Lessons learned on the pity pot

“You move away from reality when you believe there is a legitimate reason to suffer.” –Byron Katie

Judgment by Rosea Lake

Okay, so I’ve been a bit blah this week, not really motivated to do much. I laid under my down comforter, read, called friends, worried about stuff.

And this morning I woke up realizing what a powerful lesson I created for myself. I learned, once again (don’t you love how opportunities to grow never stop circling the wagons?) that my judgments are the only thing blocking the Truth of who I am.

Like everybody else, I am a radiating transmitter tower constantly sending out signals. I draw to myself exact vibrational matches to what I expect, what I believe.

And when I judge myself (yes, I was berating myself for not being motivated, not living up to the ideas I write about), the love and joy of the universe (in other words Truth) can’t get through my cloud. It bounces right off my judgments, faithfully letting through only what I choose to perceive.

I woke up this morning totally getting how exciting this it. Totally appreciating how cool it is that I create it all and that, by simply choosing to love it all and own it all (my judgments about myself can get quite creative, they’re often Oscar-worthy), I get even more love and joy. Right now, with this lesson under my belt, I am buzzing and happy and so grateful that for several days this week, I got to see a perfect example of my infinite power of creation in living color.

As the old idiom suggests, “It’s all good.”

Thank you, universe!! Thank you, friends.

And, as I always like to say on Fridays, “Have the best weekend of your life.”

I know I will.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Be crazy with love. Love, even when it makes no sense.

“We all long for love. Everything else is just killing time.”
–Kenny Loggins

A reader of E-Squared wrote to me asking how to draw love into his life. I always chuckle at that question because the bottom-line truth is theres no need to draw love TO us, because love is who we are. It’s our number one super power. And we don’t have to seek for it…ever.

It also reminded me of a blog post I wrote for Valentine’s Day two years ago. Thought in honor of the upcoming holiday, it might be time to repeat it. Here goes:

Most people hear the word “love” and immediately think of long white dresses, tuxes and diamond rings. Our tendency to associate love with romance is a gaping blind spot. Not only are there millions of people to love (forget your quest to zero in on Mr. or Ms. Right), but there are million of ideas, millions of causes, million of quests to fall in love with.

Take Dale Price, for example. This stay-at-home dad from American Fork, Utah, has spent the past three years waving at his high school son’s bus dressed in weird costumes, a different one every day. It started the first day of his son’s sophomore year when he realized the bus, for the first time, would drive down their street. Price greeted the bus (and his embarrassed son) that first day wearing a football helmet. From there, his creativity grew. He has waved at the bus dressed as Elvis, Fred Flintstone, Santa Claus and, once, a lampshade. He and Rain, the red-faced son, ended up on Good Morning America and the resulting blog, Wave at the Bus, has received millions of hits and raised money for Rain’s college fund, although his dad is quick to admit it may also end up being used for therapy.

Or take Matt Harding who fell in love with traveling. In 2003, while in Hanoi, his traveling buddy videotaped him dancing, a rather kooky arm-flapping, march popular with adolescent boys at middle school dances. And then he videotaped Matt dancing in Tonga. And in the Philippines, Mali and the Panama Canal. The video on the resulting “Where the Hell is Matt?” website shows a grinning Matt bouncing up and down in 69 countries. What’s more, the underlying, if unplanned message of unbounded human joy and connection comes across loud and clear.

“There are no words on the video and I’m not trying to get anybody to doing anything,” Harding say, “It just makes people happy.”

The point is, there are lots of ways to make people happy, lots of ways to love. Don’t sit around waiting for your soul mate. Be crazy with love. Love when it makes no sense. Love in all it bewildering ways, shapes and styles.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

The best parenting advice ever.

“Love gives us some pretty darn cool quantum powers.”—Greg Kuhn

My new favorite pastime while flying (at least when seatmates make it abundantly clear they don’t want to chat) is reading the New Yorker. Last week I read about a seven minute workout, custom cookie cutters made from a 3D printer and a 27-year old genius named Emerson Spartz who has already launched dozens of highly-successful websites.

