Looking With the Eyes of Love: A guest post by Amy Zoe

“It is easy enough to be friendly to one’s friends. But to befriend the one who regards himself as your enemy is the quintessence of true religion. The other is mere business.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

Not only do I get daily emails from readers, but I’m lucky enough to go for coffee or bubble tea or lunch with readers who live close by. Amy Zoe, a writer and life innovator (don’t you just love that title?) from the Kansas City area, contacted me a month or so ago for just such a get-together.

We had a fabulous conversation and she offered to share her talent on my blog. As you all know, I’m all about Show and Tell.

So here’s the amazing Amy Zoe shouting out from the love train:

If you’ve ever endeavored to manifest intentions, you know your thoughts wield a lot of power. It’s as if our thoughts spin a web in the mind of consciousness to capture and make manifest the desires of our heart.

This creative process is not limited to our want for material things, but also expresses itself within our daily interactions with others.

Often, when we engage in communication that doesn’t go well, we attach to our negative feelings and focus attention on what we don’t like about the other person’s behavior, or worse, we decide that we dislike them entirely.

When we focus our thoughts and emotions in this way, we may not recognize that we are manifesting and potentially creating more of what we do not want. If we value improving our interactions with those we find challenging, we have the opportunity through our intentions and feelings, to manifest something entirely different.

Here’s an example from my own life…

For several years, I worked with a woman many of my colleagues considered “difficult.” At times, she was abrasive, condescending, and arrogant towards people at work. Most of my co-workers had written her off as a bad seed and avoided interactions with her.

I, also, had moments of finding her behavior challenging. After one particularly bad exchange, I knew I needed to shift my thinking or our relationship would be doomed to a back and forth of perpetual pettiness.

In that moment, I opened myself up to seeing her differently. I decided that instead of focusing on her “bad behavior,” I wanted to see all of her beauty and understand her complexity.

As a result of setting those intentions and putting a little love behind my thoughts, I began to be exposed to another side of her that was in stark contrast to how many viewed her.

I saw how excited she was to share her professional experience with others, her willingness to provide opportunity to those who were new to her profession, her generosity to those she worked closely with, and ultimately her exceptional talent within her field.

I also began to understand that in most instances her challenging behaviors were just momentary responses to feeling overwhelmed, her gruffness, the result of a life marked by personal difficulty, and more than anything else, I sensed how alone and insecure she felt.

These insights helped me tremendously in my interactions with her. No longer was I inclined to rush to judgement when I perceived she was being curt. I had a newfound respect and compassion for her that alleviated much of the heaviness that existed in our previous exchanges. My picture of her was based on something much larger than an isolated moment in time.

When our professional paths separated, I could genuinely say that I cared for her well-being and knew I would miss her.

If an exchange with someone leaves us feeling less than congenial, instead of getting behind feelings of anger and resentment, we can choose to get behind feelings of love and kindness. We can envision our conversations with that person being authentic and set the intention to see what is beautiful about them.

This path does not guarantee others will change their behavior, as they are co-creators in the relationship. It does, however, afford those of us setting the intentions, to see that person through the eyes of Love…the most powerful force in the Universe.

AZ03Amy Zoe is a writer, teacher, life innovator and mother. She holds a BA in psychology from the University of Iowa and has served as a human resources professional.

A lifelong seeker of spiritual truth and aspirant of personal growth, Amy is committed to inspiring others to identify their passions, chart a course, and navigate life at full capacity.

Her writing can be found on her website: http://www.abelovedlife.com.

More evidence that I’m the luckiest person on the planet.

“Change your narrative, change your life.” –Joan Borysenko

As anyone who reads this blog knows, I consider myself one supremely lucky gal. I sit here in my little Kansas office and, because I believe in the world’s unlimited good and expect to find unceasing joy, the most amazing things come pouring in. In the last month alone, I’ve been invited to Turkey (where I’m going in September for a travel assignment) and Namibia (where I’m going in October for yet another assignment).

