5 simple words that will stop complainers and other miscellaneous whiners in their tracks

“You can’t depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus.”—Mark Twain

As y’all know, I love my local power posses. Every single time, I get newly-inspired and learn cool stuff.

Last week, my friend Cindy shared this super-easy (and powerfully effective) tactic for steering conversations away from negativity.

When somebody is droning on about everything that’s going wrong in their life, simply ask this question:

“What do you want to happen?”

It works surprisingly well no matter what the person’s spiritual beliefs. If you say, “I’ll pray for you” or “Let the universe handle it” or my fallback line: “What you focus upon expands,” they might roll their eyes or even hit you.

But nobody can find a grievance in these five words. And it works like a veritable superchamp in steering conversations back to “what might be possible.”

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the soon-to-be-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

3 really important pieces of information that most people don’t know.

“If you could observe the physiological changes that take place in your body when you’re in negative states, you would stop immediately.”–Eckhart Tolle

I didn’t learn these three key facts in school. Nor from my parents. Nor from my culture. If I had, I could have saved myself an s-load of trouble.

1. If you want to change something in your life, your thoughts and consciousness are a far better tool than physical effort.

2. Life (or the Divine Buzz that animates everything) is always on your team, re-creating your thoughts and consciousness out here in physical form, making it easier for you to see.

3. We’re here on the physical plane to play around with this animating energy, to have fun, to experience joy.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the soon-to-be-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

The most important question you will ever ask: What are you willing to believe is possible?

“Let your mind be cleared of all the foolish cobwebs which the world would weave.”—A Course in Miracles

Let me guess. You probably watched some TV show last night—maybe the season finale of “The Good Wife” or “Game of Thrones” or one of the other hot shows that TV execs like to run on Sunday night. According to Nielsen, an average of 124.2 million viewers tune in Sunday prime-time. That’s a lot of eyes.

Whatever you watched, you didn’t for a moment believe it was factual information. You knew the story you sat glued to was the creation of some evil genius scriptwriter. You might cringe at Tyrion being set up by his sister or sigh over Alicia Florrick’s latest lawsuit, but you knew the moment you turned the TV off, it was basically irrelevant to your life.

That’s how I view most of what the world calls “reality.” It’s made-up. It’s a mental construct that was created not by a scriptwriter, but by a world gone mad. This dominant paradigm that we call “reality” has gone unquestioned for far too long. The “news” that we so worry about is no more real than “Game of Thrones.”

We only THINK we’re bound and gagged by the world’s reality.

It’s not real, people, and, at any time, we can suspend our investment in these fictional stories of separation and problems and dysfunction. It’s up to us to create a more joyful reality. It’s all a matter of where we focus our attention.

We draw from the field of infinite potentiality carbon copies of what we expect and believe. I expect and believe that “something amazingly awesome” will happen to me each day. So, of course, it always does.

Expectations and beliefs are powerful. They also create “reality.”

Tell me in the comment sections below, “What are you willing to believe is possible for yourself and for the world?”

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the soon-to-be-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

I have an insane belief in my own ability to manifest things.”–@JimCarrey

“If you wish to understand the Universe, think of energy, frequency and vibration.”—Nikola Tesla

A quick rerun for those new subscribers:

In E-Squared, when introducing the Abracadabra Principle (Whatever I focus on expands), I mentioned that Jim Carrey wrote himself a $10 million check (for acting services rendered) long before he ever made a movie.

I just discovered (check out the video at the end of this post) that he also used to go to Mulholland Drive every night and visualize directors wanting his services. As he jokes in the video, bookstores should probably rename the self-help section “The Jim Carrey” wing.

As he says, not one thing has ever been created without intention.


Pam Grout is the author of 16 books including the recently released, E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality.

5 reasons I adore Russell Brand

“Anyone that galvanizes people and points us to the better aspects of ourselves is worthy of being a hero.”—Russell Brand

Top reasons to love Russell Brand:

5. He pals around with the Dalai Lama.
4. He passes out hugs to prevent road rage.
3. He meditates.
2. He’s authentic, has huge cojones (I mean, what other dude would have the nerve to call his memoir, Bookywooky?) and he’s using his life to change the dominant paradigm.
1. This fab video below says it all:

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the soon-to-be-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Tell it like you want it to be

“We have perfected the attitude of worry. If we don’t have something to worry about, that worries us.”—Michele Longo O’Donnell

Our ability to manifest material things is the reason most people get excited about the principles from E-Squared. But “manifesting stuff” is really a bit of a misnomer. The truth about the quantum field is that you are already connected to everything you could ever want to manifest.