His first, when he was 12, was Muggle.net, the most popular Harry Potter fan site in the world. It landed him on CNN and Fox News and J.K. Rowling even invited him to her estate in Scotland. Today, he has nearly 50 employees and raises millions in ad revenue every year. Did I mention he’s 27?

The thing about Emerson that most interested me was something his parents insisted upon when he was a kid. I have no idea if they made him pick up his room or eat vegetables. But there was one thing that was non-negotiable. He was required to read four short biographies of very successful people. Every single day.

In other words, his parents made it compulsory that he fill his mind with possibility, that he focus on success, that he learn about what a little creativity and vision can accomplish.

It’s like I always say: We animate into our lives whatever we place our attention upon.

Tell me in the comment section below what you’re going to place your attention upon this week.

And, just so you know, the E-Cubed Selfie Challenge will end on February 17, my birthday. So one thing on which to place your attention this week is the vision you want to create in your E-Cubed Selfie. If you’re new to the party, you can read about it here.

Make this week shine, my friends.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Don’t miss your blessings and signs from the universe

“Scientists are slowly waking up to an inconvenient truth – the universe looks suspiciously like a fix. It’s as if a super-intellect has monkeyed with physics.—Paul Davies

Carol Burnett, who won countless Emmys and Golden Globes during her 12-year tenure on CBS, used to pull on her earlobe during her variety show. It was a sign to her children, who were watching at home, that she loved them.

The universe, for those of us paying attention, is every bit as generous. It’s constantly sending us signs, constantly letting us know that, “Hey, it’s going to be okay. You’re all right. Life is here for your enjoyment.”

Pope Francis says that whenever he’s troubled or needing comfort, he sees a white rose. That’s his personal sign, directly from the Big Guy. My friend Annola is sent a crane—the bird, not the construction rig.

Blessings and signs such as these never end. Unfortunately, most of us aren’t paying attention. We’re too busy following the scripts and constructs we created to serve as our reality.

I’m lucky because I get cool stories sent straight to my inbox from readers who remind me daily of the world’s beneficence.

Here’s one that came in this weekend:

“I joined an E-squared group and had just started the first experiment. Got an unexpected retro check for over $300 I wasn’t expecting but that wasn’t the best part. Later that day my two kids and I went to the beach. I went down to the water’s edge to sing a water healing song and pray for the water. I was wishing I had some tobacco to offer with my prayers. I finished and headed back toward the kids. My eldest son was coming toward me following a seagull which had something in it’s beak. As I got closer, the seagull swung around and flew right toward me. I swear it looked right at me as it dropped it’s package on the ground in front of me. Not only was it a pouch of loose tobacco, it was the very brand (American Spirit) that I use for my prayers! Can you say mind blowing???!!”

I look forward to the day when stories like this are no longer mind-blowing. But simply cause us to nod, pump our fists in the air and say, “Well, duh!”

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Why I’m rooting for the Seattle Seahawks and why their new game strategy has the power to change the whole world

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I think this post from last Superbowl bears repeating. Who’s with me?

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“There are so many things telling you that you can’t do something but you take those thoughts captive, take power over them and change them.”—Russell Okung, Offensive Tackle for the Seattle Seahawks

I don’t consider myself a football fan. I’ve probably watched one game this entire season.

But I just found out (okay, so I’m probably late to the party) that the Seattle Seahawks meditate, that their coach Pete Carroll believes his players should quiet their mind and focus on the now moment and that their star quarterback regularly gets out a yoga mat.

Is this frickin’ awesome or what?

I mean this is a sport known for brutal behavior, where guys like Bear Bryant were ballyhooed for refusing to give water breaks, where coaches throw balls at player’s heads.

