“I strongly encourage you to let go of these beliefs. They are inaccurate and melodramatic and they do not serve you.”—Cheryl Strayed
When asked “What’s the best predictor for finding a genius?” Buckminster Fuller used to answer, “A good mother.”
What he meant by that is if your mother (or your parents in general) believed in the largesse of the universe, if they saw that proverbial glass as half full and if they recognized the tremendous potential in not just you, but in all human beings, then you’d have a pretty good chance of realizing the genius within you.
If the culture that formed your rudimentary belief system is generous, open and tends to looks on the bright side, then there’s very little that can stop you from becoming all that you’re capable of becoming.
I heard a joke once that the only reason Jesus became “The Christ” is because God alerted Mary before he was born that that is who he was.
Our beliefs, more than anything else, shape our life experience. And most of our beliefs (we have thousands) are picked up before we have much say in the matter.
So despite all the positive affirmations and intentions for success, your fundamental, underlying beliefs about how the world works at its core create the framework for your reality.
Ask yourself the following questions:
1. What’s your bottom line belief about other people? Are they good? Can they be trusted?
2. What about life in general? Is it hard? Fun? Or something to be endured?
3. What about yourself? What adjectives would you use to describe yourself? How did you parents describe you?
Our beliefs, the default setting we inadvertently picked up when we were growing up, are usually served up with a lot of rules, conditions and limits.
Most of the time, we’re not even aware of the underlying beliefs that create our reality. Which wouldn’t be a problem if our beliefs are aligned with our aspirations, dreams and highest selves.
But when our belief blueprints suggest that the world is a scary place, that money is limited, that hard work is a necessary evil, well, we’re going to have thoughts, those all-powerful creators of reality, that restrict what is possible.
Sadly, your beliefs don’t just filter your thoughts. They determine how big a reality you’re able to imagine.
Imagination and being able to envision a whole new possibility is what we now need.
So I say, “Let’s throw out those old, out-dated beliefs. Let’s juice up our imaginations and create a world that nobody has thought up yet.”
Pam Grout is the author of 16 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.
In her book, Tiny Beautiful Things, Cheryl Strayed, posing as Dear Sugar, tells the story of hiking in New Mexico. She was alone and had been for several hours. She turned a bend and suddenly ran into another solo hiker who at that exact moment had run into yet another lone hiker. The three of them laughed, began talking and discovered that all three of them had the same birthday, in three consecutive years.
In E-Squared, I wrote about coincidence and how rather than being some weird anomaly spit out by what Dr. John Lilly called “The Cosmic Coincidence Control Center,” it’s actually evidence of the Zero Point Field to which we are all connected. I also pointed out that simply contemplating synchronicity often triggers these “Oh Wow!” events. I also asked readers who experienced “an amazing coincidence” after reading that chapter to send me an email. Just so you know, I’ve gotten dozens of stories, many including the number 222 that I mentioned in the book.
My daughter, when she was in junior high, for those who haven’t read it, had a thing about 222. She started a 222 Facebook page, her friends called her at 2:22 every day and that summer, we ended up staying in room 222 in two different hotels (one in Seattle and one in London).
I used that anecdote in the 101 Dalmatians chapter and was amazed at a) how many coincidences people sent me and b) how many included the number 222.
My daughter, who is now 19 and in college, and I were talking about her 222 fascination the other day and suddenly we started seeing 222’s everywhere, sometimes two different ones at the same time. We started texting each other every time we spotted a 222. It has become an amusing game.
So today, in honor of my incredible daughter who “coincidentally” called me when I was getting ready to post this, I’m hosting a 222 competition. For the next few days, make an intention to notice the number 222.
I will send a free autographed copy of E-Squared or one of my other books (if you can’t think of anyone you’d like to give a copy to) to whoever posts the best 222 story in the comments below.
Pam Grout is the author of 16 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.
“What is the most important thing we can think about in this most extraordinary moment?”–Buckminster Fuller
I’ve said it before and I’m sure I’ll say it again. The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the questions you ask. The universe will always match you question for question.
Sadly, most of the questions we ask are repeats of the questions we asked yesterday. We keep wondering the “same ole, same ole” that forever locks us into a tiny box of perception that greatly limits our reality. We place amazingly low expectations on what might be possible.
Every time you ponder the question “How do I get rid of this?” or “How can I overcome that?” you add energy to sustaining the unwanted state. As you devote more and more attention to its existence, you further validate its reality. You continue to view the state you’re attempting to overcome as a linear, predictable “problem.”
Not a lot of options in that teensy box.
Here’s what I’ve learned from quantum physics. Despite how it looks, we humans and everything else we lay gaze upon are, at our core, nothing but patterns of light and energy. We are entangled with all other beings on the planet, forever linked with the indivisible “Field of Potentiality” or to use Luke Skywalker’s vernacular, “The Force.”