Because I’ve let go of trying to figure everything out, a skill I discovered I was sorely lacking in, the universe has stepped up to bless me beyond anything I could have ever conceived.

Lately, I’ve been blessed with hundreds of inspiring stories that show up in my inbox completely unbidden. I’ve always been a huge fan of inspiring literature, so now I just turn on my computer and voila! manifestation stories out the wazoo.

For example, Lori from Missouri was conducting the Dear Abby experiment, where you ask for specific guidance around some issue that’s troubling you. Here’s what she wrote:

“My question was should I go ahead with my planned home refinance. I live in a rural part of Missouri with train tracks in front of my home. As a train speeds past my house I’m looking at the grafitti. In bold large letters is the word NOPE. Go figure, right?

“This morning, I was sitting outdoors and I said aloud, “Am I safe to assume that NOPE was my neon sign message?” At that instant I hear the ding, ding, ding of the railroad crossing and here comes another train. The train was heavy with coal requiring two engines to pull it. Both doors on the second engine were wide open and swinging in the wind. This is unheard of. The very next car was labeled with this grafitti. “Feel free to ask us. I love you. I love you.”

Another reader (and this just cracked me up) was approached by a guy dressed as a giant nutrition bar (Mr. Peanut is just so yesterday) and offered not one, but three Zone Perfect cherry chocolate bars.


And yesterday, GloZell Green, the famous comedienne and YouTube star who attended 600 consecutive tapings of The Jay Leno show (her “My Push up Bra will help me get my man” has gotten some 20 million hits), sent me this hilarious picture.

Check out her site here:

Thank you everyone for sharing the love!!

Pam Grout is the author of 16 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.

“Love is present everywhere, and its presence only needs to be realized.”—David Hawkins

“Everything we need at this moment is already available to us in abundance, exceedingly, abundantly above all that we can ask or think.”—Michele Longo O’Donnell

Last Friday, the federal government set standards to bring uniformity to the $4 billion market for gluten-free foods.

It seems everybody and their mother is giving up gluten…..or sugar….or dairy…..or meat or….well, the list goes on.

I find it ironic that we exert such Herculean efforts to give up particular foods, but make little effort to give up negative thoughts that, in the end, have more of a deleterious effect than gluten ever could.

Our thoughts and what we focus upon provide the structure for our lives, our day-to-day experiences and nothing could be more important than feasting on thoughts of abundance, tolerance, love, joy and well-being.

I have no idea yet what I will eat today (although hummus will likely be involved since I’m meeting friends for Mediterranean food tonight), but I do know I’ll forgo any thought that doesn’t provide the nourishment of the world’s unlimited beneficence.

Pam Grout is the author of 16 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.

“Get filled with life.”–Michele Longo O’Donnell

“Happy! Happy! Happy!”–Phil Robertson, Duck Commander

Just have a couple fun items to share today.

Taz and I got back from Chicago last night (We had a blast giving away our stack of five dollar bills) and I’ll be back on the blog next week.

Among other things, look for a fabulous guest post from Amy Zoe at the blog, A Beloved Life.

In the meantime, just have to share this fabulous photo of a cake that was waiting for Taz and me in our suite at the Peninsula Hotel. Yes, despite it’s accurate appearance, this is a delicious cake with chocolate fondant frosting.

peninsula cake

And then for Friday at the movies (one of my favorite traditions), check out this amazing You Tube video of the Einstein wands at work:

Thank you, Leslie Draper!!

Have a stupendous weekend!

“We’re all sorcerers.”—Mike Dooley

“We came to live life like no one was watching.”—Macklemore

Taz and I are in Chicago. She goes back to college in a couple weeks so we’re having one last hurrah, a girlfriends getaway, just the two of us.

We’re staying at the mighty Peninsula. We can see the Magnificent Mile from our suite. If it’s not ringing any bells, let me just say that this is where all the A-listers stayed when they came to Chicago to bid Oprah adieu.