So when I found out that Pete Carroll is completely rewriting the sport of football, I got excited. It’s one…

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The world is your dance floor or why this weekend is destined to be the best weekend of your life

“I am abundant, proud, generous, unafraid, willing, welcoming, just as I am.”—Grace Bell
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I LOVE all the E-Cubed selfies that are coming in. It’s so exciting to see everyone’s vision for a new 2015.
The one featured here is photoshopped from Marcella from Italy who wants to meet Jon Kabat-Zinn.

As I’ve mentioned before, I’m incredibly blessed, so spectacularly lucky because I get reminders every single day about how bountiful the universe is. I get emails from readers who tell me their amazing stories.

Here are just a couple that have come in over the past few days:

From Fleur:

“My girlfriend told me about your first book but my local bookstore only had your new book so I google E2 vs E3 and watched only one video which was a minute long of an American man saying in the first book you do experiments where you for example say you’re going to see red Cadillacs and I had a fleeting thought of “well you wouldn’t say that here in Australia because we don’t have Cadillacs” then went on with my day.

“The next day I sat down and asked the universe to send me a sign that my visualizations were indeed in the making. I asked for a sign over the weekend that would leave me no doubt that it was from the Universe,

“Well about 30 minutes later I looked out the window and there stopped in front of our house was a blue Cadillac! Left hand drive and all! He then backed up into our neighbours driveway. I actually went out side to check I wasn’t imagining it.

“What makes this even more awesome is that we live in a gated community..at the end of a cul de sac! I see a maximum of about 5 cars a day and I know 4 out of 5 of those!

“It REALLY made me laugh :) And believe.”

From Joe:

Hi! Just letting you know that within less than 12 hours of me purchasing E2 and trying out the first experiment, I stumbled across the answer to a question I have been trying to discover for over a year. Truly amazed. Can’t wait to delve deeper! “

From Alissa:

“I have a bone to pick with you!…. Your book got me pregnant!… By page 40!

“I just got esquared and tried the first experiment the first day I got the book. So, experiment one, I asked for an unmistakable unexpected blessing within 48 hours. This is Wednesday, 1.30pm, so my deadline is Friday 16th January 1.30pm (today)Ha ha!! This is so funny.

“So as soon i as start reading the book I start to radiate light, love and happiness for the first time in several months. It caused an end to my gloom and I really started feeling positive. I walk down the street literally beaming from one ear to the next, a bit excited about my surprise. That night I pick up the newspaper and go to the car section to pull it out to cover the table with so my daughter can paint- what does it say on the cover page? In huge letters? Feeling positive. I laugh out loud and feel grateful for this affirmation.

“The next day I get a voicemail from my partner with a beautiful heartfelt message telling me he loves me and thinks I’m an amazing mother. So I think, ok, I’ve had a lovely affirmation and that is certainly an unexpected blessing (my partner rarely leaves messages like that and is a lot more hands than heart normally). But part of me thinks maybe there might be something more to come by Friday. It gets to Friday. I check the mail, check my phone, check my emails….nope, no unexpected blessings there.

“My period is late (but only by one day) my boobs are sore, I’m feeling nauseous. The possibility of being pregnant seems as likely in my mind as snow falling during a fiery summer heat wave ….my partner and I have only had sex twice in the last three weeks… and we used contraception. I think about it…An unexpected blessing… Hmmm… I decide it’s crazy but I will get a pregnancy test and decide to wait till my partner gets home so we can do it together. I go out to the shops, get the test and come home. And guess what? We cannot believe our eyes… It’s positive! And guess what time it is? To.the.minute…1.30pm Friday 16th January.