By continuing to ask the same boring questions and residing in the same uncomfortable little shoebox, we block the flow and full expression of the F.P’s power.
The force, to borrow from Luke one more time, “can’t be with us.”
So my intention is to ask bigger questions, to think bigger thoughts?
“What if?” is always a good start.
“What if our politicians could see eye-to-eye, to join forces for true and lasting change?”
“What if every child on the planet had a hot meal before they went to bed tonight?”
“What if every family had a roof over their head?”
“What can I do today that makes me dance with joy?
“How can I grow into the loving, wise, inspiring person I am meant to be?”
“What marvelous thing might I create today?”
Anything is possible, but we have to imagine it first. The more big questions we ask, the more we dare to say, “What would it look like if….?,” the bigger our lives will become. Putting your attention on something calls it into existence. We can literally reshape and redesign our lives by asking bigger questions.
“This year I’m chosing to live beyond my wildest dreams. Wonder where they’ll take me.” –Oprah
If you’ve already heard this story, mea culpa! But as a dear reader reminded me this morning, “You can’t be ‘fed’ enough good juju!” and just because you ate breakfast, doesn’t mean you’ll never eat again.
So this is a story sent to me yesterday from my friend, Dave Smiley. He’s the guy who made the movie “The Inner Weigh” which, if you haven’t seen, is definitely worth a watch.
Anyway, he told me about Cynthia Stafford, this amazing woman who was taking care of her brother’s five kids after he died in a tragic car accident. As you can imagine, she was busy. Five kids, raising them on her own. But she was not too busy to believe in the power of her own mind.
Every night before she went to bed, she’d visualize herself winning the lottery. She envisioned the amount she would win, even the shirt she’d be wearing when she heard the news. On Mother’s Day 2007 (as I said, this isn’t a new story), every little detail came to pass. She won $112 million in the lottery, the exact amount she’d been visualizing, and yes, she was wearing the lime green blouse with a leaf print she had imagined herself wearing. Today, she uses that money to support the arts and other charities she believes in. As she says “It’s a lot more fun to give than to receive.”
Not that she didn’t treat herself. After putting away funds for the kids’ education, she bought two Bentleys, one a baby blue convertible, took a dream trip to Paris and hired a personal trainer. She also started her own production company and is now making movies.
“I knew I’d get here,” Stafford said. “Everything starts with your thoughts. Whatever it is you want to achieve, you’ve got to believe in it first.”
“I don’t have to be perfect. I just have to show up and enjoy the messy, imperfect and beautiful journey of my life.”– Kerry Washington
It happened again—three emails in a few short days from folks who are wondering what to do if they don’t immediately get their blessing from Experiment One. So I want to share this story.
I wrote E-Squared 9 years ago. It was originally called God Doesn’t Have Bad Hair Days and I loved it with all my heart. I affirmed that it would be a bestseller. I made the intention that Oprah would snatch it up and invite me on her show.
Instead, it did a monster-sized belly flop into the great sea of literary has-beens. It quickly went out of print, one of only two of my 16 books to ever do so.
In fact, my editor (of that book) said, “I just don’t understand it. This book is just like The Secret.”
Yes, my book debuted at the exact same time as the movie, The Secret, a whole year before the book, The Secret, came out.
So here’s what I did? I let it go. I waved the white flag and began focusing on other stuff. I wrote three travel books for National Geographic. I wrote this really cool TV series about an ecovillage. I did everything I could think of to keep open the channels of joy and abundance.
Now I’m not suggesting that I never crashed or walked through a few valleys, or ever bought into the recession and the continual bad news about my chosen career. I even wrote a piece about it for Huffington Post that you can read here.
But instead of pitching a tent in the land of “poor me,” I kept believing. I kept recognizing that it was only me that could block the world’s largesse. It was only me who could build walls to keep my good away.
My only job, the way I see it, is to enjoy every moment of my imperfect, messy, beautiful life.
And guess what? The book was polished up a bit and came out this year as E-Squared. And all those things I affirmed earlier. They’re coming to fruition, just like I envisioned them.
So I will repeat here, what I wrote last time I got the question: “What if I make an intention and it doesn’t happen?”
First and foremost, DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP! Do not ask yourself, “What am I doing wrong?” Do not make the erroneous conclusion that the universe does not have your back.
In fact, the very best tact when you’re unable to find your intention is to say, “THANK YOU!!!” “Thank you for showing me that I still have..…oh, maybe just a tad bit of resistance.”
And then go out and do something really fun, something that makes you sing with joy. If you can’t think of even one thing that makes you smile, that’s a sure sign your channels of love and joy are not as open as they could be. Again, no biggie. Feel free to borrow one of the many things I do when I notice my channels are blocked with twigs of negativity and self-doubt:
** Dance around the house. Put on some lively music and go for it.
** Get a stack of dollar bills and go out and give them away. I know a guy who uses hundys, but I’m still more comfortable using ones.