We’re shopping, going to see “The Book of Mormon” and, of course, making a return engagement to Second City. In the audience, not on the stage.

As I like to say, we’re building muscle, practicing “being” what we want to be—united with all that is, knowing with complete surety that we are provided for in every way.

We’re also performing a secret mission. We brought a stack of $5 bills and we’re leaving them at bus stops, taping them onto park benches, pinning them into clothes at the stores on Magnificent Mile. With each fiver, we’re leaving an anonymous note about the abundance of the universe and how this is just one small sign of how much whoever finds it is loved.

I know $5 isn’t much (One of these days, we plan to leave hundys), but for us it’s about “being” who we want to be–confident, freely giving and knowing that as we give, so shall we receive.

I’ll be back to the blog next week and hope to see you then.

Pam Grout is the author of 16 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.

“Don’t die wondering.”—The Way, Way Back

“So we put our hands up like the ceiling can’t hold us, like the ceiling can’t hold us.”–Macklemore

In about an hour and a half, I’m heading to the grocery store to buy this week’s Sunday New York Times. In the NY Times Book Review, a section we authors revere as if it’s the word of God itself, I am going to see my name and the name of my new book.

Yes, Hay House informed me last Wednesday that E-Squared had cracked the golden egg, found “the holy grail,” made the list that every author longs to make.

To quote Phoebe Buffay, “Well, yeah!”

Lest you worry that I will start singing “Smelly Cat,” let me assure you that the only reason I can say, “I KNOW!” with sheer glee is because I made that very intention. And I know with complete surety that when you order something from the cosmic catalog of life, it’s going to show up as soon as you take down the barriers that keep it from your purview.

As soon as you release resistance and “get it” that the world always, without fail, has your back, the party can begin.

But before I start throwing out confetti, I want to give an Everest-size shout-out to all of you! Thank you so, so, so, so much for, to paraphrase Sally Field, “liking me, for really liking me.”

The feeling, let me assure you, is mutual. I love and appreciate you all so much!!

Pam Grout is the author of 16 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.

It’s time to accept the world’s boundless love.

“It’s the inner world that needs adjusting, tweaking and plucking when the outer world fails to please.”—Mike Dooley

I’m a travel writer and often end up confronting customs and laws different than my own. In Singapore, for example, it’s illegal to hug in public. In Cannes, you can be arrested for wearing a Jerry Lewis mask. I’ve also heard of some pretty weird laws in my own country. In Devon, Texas, I’m told, it’s illegal to make furniture in the nude. Darn that, Devon, Texas.

We might get a chuckle out of these (and let me just add that I don’t plan to pack my Jerry Lewis mask my next trip to Cannes), but more than these “laws,” we are also at the mercy of arbitrary laws we’ve imposed in our own heads. Laws such as “life is a struggle,” “I have to do everything myself,” “It’s me against the world.”

The bad news is that whatever “laws” you believe in are activated in your life, creating a personal reality that reflects those beliefs. The good, shout-it-from-the-rooftops news is that you can rewrite the laws operating in your life by simply changing your beliefs.

Like the yogini whose practice is stretching muscles, my full-time practice is stretching my beliefs, changing the limiting laws that my darned ego keeps sending memos about.

Here are just a few laws I’ve written on the books of my life:

1. The world is abundant and unlimited

2. Everything always works out for me.

3. Money is just energy and easy to come by.

4. By following my heart, I can lead a life of purpose and meaning and big-ass joy.

5. The more love I give, the more I receive.

6. Actually the more of anything I give, the more I receive.

Tell me in the comments below a new belief you’re ready to sign into law.

Pam Grout is the author of 16 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.

“Everything is lit with hope and sparkles with a gentle friendliness.”—A Course in Miracles

“I tie no weights to my ankles.” –C. JoyBell C

When my friend Robbin was a little girl, she had two burning questions: 1. How were the giraffes getting to Kansas? 2. And why don’t we want them peeping in our windows?