What you end up drawing from the quantum soup of endless possibilities is whatever you focus your attention upon. What coalesces around you is what you invest your energy in.

Because the dominant paradigm focuses on problems, that’s what we see. When we focus instead on gratitude, on what is going right (so many more things than you can even imagine), problems dissolve back into the nothingness from which they arose.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the soon-to-be-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

“Reality” is a mental construct–make yours joyful

Thought for the day:

Our beliefs are cultural constructs and only as “true” as the investment we place in them. Reality is malleable and formed from consciousness. We can either join lockstep with the cultural paradigm or we can create our own reality, our own path.

We’re all in ruts, but we can break free. In fact, there’s great support from the universe once you begin walking in that direction.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the soon-to-be-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

The perks of brazen gratitude, Part III

“Let gratitude be the pillow upon which you kneel to say your nightly prayer.” ― Maya Angelou


Being happy and feeling blessed is Step #1 when it comes to manifesting. As I said yesterday, that’s one chicken vs. egg dilemma that will never be in question.

Last week, when I was in Kenya, loving the heck out of my awesome career, I got this inspiring email from this amazing light named Madeline McCollom. I was so touched by her story that I asked if I could share. It demonstrates Step #1 in vivid technicolor. Enjoy!!

“In 2004 I gave birth to our second child, a son. Henry was born medically complicated (which I’d learned about at 5 mo. pregnant). He spent his first three years in and out of hospitals and surgeries.

“In a desperate attempt to gain health insurance to cover his expected medical costs, our family got poor and went on state health insurance which was a blessing in disguise.

“There is nothing like poverty to allow one clarity on what matters most. So, when Henry was almost one, I was at the local Planned Parenthood for my annual check up. I remember seeing a W fashion magazine as I waited in the reception area. I was so surprised to see one of my favorite high-end fashion magazines here – everything else was family/parenting focused.

“Anyhow, I opened it up and saw that there was an essay contest from Moet & Chandon (my favorite champagne in my early 20’s). I had worked at a Champagne bar down in the Virgin Islands for a year and learned a little bit about bubbly. So, I figured I’d enter the contest. Why not, right?

“The essay question was, “Why is your life FABULOUS?!” My husband couldn’t believe I was entering. We were flat FLAT broke, we’d lost everything we had when Henry was born– our new restaurant, our credit history, our hometown since we’d relocated to Portland for better medical care–and Henry was living on a feeding tube. We also had a beautiful 5-year old daughter who was definitely NOT getting the childhood I’d hope she’d have.

“Well, I thought, what the heck? We have buckets full of love. That’s what made my life fabulous. I said I could open a bottle of the Moet White Star, and for just a moment feel like I could be anywhere in the world.”

Long story short, “I won. My husband and I (an incredibly talented chef) were flown to NYC for a week of fashion shows in Bryant Park! We stayed at a hotel on Central Park!

“Although they gave us a $500 credit card to use, that was seriously all the money we had to our name for the trip. So, one evening we decided to go out to Per Se, a beautiful restaurant owned by Thomas Keller (of The French Laundry). We couldn’t afford to eat dinner, but I thought we might as well have one cocktail. We ordered some obscure Spanish Sherry – as I had learned a bit about sherry and we had sold a few at our restaurant in Eugene, OR.

“Well, the bartender comes over to us, asks us why we ordered sherry – no one ever did – and I told him our story. He shared with us that his fiancee was from the region in Spain where this sherry was made, and they had just recently returned from meeting her parents. He was so thrilled to have someone to talk with about sherry!

“We kept talking and found out we had both worked at the same wine bar in Portland, OR back in the early 1990’s! He asked if there was ANYTHING he could do for us – I’m guessing he could tell we couldn’t afford their menu – so I decided to go out on a limb and asked if we could see the kitchen. He paused. He said no one really got to go back during service. He went to the kitchen manager, shared our story, and led us into their kitchen.

“This is, undoubtedly, one of the most amazing experiences of my life. It was like a monastery. Quiet and beautiful. It was breathtaking.

“So, the last thing I would’ve ever expected as I entered Planned Parenthood in a pretty economically depressed neighborhood in NE Portland – flat broke with a medically fragile little boy–that my husband and I would be whisked off to NYC on an all expense paid vacation and get to see something so magical.”



And, as you can see from the pictures, Madeline’s life keeps getting more magical all the time.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the soon-to-be-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Four major stages of consciousness–where’s your tent pitched?