** Sing a happy song as loud as you possibly can.
Your only job (and that word probably demonstrates part of the problem) is to go out and get happy.
When you’re happy, life works. In fact, number one on my hit parade of intentions is something I borrowed from Yogi Bhajan: “To make myself so happy that others get happy just looking at me.”
When manifesting, you’ve undoubtedly heard that “How is not up to you.” These days, I’m not even so sure “What” is the best strategy. I prefer to focus on “Why?”
Why do I want money? So I can have an amazingly awesome time.
Why do I want to write books and blog posts? So I can use my God-given gifts.
Why do I want a meaningful, expanding relationship? So I can be a more loving person.
That’s what all of us really want—to have an amazingly awesome time, to use our gifts, to be loving human beans. And I’ve discovered that when I start “being” those things, the “whats” flow like a hawk in a tail wind.
The universe wants to give us every good thing. It is only our resistance that stops it from stampeding towards us like a herd of wild mustangs.
“I will never again cast a curse on myself.”–Rob Brezsny
It’s TGIF, boos. Time to get out and celebrate. Time to remember how lucky you are, time to give praise to the highest of holies. As my mentor, Rob Brezney would say, “Let’s break open the forbidden happiness.”
Sure, I have a to-do list. In fact, I have two of them.
Dream up better questions.
Have the best day of my life.
The other to-do list is for Source, God, the Field of Potentialty.
Here’s what it says:
Handle everything else.
“There is a path toward the light. The one that goes blink, blink, blink inside your chest when you know what you’re doing is right. Listen to it. Trust it. Let it make you stronger than you are.”–Cheryl Strayed
I was interviewing a business owner yesterday for an article I’m writing for People mag. We got off topic (imagine that) and she made a comment that made me consider reaching out and giving her an inappropriate bear hug. It was a simple comment, one I’ve heard (probably even said) many times before. She was upset about a particular issue that shall not be named and, in resignation, threw her hands in the air and said, “If it’s not one thing, it’s a thousand others.”
Her rant almost seemed like a foreign language to me. It wasn’t that I was offended, but it had been so long since I’ve thought that way or really even been around people who aren’t aware of the tremendous power of their words, that I sat there dumbfounded.
Now, I’m not this woman’s coach or counselor, but I wanted desperately to comfort her, to explain to her that every word that drops out of her mouth is sculpting her life experience.
I wanted to warn her, to help her understand that whatever she believes and yes, utters out loud, will be seconded by the the great universal energy.
I know. I’m probably like the annoying ex-smoker who no longer has patience for friends still practicing their former vice.
So instead of lecturing her, instead of suggesting that if she wasn’t more vigilant, negativity, like a body snatcher, could eventually take her over, I held my tongue and thanked the blink, blink, blink pounding in my chest for showing me a better way.
“There’s a certain delusional quality that all successful people have. They have to believe that something different can happen.”—Will Smith
Okay, true confession. I didn’t see The Hangover Part III. Didn’t even see the second in the trilogy.
But what this one-star summer bomb demonstrates is our tendency to repeat ourselves again and again, day after day.
We get stuck in these loops, looking for the same things we saw yesterday. Today is a brand new day with an infinite number of new possibilities. Whoever took over for Ed McMahon could knock on your door with the winning check in the magazine sweepstakes. You could make a new friend or meet a potential S.O. You could get an idea for a book or a song or a nonprofit that might change the lives of millions.
The thing is you never know. But because we get up every morning expecting the exact same thing, we get re-runs (Hangover Part III’s) of yesterday. Yea, there might be a little variety. You could get a speeding ticket, for example, or eat a pepperoni pizza instead of pasta, but admit it, you basically expect your world to look like a clone of yesterday.
But what if you woke up to a world where everything was completely unrecognizable? Are you willing to allow that possibility? The possibility that the world’s largesse could flow into your life? The possibility that we could have peace on earth? And that every child could go to bed with a full stomach knowing they were deeply loved and cherished?
If there’s one thing I know it’s this: We get out of life exactly what we look for…down to the precise shape, size and color.
A major conundrum of quantum physics is that whatever the observer expects to see he sees. Physical reality, at its essence, is made of high-energy photons. And we, you and me, are patterns of light and information, patterns of light and information that we keep re-running and re-running.
So, to my way of thinking, the more open we are to brand new, completely different possibilities, the better our world will become.
So, yea, the first Hangover was kinda fun. But as for me, I’d rather see Bradley Cooper, Zach Galifianakis and all those other actors starring in a whole new film.