Every night, Robbin’s mom insisted she close her bedroom windows to avoid….well, Robbin always thought she said giraffes. Needless to say, she eventually figured out it was “drafts” her mom hoped to keep out, but for quite a while, she was extremely puzzled why her mother wouldn’t want those really cool, really tall animals stopping by for a visit. After all, they paid good money to see them at the zoo.

I thought of this story last night when someone on Facebook mentioned they had set the intention to manifest a giraffe. While I assumed it was a joke (although that is one of my new intentions for this week), I later saw that indeed a giraffe showed up in, not 48 hours, but in four days. Pretty powerful manifestation either way.

But the reason I share this story is because Robbin’s innocent misinterpretation is a good metaphor for the perceptual mistakes we make every day when we get up expecting difficulties and unhappiness. For that matter, getting up every morning and expecting “this day” to be a repeat of yesterday (and we all do) is a huge misinterpretation and a giant fence that keeps the world’s unlimited abundance from flowing in the windows.

We do ourselves a huge disservice when we don’t open up and allow for magic and joy. Because we cling so tightly to “what we know,” the world’s largesse is locked out along with the drafts and the giraffes.

As for me, I let yesterday go and open the windows, the doors and maybe even the roof so blessings and new possibilities can come rushing in.

Pam Grout is the author of 16 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.

One more reason to shout “Hallelujah!”

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.”–Melody Beattie

It’s pretty easy to be grateful when the sails of life are blowing your way. But what about those times when things “appear” not to be working out?

My tact? Say “hallelujah!” anyway.

We, in our limited pea brains, don’t always see the big picture. It’s like standing with your nose against the pointillist painting. It looks like a bunch of dots. But when you step back and look again in gratitude, it becomes Georges Seurat’s “Sunday Afternoon on the Island of La Grande Jatte.”

Gail Lynne Goodwin told me a story that illustrates this perfectly. A few months ago, she and a couple friends had a girlfriends’ outing planned. Not sure about all the exciting details, but one of the friends, on the day of, woke up to find her daughter running a fever.

She called Gail whimpering about her bad luck. Gail responded in the way she responds to everything: “That’s fabulous!”

“No, you didn’t hear me,” her girlfriend said. “I’m not going to be able to go today.”

Again, Gail, said, “That’s fabulous!”

She reminded her that she’d been needing some free time to sift through paperwork and that this so-called “setback” provided the perfect opportunity.

Her friend thanked Gail for the reminder and not only did she end up having a delightful day with her daughter, but while cruising the internet, came across the very house she’d been lusting after for three years. This dream house was way more than she felt she could afford, but, on this day, while dealing with the disappointment of thwarted plans, she saw “her house” had gone into foreclosure and was selling for one-quarter the price.

As Gail said, “She now has a contract on her dream home.”

So, no matter what your judgments about your life may be, say, “Hallelujah!”

And be over-the-moon grateful that everything is working out for your good.

Pam Grout is the author of 16 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.

Want visible proof of your thoughts in action?

“One reason that so few of us really achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything particular.”
– Tony Robbins

Big shout out today to Light Watkins, a meditation teacher from Venice, California. I offered a prize (although don’t know if Light knew this) to the first person to post a video of the Einstein wands.

Lots of readers have been asking for visual instructions. Apparently, the written explanation in the book was less than crystal—although for every request I’ve received for further instruction, I’ve gotten three “my mind has been blown” thank you notes from readers who figured it out and were astounded.

One reader told me he took his homemade Einstein wands to his favorite pub and performed party tricks.

I’ve tried sending photographs of my own Einstein wands, but as many an Avengers fan can attest: there’s nothing like a good “action movie.”

Thanks, Light, for making this movie.

And check out his sight here.

Giant blessings to all! Make this week extraordinary!!

Pam Grout is the author of 16 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.