“It has been my hearts desire to have another child for years but after a failed pregnancy we have been waiting for the perfect time. Which, it seems God has chosen is now! “

And since it’s Friday, it’s time for another video. Have the best weekend of your life. And remember, it better have dancing.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic

Use this year’s 525,600 minutes to write a different story on your etch-a-sketch

“Refuse to be sidetracked into detours and illusions.”
—Course in Miracles

Sorry to be incommunicado for a spell. I’ve been out in Newport, Rhode Island, speaking at ATMI. I’m not sure what those letters stand for, but I do know this group of 500 tour directors and operators did a mean conga line right across the stage during my speech. It was the height of fun being snowed in with these really cool folks.

Just got back last night, but wanted to send a quick blog post–especially since I’ve I started fielding emails from subscribers who were worried they’d accidentally been dropped.

Never fear, oh fearless readers, I am back and, even though I’m about to start traveling again, I will check in with you here on the blog from time to time. Enjoy!

You’ve heard it a million times: George Santayana’s famous line that “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.”

I’d like to take this opportunity to point out that it is ONLY our remembrance of the past that condemns us to repeat it. If we got up every morning with a completely clean Etch-a-Sketch, with not an iota of an idea of how so and so reacts or which dangerous road we think our world is heading or even what the status of our financial situation is, we would be free to write a brand new story.

We are the creators of our reality, but, instead of using this oh-so-awesome gift, we have the tendency to create our reality based on the past. We get up each day and focus on the same-ole, same-ole we created yesterday.

What’s even worse is yesterday’s same-ole, same-ole is filtered through our fears and illusions so the “past we’re condemned to repeat” isn’t even accurate.

I think it’s also important to remind you that you are the captain of your thoughts, the boss of your etch-a-sketch and that, at any time, you can throw yesterday’s memories overboard. You can use your will to create a brand new reality. I mean, starting from scratch.

Nobody’s forcing you to focus on anything. You get to choose.

Why write the same old soap opera? Why assume today is going to be just like yesterday? Do you really know for certain that your boss is an a-hole? That your partner is going to defy your needs?

What if they only act like that because that’s what you draw out of them with old expectations? Why not decide right now to draw out a more pleasing reality. You get to choose. Always!

I’m a student of “A Course in Miracles.” Its main thesis boils down to forgiveness which doesn’t mean forgiving someone for yesterday’s wrong. It means letting yesterday go and not making the assumption that the blessed NOW will be a re-run.

There’s no reason it has to be except your decision to “remember the past.”

P.S. Get those E-Cubed selfies posted soon. You never know when I might decide to start passing out prizes.

There’s still time to enter the E-Cubed Selfie Challenge: the contest where everyone wins

“I love to think of nature as an unlimited broadcasting station, through which God speaks to us every hour, if we will only tune in.”– George Washington Carver

You might remember that quote from E-Cubed. It’s in the experiment about getting an important message from the natural world, the one about the Divine 24/7 Buzz.

In that chapter, I also mention the herd of African elephants who showed up at the home of their former advocate to pay respects after his untimely death.

Lawrence Anthony was a conservationist, an environmentalist, an author and he saved this particular herd of rogue elephants from slaughter at his Thula Thula game reserve in South Africa. You might have heard about his valiant effort during the Iraq war to save the animals at the Baghdad Zoo.

When he died unexpectedly of a heart attack on March 2, 2012, two herd of wild elephants that he rescued and rehabilitated somehow knew and trekked 12 hours through the Zululand bush, formed a circle around his home and honored him for an entire 48 hours. They hadn’t actually seen him in 18 months. How did they know?

The elephants, like all of us, are connected to this big universal life force, this Divine Buzz that wants to connect with us, wants to guide us, wants to bestow blessings.

Anymore, that’s about the only thing I’m interested in—the rest, as Einstein said, is just details.

Speaking of details, don’t forget to enter the E-Cubed Selfie Challenge. By tagging your selfies to my Facebook fan page, you’ll be entered to win such prizes as a cruise to Alaska and tickets to the four North American I Can Do It conferences.