“We all need a daily dose of vastness.”– Rob Brezsney
Today’s daily dose of vastness is from Mollie Player, a fellow LOA blogger who, like me, is a freelance writer, a mom, a traveler and an author. Woo-hoo!! As I told her, “we’re twins….only I’m a lot older.” With no further adieu, take it away Mollie:
When I first decided to start saying affirmations way back in January of 2012, one of the first I tried had to do with work.
Work is my passion. I love what I do (I’m a freelance writer) and want nothing more than to keep sustaining myself (maybe, more than sustaining? Dare I say, thriving?) in this way. Since I had just given birth in November, though, and had only worked sporadically since then, I desperately needed things to pick up. So, I made some phone calls, wrote some emails and did all the usual things, without getting much response.
Then I tried it: My affirmation.
It was this: “I have steady freelance writing work.”
Here is what happened next: The following day (yes, DAY!) I received an email from a client that I hadn’t heard from in a while (my best paying client, no less). Then, later that same day, I landed an interview that resulted in a one-time paying job and a job offer (which I later refused due to other work opportunities).
And the story gets even better. I got more work from my best client. I got several jobs from my from my agent. And I’m happy to tell you that the following months (until the birth of my second child) were the most productive and financially lucrative of my career. I am so surprised that things picked up so quickly and for so long–with just that one affirmation!
“It’s supposed to be a professional secret, but I’ll tell you anyway. We doctors do nothing. We only help and encourage the doctor within.” Albert Schweitzer
At the party of “anything is possible,” there’s always the one cranky uncle who sits over in the corner. More times than not, the belief that stubbornly refuses to budge is the body as in “My mind has no control over my health, disease, aging, weight and any other fool thing my body decides to do.”
So today, I’ve got a packet of Reese’s Pieces and, like Elliott who was able to lure E.T. out of hiding, I’m hoping to lure out that curmudgeonly uncle to at least take a spin on the dance floor.
Reese Piece No. 1: Dr. Lissa Rankin’s new book, Mind Over Medicine. After years of being a physician, Dr. Rankin finally got fed up with the seven minutes she was allowed to see patients and the refusal by her colleagues to acknowledge the most powerful component of a person’s health: their beliefs and their thoughts. Initially, she was as hard-nosed and closed-minded as any doctor, but after investigating 50 years of peer-reviewed medical literature (New England Journal of Medicine and Journal of the American Medical Association, to name a few), she found ample evidence proving that beliefs play a powerful role in a person’s biochemistry and to ignore those findings was irresponsible, a betrayal of the Hippocratic Oath.
Reese’s Piece No. 2: The body is wired to heal itself. Our bodies are self-regulating, healing organisms, constantly striving for homeostasis. But instead of teaching our children this all-important fact, we teach them they need someone or something outside themselves to heal. The minute they get a fever or an ear ache, we rush them to that all-knowing doctor. This, at a very early age, cements in the fallacy that our bodies can’t heal themselves. Most of the thoughts in our default setting are planted before age 5.
Reese’s Piece No. 3: Placebos are often as effective as drugs. Patients have been able to grow hair, drop blood pressure, lower cholesterol, watch ulcers disappear and cure about every other symptom after being treated with nothing but sugar pills. It was their belief they were getting “medicine” that cured them, not the medicine itself.
Dr. Bruce Mosely, a surgeon and team physician for the Houston Rockets, performed arthroscopic knee surgery on two of ten middle-aged, former military guys. Three of the 10 had their knees rinsed (without the scraping) and the other five had no surgical procedure at all. It was an exercise in just pretend. After two years, all ten believed their surgery was a success. What Mosely discovered is that the bigger and more dramatic the patient perceives the intervention to be, the bigger the placebo effect.
Reese’s Piece No. 4: Our beliefs are the hinge on which our bodies function. Rankin tells the story of a guy with tumors the size of oranges. After begging his doctor to try an experimental new drug he’d read about, he was treated with the drug and his tumors disappeared. Several weeks later, reports hit the airwaves that this new drug was not as powerful as originally thought. The tumors returned. His doctor, by now savvy, gave his patient a placebo, telling him it was a stronger form of the drug and that the ineffective trials had been using too little of this powerful drug. Once again, the tumors from his stage 4 lymphoma began to disappear. Finally, the FDA pronounced the drug ineffective and pulled it off the market. The patient, who had been rapidly recovering, died within a week.
Okay, enough candy. I could go on and on about how 79 percent of medical students develop the symptoms they’re studying. Or about the woman with a split personality who has diabetes in one of her personalities and normal sugar levels in the other.
But I’m not a doctor and would never dream of prescribing anything.
But I do know this:
We should teach our children that their bodies have self-healing superpowers.
And we should quit hexing ourselves by looking for disease.
And we should remember that if chimpanzees can lower their blood pressure at will, something Harvard doc, Herbert Benson, discovered in his research, there’s probably not much we CAN’T do to heal ourselves.
Uncle, are you ready for that dance?
Pam Grout is the author of E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.