“Being spiritual has nothing to do with what you believe and everything to do with your state of consciousness.”
― Eckhart Tolle

When first crafting the spiritual/energy principles to be tested in E-Squared, I spent many an hour pondering the wording. On several, I stated “your thoughts and your consciousness” impact….this or that.

Part of me wondered, “Isn’t that redundant?” Writers would rather poke knitting needless in their eyes than be redundant. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that thoughts and consciousness, while certainly joined at the hip, are two different animals.

Thoughts are derived from our consciousness, but it’s our consciousness that provides the framework, the meat, the juice, the final answer. It’s the level of our consciousness that shapes and molds the reality that plays out in our lives. And there are many levels of consciousness, each with different rules, principles, characteristics and attributes.

For example, if you reside in the victim consciousness (“Things happen TO me,” “Life sucks and then you die” are a few standard thoughts from this level.), you can affirm and intend all you want, but your consciousness, the driver of your reality, which believes affirmations and intentions are a bunch of hooey always gets the last word. When you spend most of your waking hours in that consciousness (and it’s a very popular consciousness), your channels are plugged up. All the good that wants to come your way can’t get through.

Because we live in a multi-dimensional universe, there are dozens of different levels of consciousness, oftentimes residing in one person. For the purpose of this discussion, I’ve broken it down into four major consciousness categories. Each of these levels has dozens of subsets, all that play out in different ways in our lives. Let’s just say that my goal is to move closer to level four.

1. “The damn, not again” consciousness. The starting gate for most of us is some manifestation of victim consciousness. It varies from person to person, but the over-arching theme is we have no control over anything that happens in our life. The best we can do is work really hard, cross our fingers and hope that all the “shit” we hear about out there will somehow escape us.

2. “The woo-hoo! This is getting cool!” consciousness. One of the next levels (again it plays out differently in each person) is where we realize we have a say. We learn there are energetic laws that are just as reliable as physical laws. We discover that our thoughts are units of mental energy that play out in the world just as powerfully as the principles of gravity or aerodynamics.

Usually we move in and out of this consciousness, mixing it up with other levels. We still feel separate and still retain some of that “poor me” consciousness. In fact, we spend nearly as much time talking about what we don’t want as what we do. We still believe the things we want are out there, in the future, something we have to strive for.

3. The “Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.” consciousness. I am very happy to report that I spent nearly the entire year of 2013 in this consciousness. I got up every morning, celebrating, feeling good. I got up on the right side of the bed nearly every morning and boy, did things come to fruition for me. My book hit the New York Times bestseller list. I traveled to six different countries on four different continents. I got all kinds of new writing gigs. Editors contacted ME which, if you’re a freelance writer, you’d know never happens. I got emails from people all over the world, telling me how much they liked my book. And while all that was really cool and I’m intending it to happen again in 2014, the best part really was how blessed I felt.

And this is where the distinction should be made. People believe they will be happy when they achieve a certain level of success, when they find the perfect lover, when they heal from cancer. But that’s not how it works. All those things are byproducts of being happy.

This is one chicken vs. the egg that is not in question. Being grateful, being happy, feeling blessed ALWAYS comes first. In fact, most people say that when their “stuff” finally comes, the material things they got into this “thoughts creating reality” business in the first place they realize they’re beside the point. And that the gift, the real gift, is the joy they now see in the little things—the cute little heart the barista made into the foam on the latte, the squirrel running along the fence in glee, the softness of cashmere sweater you pull over your head.

4. “I am one with all” consciousness.
In this consciousness, which I must admit is not yet a 24/7 theme for moi, there is no sense of separation from anything. This consciousness knows it is one with Source. It knows it’s an indelible part of the F.P. It knows you are an unlimited being, hooked up with all that is. In this consciousness, everything is eternal and everything else (your thoughts, your reality) is subservient to this bottom-line spiritual Truth. When we’re lucky enough to view life from this consciousness, we are totally surrendered to the “all that is” and know nothing is missing from our life. And, in fact, by yielding to that consciousness, by giving it permission to play out in our lives, we come to realize that all those little intentions and manifestations we so dutifully held in our consciousness are small potatoes compared to this. It’s so much bigger and grander and woo-hoo’er than anything we could have ever imagined.

Finding Forgiveness and Freedom Through the Gift of Love: Guest post by the inimitable Klay S. Williams

“Clinging creates the bricks and mortar with which we build a conceptual self.”–Michael Singer

For you regulars at the party of this blog, it’s no surprise that a) I love all the friends I’ve made here in cyberspace b) I love supporting fellow creators and spiritual seekers and c) I’m leaving the country here in about 3 hours. So, with no further adieu, I’d like to introduce today’s guest blogger, Klay S. Williams, author and co-owner of a lifestyle-consulting firm.