I’ll be speaking at the upcoming Denver event in April and, if you’re so inclined, you can get your tickets here.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Why I’m rewriting Murphy’s Law

“Gratitude takes nothing for granted, is never unresponsive, is constantly awakening to new wonder. For the grateful person knows goodness, not by hearsay but by experience. And that is what makes all the difference.”–Thomas Merton

Murphy’s law, a famous adage that most of us live by, states that “Anything that can go wrong will go wrong.”

I, for one, beg to differ.

It is only our belief in problems that perpetuates the problem. Our constant struggle to awaken is the very obstacle to its accomplishment.

I was on a phone call yesterday with some readers who wanted to know what my process was. I almost felt guilty because I don’t know that I have a “process.” I don’t have a seven-step solution.

I just know that whenever I am being my mind’s bitch, I am not living in my natural state of joy. I am not living my Truth which is that I am already free and infinite.

Instead of looking for the next teacher, the next book, the next process, I would like to suggest that we spend time following the F.P’s. law that states: “Anything that can go right will go right.”

Once we start noticing all that is going right that is all we will see.

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

Take this easy quiz: How proficient are you at using the Law of Attraction?

“Over-explanation separates us from astonishment.”–Eugene Ionesco

If you didn’t catch this LOA quiz I wrote for the Good Vibe blog, here’s your big chance. I’ll be talking with Jeannette Maw, host of this groovy online party, at 4 EST this afternoon. Come say “hi!”

And now for the very first LOA quiz, run for the very second time:

When I was a teenager, I loved the quizzes in Seventeen magazine. I couldn’t wait to find out:

“Which fashion style best suits your taste?”

“What is your party personality?”

“Is he THE ONE?”

Even now, a day rarely goes by without one of my Facebook friends reporting the results of “Which member of the Beatles they are” or “Which Oprah quote should be their mantra.”

These quizzes are all in good fun and since good, delightful fun is one of my mantras (I didn’t even need Oprah to help figure that out), I’ve come up with the world’s first Law of Attractions Quiz.

To find out how adept you are at using this all-powerful law of the universe, answer these four questions:

1. Do you believe your thoughts create your reality?

a. Some of the time

b. All of the time

c. Only when you repeat an affirmation 568 times, visualize at least an hour a day and pray non-stop to a higher diety

d. Are you kidding me? I never get what I want.

2. Which of the following statements best matches your opening thought most mornings:

a. Oh shit, not again!

b. Yee-haw! A new opportunity for another Oscar-worthy production

c. Dang! Where is that hot brunette I was just dreaming about.

d. I’ve got to pee.

3. Which of the following most accurately describes your take on life:

a. It sucks and then you die.

b. It’s a test for what’s going to happen after you die.

c. It’s like an amusement park ride, sometimes exciting and sometimes it makes you want to die.

d. It’s a beautiful romp and death? It’s just a temporary illusory bump.

4. The universe is:

a. Limitless

b. Abundant

c. Strangely accommodating

d. All of the above.

Check your score here:

1. If most of your answers were “A”: You are a powerful creator, constantly using the law of attraction.

2. If most of your answers were “B”: You are a powerful creator, constantly using the law of attraction.

3. If most of your answers were “C”: You are a powerful creator, constantly using the law of attraction.

4. If most of your answers were “D”: You are a powerful creator, constantly using the law of attraction.

5. If you didn’t even take the quiz: You are a powerful creator, constantly using the law of attraction.

Okay, so it was a trick quiz. And I could have just told you going in: You can’t NOT use the law of attraction. To question whether or not you do is like questioning whether or not you use gravity.

So here are three questions I actually like better:

1. Given the fact that your thoughts, beliefs and expectations play the starring role in your life experience, did you get up this morning and consciously create your day?

2. Did you get up this morning and purposely decide what kind of day you were going to have?

3. If not, what’s stopping you?

Pam Grout is the author of 17 books including E-Squared: 9 Do-it-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality and the just-released sequel, E-Cubed, 9 More Experiments that Prove Mirth, Magic and Merriment is your Full-time Gig.

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