifies our lives. It makes us better. It makes others better. Money is everyone’s BFF and they don’t even know it.

As I was going through this transformation of thought, the writer in me gently poked me a few times and asked me to write about it. Writing is how I explore and make sense of things, and of course I put a little creative twist on it and thought I would make something dashing, romantic—something for the books. And from that, my ‘Dear Money’ letter was born: a sweet love letter dedicated to a lover I had lost many moons ago.

Here it is, in its original form:

Dear Money,

Sweet green.

I know we’ve been on the outs for a while. But I think it’s time I told you how I really feel: I love you.

You have helped me move from place to place—pretty much whenever I wanted to. You have helped me go on fun trips, give gifts to people—wash my hair and brush my teeth, and all that other sexy stuff that I might take you for granted for. So thanks for that.

You have also given me freedom. You’ve let me do what I need to do so I can still eat and be happy. You’ve let me have a life I’ve always dreamed of. You’ve let me help people. In fact, now that I think about it, you’re pretty much my number one fan. You’re committed, you’re invested. You’re always there. So thanks for that.

In order to repair any damage that’s been done—have I mentioned that I love you?—I think it’s fair to say that I owe you a couple of very sexy and romantic dates. We could buy a bottle of wine, peruse what you’ve been up to the past month. Maybe we’ll write some jokes about it, or a funny song. Either way, I think we should be friends. BFFs. With the forever and ever after it.

I know it will take time, but you’ve given me plenty of that.

So, let’s make out.

With love,


Since I’ve written this letter, my money and I have had dates daily. In fact, a few times a day. First in the morning, I look at my bank account and I wave, and say things like ‘Hi’, ‘Thank you’, and ‘You give me the freedom to live the lift I want’. When I go to the bank I give a loud and proud ‘yes’ when I’m asked if I’d like to see my balance. When I make a payment on my student loan, I say ‘thank you for giving me what I needed to change my life’. When I need to talk about my money, I talk about it like it’s my loyal friend, proudly showing it off; and smiling when I see that I’ve spent it on delicious food to munch, small gifts for people I love, ways to make my business even better. I didn’t know my money affair could be such an adventure.

And I can say to you, that reimagining your feelings around money is a little scary at first. You’re letting go of some hardcore ingrained beliefs. But for a first step, just give your money a look-see. A blind date if you will. You don’t know each other very well—but you at least want to give it a try. Dazzle with your best smile, and find what you can that makes your heart go pitter-patter. The rest, as with all things, is your journey.

Bio: Felicia Spahr is a writing rogue and adventurous guide who helps people achieve their creative writing dreams. She’s a published short story + prose author, and she created Write For You, a one-on-one virtual program that leads people on an exhilarating and inspiring journey of completing that short story, screenplay, novel, play (et al!) that has been swirling around in their heads for ages and is dying to run around and get out in the world. She also teaches class and workshops on creative writing and the art of teaching. All the explosions of creativity happen at Fel’s Got Swag.