Take it away, Klay!!!! Hey, that even rhymes!

I am a dreamer. I dream for a living. I am also an analyzer. I analyze for a living. What happens when you’ve been so graciously blessed with both a creative and analytical point of reference? Well, you attempt to select the appropriate times in which you should dream, while allowing yourself the ability to be dangerously free.

Doesn’t work like that, ey? Nah, I didn’t think so either.

The incredible gift of romantic love came and disturbed my being—shook my very soul and transformed it into an abyss of relentless freedom; the kind of freedom that does not ask for permission to enter or whether you’re ready to receive its delectable blessing.

I met my Aussie love on May 2, 2011, with the alluring backdrop of New York City as it dangled it’s DVD collection of every romantic movie ever created, to set the scene for such a new romance. Just as some believe the world was created in 7 days, so was our love. He, an actor, was visiting from Sydney, Australia (on holiday of course) for just a month. Fate would have it that we would haphazardly meet during the last 7 days of his stay, stateside.

Amazing, romantic Disney-like adventures set in. He left on May 9th, returned to Oz and we were left with the painful realization that some interactions, like ours, were needed for the soul, but a grand 24-hour time difference was a bit much. It was finished.

Time quickly passed. I dated a bit. He decided to fully reconcile with a former partner and that would be our story—until a year later, everything changed for both of us and I found myself in Australia, void of any NYC possessions, selling everything to make my way to the unknown world, releasing my apartment and trusting that this love would be so grand, awesome, adventurous and cosmic that I would figure it all out as each day would find it appropriately to be.

And, as if a character from my beloved journal of leading men would arise in real life, love courageously swept us off our feet, to never look back, to be what we both needed and ever dreamt of for one another. After 3 passionate months of effortless travel, easy love and sporadic adventures, we returned to the states together to begin a new life.

To say complication set in would be an understatement. Although, the Universe offered tremendous support for both he and I, it was just not enough to combat what my Aussie love needed to fully be honest with and what I would need to learn. He changed his mind and returned to Australia, with a lot of fear, unsettled dreams and a need to fully discover who he is—truly. I was left with a lot of uncertainty, a survivor’s mentality and the desire to try and not blame him for most things—but a mouth that did.

I had found my Prince Charming. The signs and writing on the wall that seemed to be clear about where he was in life was not as apparent to the lover’s eye—my eye to be exact. Although, I reasoned to myself, time over and over again, that I did everything right—I too, was caught up in love’s initial cast and knew that he was just not ready to be in a relationship.

While pointing the finger at him appeared to be so easy (and don’t forget believable) I remembered that we both participated in this relationship—and while I choose not to live my life as a scapegoat, I equally participated in what was our time, to come together, to give each other a remarkable gift—finding forgiveness and freedom through the gift of love.

I cannot equate all of the life lessons that my former partner experienced, but what I know for sure is that our souls attracted one another. Love (and remember it’s brilliantly pure) attracts us at our deepest levels of understanding, creating a pathway to not just be a feel good apparatus, but a teaching mechanism as well. I gave myself permission to travel back in time when I felt the highest exaltation of love—while simultaneously seeking to touch the bottom of the barrel where I felt pain. And, what I would discover, in between the layers of both sensations was the truth of love. He offered me a compass in reconnecting, and in some cases, connection to my true self—which in turn made a pit stop to the core of my belly where forgiveness presented a cheerful laughter of, “You will love again.”

Lessons are meant to be experienced, felt and learned—but rarely do we understand that lessons are also meant to be forgiven. Through the pain of dismissal and abandonment, the art of forgiving gave me the strongest sense of understanding the gift of freedom—that of which we would soon give to each other through the lessons found in our discomfort. Our beings attracted this moment…to not be a harsh mistake, but rather a forgiving mirror that we both needed in order to live out the highest expression(s) of who we were called to become. It’s never about right or wrong, black or white or your fault vs. mine. Yet, if we are serious about love—true love in all forms—we would understand that forgiveness holds the key towards living.

And, we are then rendered ready to love—not just for another, but most importantly for ourselves.

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Klay S. Williams, M.Div, is the author of There Is Only Plan A—A Journey Toward Self-Discovery and Renewed Purpose, and co-owner of Harrison Williams, a lifestyle-consulting firm based in New York City. Klay conducts personal and corporate client sessions, workshops, seminars and lectures internationally. Through his leadership and unique philosophy of “There Is Only Plan A,” Klay has unlocked a singular powerhouse where individuals can learn how to live their complete and best life.